Is it weird that I'm 13 and want a child by the time i'm 15?

Question

Idk y but i really want to have a child. i know that my mom would want to kill me but i have been thinking alot and i really want to have a kid.

Answer 1

I hate to say this but it's actually very normal to want one. That is the time you are far enough into puberty that your body is ready so your natural insinks want one. Hopefully your mind is devoloped enough to know you can take care of a baby at 13 or 15.

Lets say you have a baby now and for what ever reason it doesn't get taken from you (CPS would more than likely put it in a phoster home if your parents didn't adopt it). You (or the father) can't get a job to feed it so your parents or welfare would have to give you money to feed it. You can't move out yet so when people come over it will be really embarassing to say "This is my baby isn't he/she cute? Mom! Wheres the diapers?" Living with your parent and having kids is really embarassing. You would have to drop school for at least a semester to have the baby. Most women don't go back after kids so you wont have a HS diploma. No good job will hire you with out one unless you go to college. You finnaly hit 21 and get to go out. But you can't find a baby sitter or afford drinks so you stay home and watch disney movies instead. Sounds like a boring and enpty life. You can't give much to a baby when you don't have your life together. What kind of romodel is that to a kid? How would you tell your little girl not to have sex at 12 when you did at 13?

I have known girls to have kids at 15. She is now 37 and living with her dad and daughter and her daughters two kids. Not a good life. Part of being a parent is giving your child a good life. No 13 or 15 year old can do that. I don't even know any 18 year olds that can do that.

Hope you make the right choice. Good luck.

Answer 2

I also felt this way. I love kids, but you have to think about the baby first. How would you take care of a baby, would you be able to give it all it needs, would the dad be someone you truly love, would the dad be there for the baby. You are still very young and your hormones aren't level. This feeling never completely left me, but it did die down a lot. The main reason I had for feeling this way was because I act 10 years older than my age. This might be the same way you feel. I feel like I am an adult trapped in a teenage body just waiting for the years to pass. But please don't go have sex and try to get pregnant, no matter how much you think having a baby is what you want, even though you would love to have a child, you would love more to wait and be able to adequately care for it. And in the long run your child would have a better life if you wait at least until you are legally considered an adult.

Answer 3

you know it's weird, and a horrible idea. Why are you asking? Truly, are you secretly hoping someone will give you permission? I got pregnant at 17. The last little bit of high school i went to a special school that helps out teenage parents of both sexes. of course, no boys were in the whole school. I did not meet one single girl who was happy she had a baby so young. NOT ONE. They all loved their babies. Some gave them up for adoption and some kept them but none of them felt like their lives were going as planned. At 15 you can't hold a job, go to school, and be a parent. Many 20-somethings can't. Also, you are nowhere near mature enough to emotionally handle a little being who rely's on you every minute of every day. You don't get to be anything other than a mom. Be a teenager, then be a college student, then be a wife, a hard worker, and then be a mother. When you can handle it, and when you have experiences enough life.

Answer 4

It's not weird, but it is wrong. You don't really want a baby. I had a baby when I was fifteen and let me tell you this...
1. Sleepovers/stayin the night with friend is over.
2. Your mother can only do so much.
3. YOU will not be your number one priority.
4. Your babys daddy WILL NOT take care of you.
5. Welfare sux!
6. You will love that baby with all your heart and soul, but you will KNOW what you've missed, all the parties, universities (it'll just be junior college 4 u),
7. You will grow up too fast. And lemme tell ya sweetie bein grown is not that fun.

Wait! Just wait! It will be so much better when you can offer your child a good life......
I've never regretted having my daughter, shes nine now, but I regret not being able to give her the world.

Answer 5

yes weird. your too young you will still be too young in two years. what can a 15 year old offer a baby. nothing you cant work so you cant provide for your child. you are still legally a child your self. when you older and have a home steady career loving spouse and i mean husband, then consider having a child and also insurance before getting pregnant that will cover you and the baby. dont be stupid. having a baby at 15 could kill you and it will ruin your life. you dont want or need a baby they are some play thing you can discard once your bored with it

Answer 6

Honey, you have your entire life ahead of you! I'm a 38 y/o mother of 3. Come and babysit for me! Your body is a gift to you and your husband from God. Wait.

Once a child is born, your life is no longer your own. I would sacrifice my very life for my child, but I am glad I was able to live and experience life before I had my first. You can do so many things with your life. Let yourself grow up! I know everything in your life seems so important and urgent. That's what being a teenager is. You are not ready to parent a child. It's hard enough for me to parent and I'm a well-educated adult. I want only the best for you!

Find a passion in life...dance, math, science, art, music... and pursue it. The only way you will find purpose in your life is through Jesus Christ. Ask Him to be your Lord and Savior and see how amazing your life becomes!

Answer 7

You are not weird because you are thinking about motherhood. Your body and mind are maturing, and such thoughts are going to become natural to you. However, actually becoming a mother by the time you're fifteen is not even recommendable. No doubt, you will be physically capable of getting pregnant, carrying the baby full term, and giving birth. No doubt you have heart-felt dreams of caring for and raising a child. You should have these dreams, you are a maturing girl, and you are human. But please let your dreams be dreams for now. There is no need for you to rush into motherhood, especially teenage motherhood which typically entails heartache, missed opportunities, and regret for youthful years lost. Be patient, be wise, and wait until you are a young woman who has the love and the commitment of a principled young man. I would recommend this committed relationship be in the form of a marriage. A family which has the presence of a mother and father who are married and happy is a family which is destined for success. Please wait until you have such a relationship in your life. You, your future husband, and your child-yet-to-be will be quite happy you did!

Answer 8

Yes, it's weird.

And I sure hope you talk to your parents about this. It's grossly inappropriate for you to be wanting a baby, and contemplating sex at this age.

Spend a month with 2 hours of sleep all day, not taking a shower for a couple of days, and walking around with vomit on you--and doing it all alone without any support, and see if it seems cute.

You need to grow up, play sports, go to the prom, finish school and college, support yourself, and get married before you have a child. If you do it in any other order, you are screwing up your life and you are MOST DEFINITELY bein cruel and unfair to an innocent child that deserves better then a little girl for a parent.

Until you can support yourself, believe me, you're too young.

Answer 9

you will get over this stage. Seriously at 15 and u have a baby you will miss out going with your friends...Having a baby is a BIG responsibitly and u are still a child yourself.What about the father whoever that will be not only will you ruin his life but you will ruin yours and your baby. Do you have the money for food,clothes,cribs etc.. Dont expect your parents to help you.You need a reality check do some babysitting and see how much trouble a baby is ...

Answer 10

no its not weird, ITS STUPID. you going to drop out of highschool and let our tax money raise you and your kids since you are still a child yourself? or do you plan on having the government use our money to pay for your childcare at headstart while you work at burgerking and still put onion on the burger when we said no onion? you cant even buy cigs yet or vote but you want to reproduce? with the little ghetto boy down the block that loves you? or will mommy and daddy take care of you and the kid? how about this? keep your legs closed, the books open, get a degree and a career. then you can marry a lawyer and have a kid. why be trash?