I'm just wondering cause I want to have a beautiful baby that I would be proud of and the baby would have my smarts in the family and kindness. I don't want my baby to live in a messed up life. Please tell everything.
2007-07-26 05:38:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
There are absolutely endless problems that a baby can have and you certainly don't want to know about all of them! The most important thing you can do to not have a child with a messed up life is to firstly, work on yourself and understand yourself. There is no way to try and get your child to gets your smarts and your kindness. You can treat them well and educate them and be kind to them and then hope. You can influence them but you can't control them. Your genes are up for grabs and so are those of the child's father and you will have no idea what your baby will inherit. One thing I know is that every mother thinks their baby is beautiful and every mother is right. You can make a committment to your child to treat them with dignity and respect. You can wait until you are secure and stable before having a baby. You can love the father of your child and be sure in his love for you before you have a baby. Some people think loving the child's other parent is the most important thing you can do for a child. Others think the only toys they need are sand and water. Others say the most important things to do with your child on a daily basis are cook with them and read to them. There are many, many books you can read about child care and childbirth issues and all the "problems" that can occur. But, I would think that would discourage you completely from ever wanting a child.
2007-07-26 05:48:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure of how to answer this, LOL, so bear with me. When you have a baby, the best thing to do is to raise the little one with a lot of love, nurturing, and encouragement. Let your child know that the sky is the limit. Protect your children from harmful influences as much as possible. Make sure that they have a good education.
Problems that can happen... well, there are many, and probably too many to actually list. Don't expect perfection after having a baby. A baby will most certainly change your life around. Sleepless nights for a long time... struggles with potty-training issues as well as other things. Stuggles and challenges, period. However, that doesn't make parenthood a bad thing. :)
I have a daughter who was born with a cleft lip/palate. Beautiful little gal, always was. Has undergone 7 surgeries so far, and is only 5 years old. This is one of my parenting challenges... going through multiple surgeries for my little one. But, really, it's all worth it. She's perfect, she was perfect since birth, she's sociable, she's intelligent. My husband and I are very lucky to have her, along with her big brother, they are both miracle children to us.
A messed up life would be one filled with abuse, drugs, alcoholism... factors like that would most certainly affect your children. Keep away from those influences, and like I said, protect them from whatever you can to give them a positive environment.
Good luck to you!
2007-07-26 12:49:05 · answer #2 · answered by AV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't focus on the negative, just think of the positive things when having a baby. Be good to your baby before it's even born by eating healthy, not smoking or doing drugs, getting exercise daily, getting lots of rest, etc. Once your baby is born, you just have to use common sense when raising your baby. Always show your baby lots of love & affection, as that will make your child feel secure, wanted, & loved. Always tell your baby/child verbally how much you love them. Be patient as your baby is growing up & learning new things. Patience is a virtue. Teach your child right from wrong at a young age, & that's at an age when they can understand. Never yell, hit, or spank your baby/child. It only makes them feel degraded. Teach you child respect at an early age & he/she will carry it with them all of their lives. Always spend time with your baby & child, doing fun things. When your baby is an infant, read to him/her during the day & just before bedtime while you cuddle him/her. Those routines are priceless & again, the baby/child will feel so loved & secure. Never talk down to your child, as humiliation hurts deeply. Offer praise & support daily. Be there for your child & have a closeness that will always allow the child to come to you with fears, problems, worries, & not be afraid of criticism. Don't pass on your fears & insecurities to your child. It will cripple him/her mentally.
2007-07-26 13:02:45 · answer #3 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no guarantees in life. No guarantee it would have your perceived "smarts' and kindness, nor be lovely to look at. There is a great deal to be said for nature and nurture in terms of raising a human being.
But at the end of the day, having a baby is a leap of faith.
2007-07-26 12:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by Cheesy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its better not to hear all the horrible things. Just keep yourself healthy. Read some stories, get other books on becoming a good parent not how to avoid being a bad parent.
2007-07-26 12:43:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are too many problems to mention but don't focus on that. Be positive and strong and be thankful for every step you come through. Good luck!
2007-07-26 12:41:30 · answer #6 · answered by Precious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too many to list
2007-07-26 12:43:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
way too many to name
2007-07-26 14:23:10 · answer #8 · answered by bride2be 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋