What do you think of a husband who won't bother to try to fix his premature ejaculation problem? I have mentioned this briefly over the years and he has done nothing. I even tried the email route, nothing. If this were a true medical problem with no solution, I would be OK with it, but it is not. This is really effecting our marriage. What to do?
2007-07-26 06:42:16 · 22 answers · asked by DELETE ME 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is probably too embarrassed to go to the Dr. I made the appt for my hubby and I went with him. he would last only about 5 min or so then it would be over or it would nt stay up. I was getting really frustrated.. So we went and he now uses Cialis.........WOW!!!!!!!WHAT A DIFFERENCE. Maybe your hubby is all about himself? Sounds to me he either doesnt care(as long as he gets his)or he is too embarrassed. Have you tried sitting down with him and really telling him how it affects YOU? He needs to take care of your needs first. then he can get his rocks off. Sometimes I dont let my hubby enter me untill The time is just right if you know what I mean. Lots of forplay and oral goes a long long way! Dont let his thing go near you until YOU are almost there! I told my hubby to make me literally beg for it and that was some of the best sex we ever had. Have you tried desensitisers? Have him wear a condom? he sounds like Jim from American pie. Im not sure if he even get to intercourse before blowing. if so, im sorry for you. make the appt yourself and go with him. he is not the only one!
2007-07-26 07:10:02 · answer #1 · answered by teena662002 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-19 22:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl my fiance had this problem back when I dated men..LOL
and it was horrible. I got so tired of him that there was no need to get undressed because it was always over before it started.
Because you have already tried to communicate this to your spouse that it's a major problem and he doesn't seem to care, I would go for drastic measures. Tell him that he better go to the doctor and do something about or you will cut him off from sex completely. And if he still doesn't do anything then tell him you will leave.
In a marriage both partners are supposed to satisfy each others needs. He's not fulfilling his end of the bargain. If it was you that wasn't trying to give it up you best believe he would be stepping out.
Help him find solutions to his problem.
2007-07-26 06:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by honeyb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use the Vydox product referred to by that Edward LeBlanc doctor guy on here, and it works like a Charm. For some time I was unable to achieve a decent hard-on.. and if I did, it was ever rarely fully erect. On top of that, I would always ejaculate after only a few minutes of stimulation. It was embarrassing as fvck. One day I remember seeing a commercial on TV talking about Vydox, which sparked my interest. They only charge S&H for the first Month's supply to test it out. So I did. I haven't had much of any problem since. I hear doing these things called "Kegal" exercises can also help a great deal.
2015-02-04 11:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-01-16 02:09:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-15 06:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have sex twice.
the first time quickly, so that he orgasms and then take a 20 minute break or so...give backrubs or chat during that time.
It sounds as if your husband probably doesn't masturbate much because he wouldn't orgasm so quickly if he orgasmed more often.
But then, I'm no guy, so I'm not sure.
There's also tantric sex exercises, that are about holding a plateau of pleasure without orgasming. Maybe you and your husband could read up on this stuff, but he has got to want to wait to orgasm...it sounds like he is simply selfish, especially since you have been together for years and he isn't a teenage boy having his first experience.
There's nothing wrong with him, and a doctor isn't going to be able to do anything about this! lol
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2016-03-31 21:39:51 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to put your foot down. This is the type of conflict that can grow and grow and lead to divorce. Most likely, he is very embarrassed about it. There are many treatments and ways to improve the situation. I suggest you sit down with him and tell you have something important and serious to discuss with him. Tell him you love him but that you would be much more full filled in your marriage if he would seek medical attention about his sexual staying power.
Maybe you can show him information from websites that talk about how treatable the problem is. You can promise him you won't tell anybody.
If you still resists, you have to play hard ball and tell him you will leave if he doesn't fix the problem. You may want to go ahead and make the doctor appointment for him to make things super easy for him.
2007-07-26 06:49:27 · answer #10 · answered by Ken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I left, After 10 years of being married to the 30 second man, I couldn't take just feeling like a hole. He wouldn't bother to seek help or do exercises to control the muscle (which my man now does, so it is possible by the way). And I wasn't the one who mentioned it, he did. He just progressively got worse blaming me saying it was an inability to orgasm. (which wasn't true, I orgasmed just fine without him) I even suggested a little more foreplay for me, and I'd be satisfied with that....he didn't want to bother. He just wanted to climb on pump up and down a couple of times and climbe off. Finally I just realized sex is about two people together, anything else is jacking off.
2007-07-26 06:55:52 · answer #11 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋