well i moved back home after breaking up w/ the girl. i'm finally getting back on my feet financially & emotionally. i'm working 2 jobs. it was hard breaking up w/ her but necessaty. if u need some background on my situation look at my previous yahoo questions. anyway, the ex called wanting a 2nd chance. she said she is sorry & that the kids miss me. i told her that things have changed & i don't want to be involved right now. i want to focus on me & my life for alittle bit w/out having children around. they are nt my kids by the way. i wasn't trying to be mean about it. i was telling the truth. i miss nt having time to myself & doing what i want to do. i don't need the "baby mama drama" w/ the father of the kids & the stress of the situation. want a chance to find myself & be happy. start my own life. i think she wants a "daddy" & someone to take care of her & nt a lifelong partner. i'm nt wanting to do the taking of part. am i wrong for this. i was being honest to her.
2007-07-26 05:22:14 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are done, then stop taking her calls.
2007-07-26 07:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope actually funny I was sort of in the same situation. The only difference is that I didn't see so much that she want'd the daddy, as much as she want'd someone to... be her daddy? Not sure how to put it.... take away her having to make her choices. See like you I want'd a life partner, someone in which the descion making was a pratnership not a onesided game, but I feel thats more or less what she want'd. Couldn't quite handle trying to stand toe to toe/ shounlder to shoundler with me so went with someone who she had a lopsided relationship with. Not to say she didn't make a lot of the descions but that she what'd who made want choices pretty well define. Also I think alot of people, espacially when you have kids, only know how to make the classical relatioship they saw from there parents. Not a good health, partnership. But a constant battle were they can get lazy about advancing themself for the sake of helping someone else, which quite funny is what I did to her.... but your in the right buddy, I'm on the same path, not to say it feels great, but I guess it does feel "Righter"..... good luck to you and your endavors, also it isn't "Moving On" as much as its "Leting Go" of the hopes, the dreams, and the worst part... the possiblities....
2007-07-26 14:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋