For those in a successful marriage, how did you and your spouse meet? If you were friends first, did you ever think it would be more than friends? Also, how long after you were together did you realize that your bf/gf was THE ONE you were going to spend the rest of your life with. Please share :)
2007-07-26 08:13:19 · 11 answers · asked by Sarah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My spouse and I met in a department store. I was working there to supplement my teaching income because I was a single mom. He was shopping. When we first met, he asked me very pointed questions, the kind that indicate that he has definite standards that he will not compromise. I am a very blunt person and was impressed with his candor. It also didn't hurt that I thought he was gorgeous! We had some really obscure things in common right off the bat, and that alone was enough to keep me interested, and I think it kept him interested, too. Because he was so candid, I felt comfortable asking my "deal breaker" questions early on, too, so we were pretty certain right away that the other person wouldn't be eliminated on any of the big things. I still thought that he wouldn't have any kind of long-term interest in me, but was hoping we would be friends, because I thought he was incredible, and he had my major qualifiers -- good morals, intelligence, good job, and a large frame. (I do not like short/scrawny/wimpy guys.) It was a second marriage for both of us and neither of us ever intended to marry again, because our first experiences had been so awful. However, I knew within two weeks that we were going to marry. As my husband would say, "Everthing just clicked." We did wait nine months to actually marry, but I was committed to him for life long before that.
2007-07-26 08:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by conductorbrat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I first met my wife in college. We were in a few classes. She was married to her ex at the time so I didn't approach, but I wanted to!
After I graduated, I moved away for about 10 years. Then I had the chance to come back, and was just browsing the Yahoo Personals (that's not a plug, it's the truth), and there she was. We hooked up, and 3 weeks into it, we knew.
Been married 5 years now, and completely happy!
2007-07-26 08:17:19 · answer #2 · answered by Frinn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I met my wife while we were both in college. Both of us non-traditional students (she was 35 at the time 2002) In this class We had to pick someone to work with for the semester. Being that we weren't tradition student, in dorms, knowing everyone like most of the kids, we didn't pick anyone so he picked for us. Both of our names were alphabeticly next to eachother. so he made us work together.
We became good friends. We'd hang out together, meet for lunch sometimes, wathc a movie together. I thought she was beautiful and great. It took about 6 months of all of this before I finnaly kissed her. We were ut a bar, she got alittle "happy" from the boose. Kissed me on the cheek once, then angain on the other cheek (friendly kisses). When she went in for the thrid kiss couple minutes later I turned my head and kissed her. She was Stunned!!! After she processed what just happend, she kissed me, this time more passionately.
That night I took her home, kissed her good night and went home myself. Didn't sleep together or anything. Just kept it innocent. The next day we talked, met up again. And I really let her know how I felt about her. She said she felt the same way, but was afraid to do anything abuot it, and was glad I actually broke the ice.
The rest is history. We got married in 2005, and we're living happy and content now.
2007-07-26 08:26:38 · answer #3 · answered by Sean C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I met on Match.com and were only going to meet as friends at first after being burned a few times from people we met on there; we ended up hitting it off and just got married 7/14/07. I think I realized he was THE ONE a few times...the first time we held hands that first night; when the Red Sox started winning the ACLS 3 years ago then won the World Series. (the night before they stared to win was when we started to date.) and then a few months later when I got really sick at his place and he took care of me. (held my hair while I threw up, drew me a bath and stayed with me while I took it, encouraged me to eat even if I couldn't hold it down, and made sure I was okay in the middle of the night when I woke up.) He's the best man he can be to me, and I love him to death.
2007-07-26 08:26:09 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her sister's husband introduced us. Before I ever met her, he told me, "I sure would like to have you for a brother-in-law". I just laughed at him, but I liked her from the day I met her. We dated for only 6 months before I asked her to marry me, then we married a year after that. Now, we've been married for 21 years, and I wouldn't trade her for any other woman in the world.
2007-07-26 08:20:44 · answer #5 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Married 15 years, almost all of them happy, but happier than ever now. Met in college. Dated, broke up, dated, broke up, dated broke up, dated, graduated, shacked up, married. I suppose I never had a moment of eye opening love. We grew with each other and still are. We are friends now, more than ever. We talk about stuff most couples never would. We do things most couples will tell you destroy marriages. We accept each other now for who we are.
2007-07-26 08:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by javelin 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Met my husband through some friends. We were good friends for roughly 4 years. He was interested - I told him I would never date him. Then literally one day it just clicked. We dated for a year and a half and were engaged another year and a half.
2007-07-26 08:17:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it was lust at first sight and from then on we lusted and dated and one day it hit us both that we loved each other.. He told me he loved that he had never met a girl like me... we have been in love and married for the last 23 yrs and we cont to lust after each other;as well,as love each other.....
2007-07-26 08:35:56 · answer #8 · answered by MJ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
True story:
I was married to a man who physically abused me.
He was married to a woman who verbally abused him.
I started doing drugs to ease my pain.
He started selling drugs to get away.
He was my dealer.
We became really close and began an affair.
He left his wife, I left my husband.
We dated for 3 years, I stopped doing drugs, he stopped selling, we got married, had a family and lived happily ever after.
Weird huh!?
2007-07-26 08:24:43 · answer #9 · answered by izzymo 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
we met through a mutual friend. we dated about six months when i realized he was the one. we've been married 23 yrs.
2007-07-26 08:29:10 · answer #10 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋