Wife says no, I say yes, any ideas??
2007-07-26 06:37:47 · 33 answers · asked by Blue 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
The doctor can tell you and keep the answer from your wife if that would make you guys both happy. I found out because I wanted to start buying things right away, and it was a smart decision because my son showed up 9 weeks early. You are so busy when your baby is first born, and it's hard to shop when you are holding a newborn. There are some items out there that are for either sex, but if I were to have a girl I would want her room to be in pink instead of yellow. You have to do what is best for you both and the baby. If you would like to know, you could agree that you would purchase some clothing and keep it hidden at work or in your car. Your wife might not like it if you know and she doesn't though. Sometimes women forget that it's the man's child too. You have a say in things like knowing the sex, naming the baby, ect. It's 50% yours, so try to calmly come to an agreement about it. If I were you I'd say something sweet like, "I'm so excited about the baby, and I just can't wait to start getting ready for him or her. I can't wait!" Good luck talking to your wife. I hope you get the gender you're hoping for.
2007-07-26 06:46:07 · answer #1 · answered by Pregnant with Baby #2 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here's the thing. Even if you do find out, per ultrasound, that is not always 100% accurate. I have known of many people who find out the sex and then when baby comes, "Oh, wow, now we have a pink nursery for a boy."
I have four little boys and still bought a few girl things each time, for that "just-in-case".
That said, if you want to find out and can keep it from your wife, great. If you're not a secret keeper-don't find out, register for a little of boy/girl things, buy a little of each if you are not planning on a shower, and in the end, when you have the baby you can return/exchange the items for the given gender.
Also when doing a nursery there are enough unisex ideas out there that you and your wife can have fun decorating for either boy or girl.
Hope this helps and Congratulations on your new little one to be.
2007-07-26 08:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by SweetPea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is your first and you're not too concerned with buying everything right now, I would say no. If you already have a child, it might help to find out so that you can start going through the other child's things and figuring out whether you can use their baby stuff or you have to get new stuff. We found out with both of ours but had friends who didn't find out with their first and I think either way is fine. Most of all you need to be sensitive to your wife's emotions since they're all over the place right now, so if it really is a deal-breaker for her, then I would say don't do it. And definitely don't arrange it so you find out and she doesn't because you won't be able to keep it from her... you might slip up and then she'll be mad.
2007-07-26 06:46:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with finding out the sex of the baby. You'll find that friends and family will hope you find out the sex because then they have an easier time buying gifts. However, remember that if you didn't find out, you'd be giving up one of the biggest surprises of your life. How often do you get to be surprised this big? Never. Not knowing adds to the anticipation and excitement. Not only are you excited about having a baby and meeting the baby for the first time, but you get to say, "what is it?" and the dr. or nurse will look and say, "it's a BOY/GIRL!!!" We didn't find out with both my kids and it was so exciting.
2007-07-26 06:43:52 · answer #4 · answered by annamartin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's an individual choice. However, if money for baby stuff and decorating a nursery is a factor, then I think it's a good idea. The other good thing is if there's certain traditions (i.e. circumscision in boys) involved that need to be discussed beforehand. Some people say do everything generic because this is truly the ONLY surprise you'll really have in your lifetime, but I don't totally agree.
2007-07-26 06:44:43 · answer #5 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With out first we didn't find out. It was fun having my Husband tell me what she was when she came out. It was also sooo much fun giving people a call after we had out daughter. We were able to tell them it was a girl. It was fun!!!
Also, at the baby shower, we got very nice and practical gifts that were more useful then cute little outfits. The gifts that we got, lasted so much longer then a 0-3 month outfit.
We went out and bought several outfits for each sex, and after the baby was born my mom went and washed the girl clothing. Then went and returned the little boy clothing.
I would say wait. Your wife is the one carrying the baby! I would say let her choose if she wants to find out or not.
2007-07-26 06:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by Umm Selma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife want to be surprised let her. If you can keep your mouth shut, ask the doc to write it on a piece of paper and put it in an envelope and you can open it when your wife isn't around.
My cousin and his GF had no idea they were going to have a girl, so they painted the room in pink and blue. (they hate yellow and green decor). They got a few very practical gifts and she bought most of the baby's newborn stuff at garage sales. When they had the baby girl, she donated all the boy stuff to someone else.
2007-07-26 07:05:29 · answer #7 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I agree with you. Finding out the sex durring pregnancy is so much easier. You can plan so much better. From names to circumcision to clothing and decor. Also, you can say "my son" or "my daughter" instead of "the baby" and refer to him or her as a him or her instead of it. Everything seems much more real once you know the sex. There are so many things up in the air, and so many wait and sees that it is nice to have one thing be a her and now fact. I can understand her wanting to be suprised, but why not be suprised now?
2007-07-26 06:47:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. There is a possibility that they will get the gender wrong. I have heard this before and also read in a pregnancy mag. a first hand account of this happening. The woman said she had a hard time adjusting to her baby since she thought it was going to be a girl and turned out to be a boy.
2007-07-26 06:44:25 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs.P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im with u it would be a great idea to find out the sex of the baby so u can have the nursery ready and the baby clothes.
or u can just ask the doctor to tell u what it is and u'r wife can just wait tilll he/she is born
2007-07-26 06:41:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋