I've always been curious why many women have had fantasies that include being raped and they get off on that fantasy. Of course, they would never actually want that to happen in real life - as it is a violent crime. Any of you ladies have a comment on this?
2007-07-26 05:28:10 · 10 answers · asked by Jeff 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Most of the time, it's about giving up power. If you really think about it, a rape fantasy isn't that far off from some of the scenes glorified in women's romance novels- in both the heroine is fragile, delicate, rather helpless, really, and is ravaged by someone stronger than her. The only difference, of course, is the benevolence and love in the romance novel, and the rather different motivations in the rape fantasy. But still, both include submission, to feeling absolutely helpless and at the mercy of someone else.
In addition, rape fantasies give women the ability to fantasize about things they otherwise wouldn't. For example, a woman may have difficulty admitting she is curious about anal sex, might feel it's dirty and wrong, but still have a fascination with it. Fantasizing about it outright wouldn't be arousing for her, but in a rape fantasy where her attacker makes her submit to anal sex- where she is absolved of all guilt of the action by her being a victim- she can enjoy it, no strings attached. And similarly for other acts, or just the act itself- anything sexual that happens in a rape fantasy is just that, rape. It allows her to fantasize about things in a guilt-free environment.
I've had a few rape fantasies (though I wonder- can you call them rape when I later, wholeheartedly, become the most willing participant?) and just take them in stride. Of course I would never want to be raped in real life. But in fantasy-land, there's something about being used for someone else's sexual pleasure, regardless about how you feel about it, that can up the erotic ante, so to speak.
Hope that helps.
2007-07-27 23:58:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who knows why we get turned on by the things we get turned on by? There's something behind the idea of being taken and almost objectified... but it's a fantasy, and nothing more. I don't think there's a person in the world that doesn't have some dark little fantasy down deep that they would never want to experience for real. That's just human sexuality for you. :)
2007-07-26 05:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by Samantha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know about what all other women think. But its never been a fantasy of mine. I'm scared to death of this happening to me so I'm sure in the heck not going to have a fantasy about it.
2007-07-26 07:12:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people have different fantasys about different things.... guess its just the way we are made up..... I have some off the wall fantasys and some plain old fashioned ones lol. I guess its just how we express ourselves... and just beacuse sometjing is a fantasy does not mean we want to try it in real life hun!
2007-07-27 01:39:23 · answer #4 · answered by Maria S © 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Halle Berry
2016-04-01 03:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ladies is this true?
Cuz someone done told Jeff wrong.
2007-07-26 06:33:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Fantasy question for women only?"
Every dude in here is going to peek at this Qs, Lol
2007-07-26 05:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by ♣Kermit the Frog♣ 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is a not the "rape" that excites but the lack of control, the inability to say no therefore you are not responsible nor "bad".
2007-07-26 05:33:55 · answer #8 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
'many' women? Not this one.
2007-07-26 06:14:07 · answer #9 · answered by Bunny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I LOVE LESBIANS...BYAHHH!!!!!!!!
2007-07-26 05:58:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋