Am I wrong? Heres the deal.
We had planned to go to Vegas for our anniversary. My husband got mad at me recently because I didn't have as much money saved as I said I would, to go. I told him I would have $1500 saved towards the trip, but now, I will only have $1,000. I have already spent $400 on Vegas show tickets.
He wanted to take $4,000 total, so he was going to put $2500 with my $1500, but when I told him I would only have $1,000, he said thats not going to be enough.
Basically, he said that he doesn't want to go if we don't have a certain amount of money. He's just being stubborn as usual because I know that $3500 is enough for both of us, especially if our show tickets and hotel rooms are already paid for.
If he is still stuck on "not going", I'm going without him. Would I be wrong for that?
2007-07-26 05:16:59 · 14 answers · asked by CJ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just wanted to clear something up. My husband is no where near controlling. He's just stubborn as heck!
You are right when you said we should be a team, not individual. The problem is, I am terrible with money, and he is better than me, so we do pay our bills together, and we do have an emergency savings together, BUT, we each have our own personal savings for extracurricular activities.
2007-07-26 05:27:28 · update #1
Wow it is your anniversary and if he can not handle having $500 less to spend than go by your self. Celebrating an anniversary is about being together not blowing a ton of money on nothing in Vegas. My husband and I went for 4 days in Vegas and only had about $600 to spend and we were just fine. Just remind him why you are going and it is more about spending time together. Good luck to you.
2007-07-26 05:58:41 · answer #1 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk about it and make it sound fun to him. Its apparent he needs a little extra coaxing. You could feel blessed that you even considered and planned an anniversary trip together. I been married 14 years to my 3rd husband and we never had a honeymoon, nor have we ever done anything special for an anniversary. I have in the past tried to, but I don't even get so much as a card or a kiss. Hang on to what you have, at least you have it.
2007-07-26 12:28:56 · answer #2 · answered by BoosGrammy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you do go without him, it is certainly going to create a rift. Why don't you go to one of those online payday loan places and borrow the additional $500? They will have the money in your account at midnight tonight, and that would solve the problem. Your husband is being rather stubborn about this, sure he is, but sometimes each of us has to give a little. Going out on a limb and borrowing the extra money will show him how much you care, and it might make all the difference in the trip. Besides, you might win it back! Good luck! Drop a dollar in the slot for me!
2007-07-26 12:28:27 · answer #3 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well you still didn't have the $1500 that you said you would have saved. Perhaps he knew you wouldn't be able to save that much because of your spending habits....maybe he's throwing a fit to prove a point in a wierd childish way. What was he going to do with that $4000? Gamble with it? Still go...maybe you can find a friend who will go with you.
2007-07-26 12:50:35 · answer #4 · answered by i_b_winkn_at_u 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband sounds like an ***! no offense but my wife and I went to Vegas on our honeymoon we went to tons of shows, drank, went out to dinner, and bought gifts and only spent little over a grand in cash. You can do so much in Las Vegas and you need some money but not going over that is crazy.
Tell him to stop being cheap and invite a girlfriend to go if he does not want to.
2007-07-26 12:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by CSC78 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gee sounds like the marriage is n the rocks if you two can't agree on something so minor.
re-discuss this and get some why from him. If it is irrational- wel you have to do what you have to do.
Going without him will put a stake through the heart of the marriage if it hasn't already got one.
Old Guy
2007-07-26 12:39:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys need marriage counseling. Marriage is a team sport--not individual events with everyone keeping score as to how much each person gives and contributes. You have much bigger problems than going or not going on a trip together.
2007-07-26 12:20:37 · answer #7 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, that is the biggest case of a crybaby I have heard yet! I am really surprise things like this have not happened before, he sounds VERY controlling!
Me, personally, I WOULD go alone...however, be prepared to be served divorce papers when you get home.... I am divorced by choice.
....sounds like you might WIN BIG without winning any cash LOL!
2007-07-26 12:22:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no, it wouldn't be wrong!!
But why don't you take that $1000 you worked so hard to save and go buy yourself some new clothes or things for just yourself? That's what I'd do.
2007-07-26 12:23:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! go and enjoy yourself .i think to many of us try to plz the other person to often .at least you have something my bf didn't give any on our Florida vacation that cost 3000 after he said he would .but he sure enjoyed it. wont do that again lol
2007-07-26 12:33:19 · answer #10 · answered by elaine 20 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋