What should I do?
2007-07-26 05:13:56 · 14 answers · asked by p0pt4rtz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When she tells you that you're trying to be her father, she probably feels that you're disciplining her. However, you need to be in control of the situation, not her. When something is wrong, you need to act like this: "OK, we both understand this has to be fixed! So, how do we do this?" and NOT like this: "I told you that's what would happen if we do this! When are you going to start listening to me?"
Did you see the difference? In the 1st example, you're taking the control of the situation. In the 2nd one, you are trying to be her dad who feels that he needs to discipline her.
Good luck! Hope it was a little helpful.
2007-07-26 05:29:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself if she doesn't like you for who you are then uve got a problem. It seems like she is trying to shape and mold you the way she wants you to be. Look if you start following her demands she is going to lose respect for you. In a relationship there should be requests instead of demands. Women alot of the times have this idea in there mind of how they want there perfect man to be, only to find out that we can't be that guy that they have dreamed up us to be. Look life is too short to please everything she wants. You need to start looking out for #1 yourself trying to be the man your girl wants can lead down a road of unhappieness. Next thing she will be telling you to do is wipe her *** while she chains you up to the fence like a dog. Just remember be yourself do what makes you feel good cause if you don't you will regret the time you miss in your life that could of been good
2007-07-26 05:26:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. Discuss concerns with this woman but she knew your habits before becoming involved with you I hope so maybe just need to have a good talk and explain how you see situation. But listen with an open mind to her explanation also. Hopefully you two can come to some kind of resolve to this situation.
2007-07-26 05:18:49 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants you to be in "control" of yourself and the life around you. Not her. Are you taking care of your responsibilities or letting her handle most things? She doesn't want a father, she wants a man.
2007-07-26 07:27:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in your shoes. I've been married 16 years now. I'm 7 years older than my wife, she was 19 when we married. I think she wants you to make decisions that affect both of you, for example, what restaurant you're going to eat at, but not make decisions for her that (seemingly) affects only her. For example, no you can't go visit your mother this weekend.
Sorry, if this doesn't help, your question really didn't go into too much detail.
2007-07-26 05:20:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even it out. Don't try and control her but take control of responsibilities.
2007-07-26 05:23:04 · answer #6 · answered by MissTT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should sit her down and ask for an explanation. Open communication is the best way to solve any relationship issue.
Have a great day!
2007-07-26 05:18:51 · answer #7 · answered by diva_500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're just easily confused. Most women think men are controlling and that's the truth.
2007-07-26 05:17:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls are like Dr jekyl and Mr hyde. They have 2 sides to their nature. Its really frustrating i know.
But maybe that's what makes them so irresistible.
2007-07-26 05:25:32 · answer #9 · answered by sting 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time she accuses you of trying to be her dad laugh, then scrunch up your nose and say "ewwww, incest!".
2007-07-26 05:30:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋