Why or why not? I hear that not that many people are married now as opposed to back then, & the birth out of wedlock rate is higher as well as the divorce rate.
What are the PROs & CONs of marriage?
2007-07-26 05:24:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It really depends how much weight you put on the commitment you make that day. If you really believe that the vows you say, "in sickness and health, in good times and bad, till death..." are for real. Then going through that solidifys the relationship and you no longer have a convienent "out". I.e. you can't just break up with him.
If it doesn't mean anything to you and it is just a pretty day and a pretty dress, then why bother? You will probably end up divorced anyway. Break ups are so much less hassle and money than a divorce.
I really feel the reason people arn't getting married as much is because the commitment level isn't there, and there is a fear of divorce. So if you only want to be there in the good times then why bother with lying before your family and friends? If you want to get married, but still consider divorce as an "out" if it "doesn't work out" and "you're too different" then don't get married. Spare yourself and the one you love now. Marriage should be for those willing to go the long haul and not just get out of it when the going gets rough.
I still feel, that if you are willing to make the commitment and really really stick it out, no matter what, that marriage is definitely worth it. It is not always this happy feeling, it takes work, sacrifice and you will cry more than when you were dating. The obstacles are bigger, but the rewards are greater, and I am not just talking about sex. That is just the way it is when you choose to devote yourself to the well being of another person.
Also, as a side note, if you think you want to be married, I highly reccomend finding a good person to do premarital counseling with you. The guy we had tried to break us up, not because he didn't think we should be together, but to really make us think and consider why we were doing this and figure out how to sacrfice and live together because we are two very different people!
HOpe that helps.
2007-07-26 05:36:02 · answer #1 · answered by Fstop11 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I have 3 children and am not married I have been engadged for about 6 years. We have not been married for a lack of money to pay for the wedding we want and I am in college right now and I cant get help for college if I am married. A lot of people may not get married because of how their parents marriage went but I am 25 and my parents are still married and somewhat happily (dads an alchoholic)
2007-07-26 05:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by freckleface 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you believe its worth it and you are ready to marry and have met the right person than go for it. If you are a septic about it then don't do it. No amount of pros and cons are going to change people's minds about marriage and whether or not it is good or bad.
2007-07-26 05:31:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sure hope marriage is worth it. I am on my second and I am very happy now. It is someone to share your life with and about feeling whole. I am sure that there are people that are not married and that are just as happy. It's an individual thing.
2007-07-26 05:30:10 · answer #4 · answered by working gal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have often asked this. I was married 17 yrs. The end was silly to me. I look at all I vested in what I thought was my forever. I say yes it's worth it outside of it ending I wouldn't change a thing. I say yes but you have to go into it smart. The one thing I would suggest is Have rules to fights. and Respect those rules. Good Luck
2007-07-26 05:33:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i couldn't tell you the pros and cons of marriage cause you have to be in love i mean truely in love where you can't imagine a day without you spouse, where your spouse makes you complete and feels a piece that has been missing and if you can't say that he does that then you shouldn't get married regardless the pros and cons!!
2007-07-26 05:29:14 · answer #6 · answered by stt143 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One of the posters said it best: MEN BENEFIT MOST FROM BEING MARRIED. Most men do not know how to do basic things aroudn the house, cook, clean, auto stuff, etc so you don't gain anything there. You really become a high powered maid.
I think being married is a convienence for men but not women.
2007-07-26 05:42:13 · answer #7 · answered by BMD 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is great for some. I wouldn't say that women are the ones that benefit the most.
Research shows that men live longer if married. Incomes improve with dual income. Children turn out better if both parents are involved. But that is where it ends.
Women do better single.
See this site:
http://www.marketresearch.com/product/display.asp?productid=1272001&xs=r&g=1&curr=USD&kw=&view=toc
2007-07-26 05:28:32 · answer #8 · answered by kishoti 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
depends on what your values are I guess, I have done it twice to end in disaster, I think a loving couple married or unmarried working together can raise a good quality kid,,
there really is no value other than personal preference to get married
2007-07-26 05:30:55 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
For some, sure.
Pro: Having a life parther
Con: Having a life partner to worry about.
2007-07-26 05:44:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋