I've been with my boyfriend or fiance, as he likes to call it, for 2 years now. We've been through crazy ups and downs and I think I still love him, but I know I'm not in love with him anymore. I guess what the problem really is is that I've never been alone before & I'm comfortable with him. I've recently caught him talking to another girl. He claimed that this girl was the wife of a long time friend, and when I talked to this girl to find out what the deal was, she told me that my man was crazy because she just started talking to him and he started stalking her!! Wife of a friend huh? Yeah right! Another Lie! All of this got back to his company, he lost his job, house and company vehicle and claims that he is so sorry and loves me and really wants to marry me. He said he has no idea why he did it, he just did. I am so heart broken! Should I move on or give him another chance? Oh yeah, and by the way, this isn't the first time he's lied and I've caught him red handed!
2007-07-26 08:50:54 · 17 answers · asked by Stephanie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If they cheat, they always cheat, and this was cheating. Do yourself a favor and find a guy who will fill your heart, not break it.
2007-07-26 08:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by conductorbrat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and take this as a lesson learned. We've all been there it will just make you stronger and learn to appreciate when the right one comes along. You may not feel good leaving now and you may not even take our advice but I am sure we will all tell you the same. When it's right you will know. If you don'e love him leave now. I have so many friends in your situation that stayed together and then had kids and are now together because of the kids and it is the saddest thing because you know they are not happy. Cut your losses now. He will more than likely continue cheating and you could end up stuck.
2007-07-26 15:56:51 · answer #2 · answered by meli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't trust him then. You can let him know that you need a break and when he has his life together give ya a call. By then he will have moved on and you would be better off for it. Nothing wrong with being alone. Will give you some time to know what you really want in a man.
2007-07-26 15:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this isn't the first time, why are you still considering giving him another chance. You said you aren't in love with him anymore. If that is the truth, it is time to spread your wings and move on. Good luck. I'm sure it will be scarey, but you will be fine.
2007-07-26 15:55:20 · answer #4 · answered by Terri Klapperich 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer is to move on, yet how to do it is something you are going to have to figure out. Your going to be lonely for awhile, but it will get better i promise. I think you need to find your independence and assure yourself what you will and will not settle for.
ps going through the same thing now
2007-07-26 15:57:10 · answer #5 · answered by dtndtt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, he's done it before too? Well.. you can either smarten up and realize what he is.. or..
you can wait for a year or more to find that he's going to get the third strike and then what... you gonna whine again or get up and move on with your life without him as baggage.
The ball is in your court.
2007-07-26 21:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying be an @ss here...but read your question again and take a long slow look at the last sentence....you already answered your question...Hang in there and trust your gut instinct...Good Luck!
2007-07-26 16:04:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try to be alone for a while especially if you aren't in love with him anymore. Don't waste anymore time with him. It sounds like he has some problems.
2007-07-26 15:56:00 · answer #8 · answered by Alli 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice: drop him like a rock. You cannot trust a man who cannot even hold on to a job. He is a loser now, and he will always be a loser if he does not grow up!
2007-07-26 16:02:23 · answer #9 · answered by coldrain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to let go.Why hold on to something that isn't worth holding on to?There are many more precious things out there waiting for you,and you might never find out what it is if you keep letting him hold you back.
2007-07-26 15:56:34 · answer #10 · answered by anonymous45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋