child access?

Question

hi 10 yrs ago i splite up with my childrens father and they ended up staying with him . in those yrs he made it hard for me to see them . then my ex decided that my kids should stay with his parents which i have never been happy about i agreed at first and then was told that it was for good . i was not happy about it and tryed to get my children back and living with me as i still think they would be better of with me . the granparents are being ok about acces but i know if i pushed it they would stop me from seeing them does anyone know if i should seek legal advice so i can have regular acces . im not trying to be difficult i just want to see them more then once a year and i know they want to see me as well as they asked to come and stay for a week .they asked if they could stay longer but the grandparents have said no is this fair and where do i stand with my rights i still have parental control and so does the father and the grand parents have rights but im not sure should iask

Answer 1

You should definately never ever give up on your children I am in a similar position to this. I have had no access whatsoever to my children who I love very much for 10 years now. I would never have stopped them seeing their father but I deeply regret having the children with the man I had them with and would never go out with any man who resembled him in anyway. He has stolen 10 years of my childrens childhood knowing I could never ever have another child again. I advise women to make vidios and dvd every year for their children so they do know the truth in the end. I have also written a book about my case. I adore my children and everything I work for is for them. There are some things in this life that should never ever be forgiven and men who do things like this is one of them. I never ever wanted my children to experience any of this but just because a man starts something does not mean he has a right to end it. The court always said I was a good mother and has never given me a reason why they have refused all contact. I would never ask a man or beg any man for anything and this is what my husband wanted he thought I would take him back (he was wrong) I lived 12 miserable years with him. I have now been very happily divorced for 20 years. But I still love and care about my children very much and will never give up on them. I am proud of every single thing they acheave in their own right. I was very young very stupid and very naive when I met this horrible man who has stolen my childrens childhood with the help of the british Court system.

Answer 2

Talk to your ex-husband first, and see if you can come to an arrangement that you are more happy with. I mean surely if he's palmed them off on their grandparents he can't be that responsible can he, also I would say it's better that they are with a parent than a grandparent. If you get nowhere with that, then go to a family lawyer, I should think you have quite a good case, though I'm no expert.

Answer 3

I dont know what state you reside in, but the fact that you basically quit taking care of your kids 10 years ago is sure not going to help you in court. The grandparents actually have a decent case of terminating parental rights. You definately should speak to a lawyer. Most State bars have a referral program so that your initial consultation is very cheap. In Texas its $20.

Answer 4

First if i was you i would speak to your ex partner and explain how you feel and that you want to see more of your children, then i would go and speak to the grandparents and tell them the same, if you get no luck with either than i would most definately be seeking legal advise.

Answer 5

Firstly it's quite rare for the man to have residency of the children. Courts always sided with the mother and gave residency to them. I don't know your personal circumstances so can only assume you was not the best parent for the children to stay with at the time of the split.

You HAVE to get the solicitors and courts involved. That is the only way to gain fair access of your children. I've been through it myself. (I am a male, using my current girlfriends yahoo) It took about six months for a court appearance, after I first contacted a solicitor. My ex was completely ignoring every attempt of mine to contact her and arrange access on my own. I HAD to get solicitors involved. She couldn't ignore them. If she had, she would have been forced to attend court.

Anyway, I ended up with a court order which stated that I should have access to my children every second weekend with overnight contact and one evening a week for two hours.

YOU MUST GO TO A FAMILY SOLICITOR. If there are any child safety or protection issues related to them seeing you though, expect to have a harder time. But even so, you would get access to them via a contact centre.

good luck.

Answer 6

if you still have parental rights waht is the problem
tell them that you will be seeing your children every fortnight from now on
I think they will head for a lawyer as they will be frightened that you paln to take your children back but you would have a good case to see them mjre often as the gp's have not gone for paternal control before.
i think you need to try and sort this out amicably but make it clear that you want to see more of them and that you are going to.

Answer 7

Well unless his parents have legal guardianship over your kids, then as you have parental control over them then there is nothing they can do stop you taking your kids back to live with you.

If they are their legal guardians then you will have to go to court to get the matter resolved.

Answer 8

hire a lawer and brace yourself for a long bloody futile fight that won't do anyone (least of all your kids) any good

or spend your vacation money on the grandparents, send them to the beach somewhere, and spend those weeks with the kids....bribery basicly

Answer 9

CONSULT AN ATTORNEY!! In most states grandparents do not have those kind of rights. You should FIGHT for your children and try to regain custody!