parents STILL won't let me have a myspace?

Question

so my parents got me my own computer in my room last year for my birthday (in June). they told me not to go on any sites where i can talk to people (including myspace). well, disobeying that rule, this past march i created my first acount. less than two months later, my older brother found out that i had an account and he busted me. ever since then my parents moved my computer out to the den so they could see what i go on. what they don't know is that i created a new account, i go on it when they're not home. i've tried OVER and OVER agian telling them that i was being safe on it. my profile was private, i put up a code so that nobody can see where i live, how old i am, or what gender i am. i dont put my name up, and i only add people i KNOW. i just want them to understand that i am careful when it comes to myspace but all they're worried about are stalkers and predators. how do i convince them that myspace is ok? this is the only way i can rlly talk to my friends..plz help!

well that makes sense, you're 13 and the age to have a myspace is 14. but i'm 15 and im not allowed to have one. so i think it's unfair. =[

haha K.D. good point....but the thing is they know about yahoo answers and they don't mind. that's the confusing part about it

Answer 1

parents block out myspace for a reason. they know how perverted and devious people can get. Don't learn the hard way.

I had a friend that had a private page too, someone broke into it and posted remarks about people they knew.
those people ended up meeting my friend in the driveway with two baseball bats.

he and his girlfriend both received reconstructive surgery for their faces and the police we're involved on all sorts of levels.

I enjoy talking to people on the internet myself, but refuse to even let myself on that site.

I'm an adult and do what I wish......... I wish to remain safe.

Answer 2

I kind of understand with Myspace, while it is unfair. Myspace is a very dangerous site with many predators who don't care if your space is private.You did disobey your parents making them have a lack of trust in you. What you could do is have a meeting with your parents about myspace. Let them know that you were wrong to go behind their backs but you could do some compromises. If you still wanted to have myspace that bad you could tell your parents you are willing to give them your password and they could see how safe you were acting and they could make sure every once in a while that you were safe. However, it isn't that much fun to have your parents in on your social life.

Answer 3

In all kinds of parenting magazines, there are articles about the dangers of the internet. These highlight the dangers of MySpace, such as "Your child puts all kinds of info on their profile" and "it asks for their city and name" and "they can easily get away with lying about their age".

What you should do is ask them to write down exactly why they think MySpace is unsafe. They'll come up with stuff like that. Then, you tell them that you've hidden your city, age, and didn't put your name in (and if you did, tell them that no one can see it: It just finds your MySpace for people who already KNOW your name). Tell them that your profile is private, meaning that only people who YOU add (don't say "add me" say, "that I add") can see it. With all the hype about MySpace stalkers, parents can fall into it and think MySpace is more dangerous than it really is. If they're still worried, ask them to create a fake MySpace account and check it all out, and see how many stalkers send them messages.

perk2u_wi, I don't think anyone she's added is going to go around giving her info to stalkers. And have you ever had a MySpace? Because friends of someone's friends can't see their profile.

The thing about MySpace is that if you want to give out information and be found, it's very easy to. But it's very easy to HIDE all the information too. There are billions of MySpace users. It'll be very hard to just pick someone out of that, and they're going to pick someone who gives out their city or at least has their profile public.

Answer 4

Give me your brother's e-mail and ill help you out.

You are never safe from any predator whether you hide-your-address-at-myspace / Do-not-hide-it / Use-Myspace / Do-not-use-it / Go-to-school / you get the point.....


The concept of saying you can protect yourself is absolute bullshit unless you know some judo or muay thai.

Predators are almost everywhere and looking for every possible way to get to you.

Using myspace or any other online networking services only increases the risk of being confronted by a predator.

If you only add people you know then you dont need myspace as it is your lucky day and they have just invented instant messaging.

Lets face it more than 90% of myspace users are either single and/are looking for dates and a few of them are predators.

I think your parents are right and YOU need to understand THEM before you want them to reciprocate.

Also if you really think you can protect yourself from pedophiles/rapists/sadists/etc... while remaining on myspace its time you have a chat with them and tell them you are intelligent, you love them, and you have a lot of self respect and intelligence so as to not allow sex hungry people to get to you.

cya.

Answer 5

I'm 16 and I'm not allowed to have one! My parents watch the news *way* too much. They hear about those girls who are foolish enough to meet older men that they talk to on MySpace. Those dumb girls just HAVE to ruin the fun for responsible people...
And it's also actually safe, since MySpace has that private lock so you only have to share your profile with friends. What I told my parents is "You don't trust your own kid?"...didn't work anyways...

Answer 6

Don't think you couldn't become a victim just because you think you have hidden your personal information. You have to remember something here, you have added your "Friends", but how do you know your friends are careful with knowledge about you ? Once your added to their Network, you become the friend of all the weird creepy friends they have.

You have already proven to everyone here, that you are not a trustworthy person yourself by admitting you have lied to your parents and created another MySpace account without their knowledge. If your this untrustworthy, so must be your friends because Birds of a Feather flock together..... so as you see, your not safe at all. Delete your account and be happy you did. If the creepy people do not get you, virus, spyware and trojans will. How are you going to explain that to your parents when they have to take your computer into a repair shop to get a bad infection off your system, and the tech tells them it came from MySpace ???

Answer 7

As a parent of a pre-teen I fully understand your parents worrying about one of the horrible things we all hear about everyday on the news happening to you.

However, since you went behind their back (which I don't advocate at all) and already have a new account and from your description of the way you handle your account I feel it is very important for you to talk with them again on the subject and explain your side and the measures to which you go to try to insure your safety. Keeping in mind - they are your parents and it is their responsibility to raise you & keep you safe to the best of their ability. Please don't try to sabotage them in this.

I feel it VERY important for you to not continue to sneak behind their back, though. Just think if something DID happen and they found out about your account later. That would devestate them even further!

As far as mySpace not being safe at all, I feel that is not true either. True they recently caught thousands of child predators and discontinued those accounts. And thank God for that! That shows me that mySpace is not only concerned about this issue but is actually taking active measure to help stamp out this blight where they find it.

Just keep your wits about you, talk to your parents on an adult level, don't be surprised if they are not pleased with you creating another account, PLEASE abide by their decision and try to remember - if you would like to be treated as a responsible adult you must first behave as one. I mean they are most likely going to find out about your new acct. sooner or later anyway, so why bring further stress to the matter. Talk to them ASAP.

Answer 8

Tell them the folks at Y!A say it's alright to have a myspace.

And a good way to put the battle in your favor is to include something about you loving your parents and providing a special section where you thank them and everything, its all about the charm. Parents have their mind set on their intentions, and the only thing to change that is to go to their hearts.

Answer 9

Sounds like they don't trust you very much. Try saying "Please, just give me a chance! You have no proof or evidence that a stalker or a predator is going to get me!" or something similar.

Also say a stalker isn't going to find out where you live by looking at picture of you.

Say that if someone you don't know sends you message, you will ignore it "in case it's a predator".

Answer 10

Myspace is not a safe place. Especially if you can't be trusted to follow the rules & obviously you can't if you have your 2nd account behind your parents back.