I’m in a dilemma. My brother-in-laws and their wives are coming next month to our area and they are expecting me to go out with them one night for dinner. Problem is, they are hot-tempered alcoholics and have ruined every dinner out for the past 5 years for me. Asking them to curb back on their drinking so I can enjoy myself isn’t going to work and I just don’t want to spend hard earned money on a night where the police are almost getting involved with our party. To keep the peace, I told my husband that I am going to tell them a white lie on the morning of the outing, that a friend from work lost their mother and I have to attend the wake. My husband says that’s sounds too suspicious and I don’t because these kinds of events happen all the time. Any suggestions?
2007-07-26 08:33:43 · 13 answers · asked by DAR76 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can't use "Death" for a little white lie. I'm always afraid I will cause something bad to happen for reals. So, instead, I use them on myself. For example, I've come down with something and am feeling ill. OR...something came up at work, and I have to take care of it. OR...you could just say you can't go and not give a reason. Who says you have to?
2007-07-26 08:38:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why doesn't your husband handle his brothers. If each dinner is so bad, he should speak up and say that the two of you don't wish to be part of it. You should never be expected to join anyone in anything that makes you uncomfortable and your husband needs to back you on this. Honesty is really the best way to deal with these issues. Lies are too hard to keep up. If the in-laws don't care to speak to you any longer, it just makes the possiblity of future such evenings a moot point.
2007-07-26 08:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by dawnb 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Whatever you do it has to be last minute so they don't "postpone" for your sake. If you work and it's a workday, you have to work late at the office. Leave it at that, or say you'll meet them later. When they ask why you didn't show up, say you were exhausted and had a bad headache. This is a situation where you have to lie because they aren't going to agree to a non-alcoholic restaurant w/promises to bar hop later. I can't use death either for fear it would come true. If you don't work, use the last minute sickness excuse.
2007-07-26 08:47:29 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly773 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You would be better off telling them that a few days before it takes a few days to set something like that up. You can also tell them you are sick with the flu and high fever. You had to leave town for work? Or your mother is sick and needs you to run some meds over to her. You have to work late and will try to make dinner but, don't show up. If you have children one of them is sick and you can't leave with a baby sitter. You can't find a baby sitter for the kids. You got held up at work then got a flat tire go ahead you will try to make it....
2007-07-26 08:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't feel so bad about a little white lie to get out of having a bad night filled with drunks and possibly police.
You sound smart to me.
Drunkeness is not everyone's cup of tea.
2007-07-26 09:17:20 · answer #5 · answered by kim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one! Maybe you could go for just a little while, before they get too far gone with the drinking. Suddenly get to feeling poorly (Maybe something you just ate? lol) so that you have to go home. If that doesnt work then just tell your hubby that your not gonna go, that they drink too much and you dont want to waste your money on a night out with drunkin fools!
Good luck, I hope you can get out of it!
2007-07-26 08:42:02 · answer #6 · answered by ~Jen~ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As I have told my sister who is hot tempered and no alcohol involved.....Your mean and you are mean to your husband and I am sick of it.......I am not hanging out you so that I can listen to your mouth.......The truth is powerful and I have kept my end of the bargain......
I just told the truth......It didn't phase her last year when she came to town at Christmas, but it did phase her when she came home this summer.......I meant it......and I was not going to lie......
2007-07-26 08:53:39 · answer #7 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Called into work, childhood friend in hospital, severe stomach cramps, migraine, toothache, diarrhoea, Norwalk virus, sudden profound religious conversion (booze is the devil's work and all you sinners will burn in HELL!)
2007-07-26 08:41:13 · answer #8 · answered by Duncan w ™ ® 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell them that you ate something that did not agree with your stomach. you have been in the bathroom since six this morning, tell them you are also running a fever, dehydrated, sore, and you just feel like dieing. bd
2007-07-26 08:38:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
quickly find a good rest in the area that does not serve alcohol. take them there for supper and then tell them you plan on going to a bar afterwards. after dinner, get a belly ache.
2007-07-26 08:36:49 · answer #10 · answered by Yes I am here!! 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋