what do you guys think of asking your man to marry you? we have been together for over a year and we are now living together. i know that he is waiting to ask until he can afford a ring for me, but that doesn't really matter to me. i love him so much and i want to ask him. obviously, i have nothing to give him either, but i still want to ask. if you think it is a good idea, do you have any suggestions of how to go about it. he will be out of town on business next week, so i do have awhile to plan for when he gets back..thanks to all in advance!
2007-07-26 06:28:30 · 12 answers · asked by nytengayle13 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My wife of 30 nearly 30 years, asked me to marry her. I was please to say yes.
Women get diamonds for engagement rings, but I bet you didn't know that the egagement ring for a man is tiger eye. that is what my wife gave me when she asked.
2007-07-26 06:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by mikeae 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well... Let me warn you that it is kind of a "guy" thing. Not that rules cannot be broken... but if you do it, he may feel emasculated. Traditionally, the guy is supposed to ask the woman he wants to be with if she'll marry him. Even more traditionally, after the woman says yes and is wearing a ring, she would typically go out and buy him a nice watch or someting like of that ilk that he can wear in place of a ring for the time being. (because the guy doesn't wear one until the nuptials)
All I am saying is that you might want to ask him and see how he feels about it first... He might be cool with it... it might take some of the pressure off him. Cool. But he also might feel angry, or frustrated. You wouldn't want that. I would broach it in conversation before you actually do it.
Hope this helped.
2007-07-26 06:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by just nate 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men have traditionally asked women to marry them. That is true, but it is because up until the 1900s women were considered the property of men.
There is no reason for you to hold back from asking him to marry you. Offer to take him out to dinner to a nice quiet restaurant and get a corner table. You can reserve the table in advance by telling the restaurant what you are up to.
Ask him to marry you at the table.
I used the male tradition of getting down on one knee, but there are no rules in proposing. If you both drink, then you might want to order champagne first. Since my wife and I already had our champagne on the table, we were able to toast to our engagement.
The dessert chef was so kind as to write congratulations in chocolate around our dessert plates. It was a wonderful night.
Take care,
Troy
2007-07-26 06:51:41 · answer #3 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there.......
Don't do as I did.
We went to the jewlrey store and put it on layaway.....we both paid on the ring and we got it in about a year.....
The only thing is that he still is upset because he knew I had paid for it as well as he did...he wanted it to be from him.
Second I new when the thing came out and I insisted of wearing it asap!
I should have waited and waited and givin up so he could surprise me in his own way.
I believe it would have been more meaning full if he would have been able to buy it and give it to me himself. But you could always slip him some idea's.
Mine didn't have a clue how to give it to me...so one night I told him aww it would be so cute to get it this way...or sexy this way and he remembered and tried to do the best that he could!
I would't do it I would let him do it in his own way it will be more meaningfull in the end and at least you will know he is for real as well.
2007-07-26 06:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by ina_ivy_love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl if either of you has nothing to give, i would really wait!!
money problems are one of the top three that people dont even last a year married.
a wedding of ur dreams will not come cheap..... wait on it, make sure that when u or he asks, u have at least a couple thousands saved so in case u want to get married now u can do it.
i really wish you the best of happiness......
2007-07-26 06:38:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask. He is obviously NOT ready to take that step yet, and your asking will make him feel pressured, and he couuld come to resent it. It could ruin your relationship. The old "I can't afford a ring right now" is guy-speak for: He's not emotionally ready to take that step. That doesn't mean he doesn't love you or want to marry you eventually. It means he's not ready right now.
Just wait for him. And don't force it.
2007-07-26 06:38:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a little dime-store ring that will fit him, and tell him that it is all you can afford. Then give him the ring and ask if he will marry you. He will be touched, I assure you.
2007-07-26 06:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, have yous discussed marriage? does he want to get married? if you feel this is what both of you want, i think you asking is great! the old fashion ways of men paying for dinner and men driving to dates and stuff is over rated! for a woman to get up and do a mans job and be proud of doing it i think its a great idea and very brave! congrats to you!!!
2007-07-26 06:47:52 · answer #8 · answered by JellyBean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is great that you want to ask him, go for it. Have a nice dinner planned out at home and ask him the ? Good luck to you
2007-07-26 06:33:27 · answer #9 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BAD BAD BAD idea.... . marriage is one thing men can't be preasured into... talk to him and make sure he knows you want to marry him but do not ask him yourself. Then maybe talk about a timeline for when you, yourself, want to be married and have children etc... Then wait it out. If he wants to marry you then HE wil ASK YOU!
2007-07-26 06:33:54 · answer #10 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋