Hi, this is my last year at high school and I wanted to know what i need to prepare myself for the real world.

Question

also i have a boyfriend who wants me to go to college, he is going with me... but he`s in the army. how do i prepare for that??

Answer 1

Firstly, you want to NOT have the boyfriend follow you to college - you need to focus on your studies, learning (believe it or not!) and not 'being alone finally' with a man. Girls don't realize (from early on) that men focus on what THEY need to do, as a priority and can distinguish between that & home/love lifes. Women focus waaaaay too much on men, and the men are needy enough - between the two of you that it happens naturally. Another thing that happens naturally? (a baby would curtail & change YOUR life, not his).

Other than that it's a cinch if you have your ehad on straight & know why you're there... Stay away from anything that keeps you out of YOUR classes, like late-night partying. You need to get along with strangers (all in the same boat, as you) and build friendships with WOMEN on campus for many reasons. A boyfriend there, will stop that cold. You'll also need a band account/credit card. You'll wear the same clothes often (but don't fret they'll all have the name of your school on it before long). And you need some money, some time willing to work (or intern) in a year or so..

Answer 2

Well, if you're going to college, it's not the real world yet. Real world is when you graduate college and can't find a job in what you studied.

And the boyfriend- within the first year 90% of the couples that I knew broke up or were cheating on each other. Best advice is to take a break....complete break. Not like Ross and Rachel from FRIENDS. He can do what he wants and you can do what you want. Limit the phone calls bc then the jealousy starts and it will go down hill from there. If after a year, once you get used to how college is, (the study load, the parties, the profs, the friends) and you're still in love with him and him with you, then go for it. If not, then okay.

Answer 3

College is a big kegger party with lots of hard work.

You're in the library until 11 pm doing reserach and then you go back to your dorm and study Beer Bong 101 for an hour or so.

You work weekends, nights.

It's more intense and demanding than highschool without the Girls VP and walls and megaphones ("get down off the wall!")

It's self-starting.

As for the real world, you need a Picture ID, Social Security Card and have to know how to fill out a job application.

You need to learn how to make a resume.

You need to learn how to write about yourself.

Depending on where you go, I'd recomend adhearing to the buddy system. Your Army Boyfriend can clue you in on the buddy system.

It helps lessen the chance of muggings, rapes, etc.

The real world is a body in fast motion and you are trying to negociate your way into the fast lane with little or no experience.

It takes about a year to catch on.

Answer 4

Good for you to think ahead. However, from what I read you already seem a bit behind. Have you worked with your high school counselor to take placement tests (ACT, SAT?) That should have been done LAST year. You need a high score on those tests to be accepted at a variety of colleges.
Do you have "service credits?" Have you been active in extra-curricular activities? Have good sources for recommendation? All these things should have been in place last year, but it is not too late, although you'll have to move quickly now.
There are many routes to college. One you might consider is junior college. An associate degree is more affordable and a good academic record there will open up scholarships to major universities.
Have you scouted any colleges? You need to do that now. Schedule an appointment with your high school counselor as soon as possible.
You'll quickly find out the the "buddy system" can put you at a decided disadvantage in adult life. Whether seeking employment, or entering college, having a "tag along" can decrease your chances. Employers are looking for people that are intelligent and "independent." They usually "round file" (throw away) applications for people who apply that are obviously together. They are looking for employees to invest in training to get the most out of them, not those who seem to need a playmate. That's how they see it.
If you are planning to stick w/someone, don't make it obvious.

Consider college. A degree is your best opportunity for entering the work force.

Good luck to you. Enjoy your senior year!

Answer 5

If your high school has them, take AP classes. Start exploring what you want to major in, and look into what kind of profession you might like to do. Having vision and a goal helps. Ideally, by your freshman year in College, you should have a major declared. It helps if you know even sooner. Learn to love learning. The best thing you can learn in college is how to learn and adapt to change. Everything you learn is obsolete after walking off campus anyways, so don't take anything too seriously. Learning to question and think critically is paramount. in college. Start challenging yourself by reading more difficult works in literature. Explore art, film, philosophy, natural sciences, social sciences, business, etc. If you find yourself particularly enjoying a certain subject, you may have passion for that subject. Find your passions and go with it. If you do what you love, and love what you do, you will succeed in life.

Answer 6

Take your but to college , hold off the the real world for another 4 years ,you have another 30 to 35 years to work the rest of your life . And as for the H.S. boyfriend don't go i repeat DO NOT GO to the same college . Don't say I didn't warn you .

Answer 7

My absolute best advice to younger people is this: Take care of your credit!!! If you don't, it will haunt you for the rest of your life.
I would also say that it would be best for you to go to college and let him go into the service. Education is so very, very important. Remember that since your boyfriend is in the Army, he can be stationed anywhere. My advice would be to go to the college of your choice and stay there so you can be stable while getting your education.
Good Luck!

Answer 8

Be prepared to work hard, have fun and get into debt.
An absentee boyfriend is going to be a real problem though.

Answer 9

get the book 1,001 things your teens should know about the real world ( at least that's what i think it's called) i saw it at bed bath and beyond