At school I am called a geek by all the older students. I am not that smart, only normal, but i am very shy. i have blue eyes, waist length brown hair and glasses. all i want is to maybe style my hair differently or something. anything! also my friends arn't very...popular. they are a bit childish but they are my only friends at this school.
2007-07-26 04:42:26 · 18 answers · asked by J 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Don't change yourself to please other people. If you want to make changes for yourself, go for it! Do it in your own way- get ides from magazines and be creative with the styles. I suggest you and your friends throw a girl party- having a fun time with fashion, makeup, and hair for a few hours. Don't try to look like every other girl in school and lose your individuality. Furthermore, how do you know that you're "not that smart"? What subjects in school are you good in? As for your friends, are they nice people? Are they good friends to you? What do you like about them? I think you should look at those factors and focus on your education before you start making changes to your looks.
Is this for YOU or for the people that call you a "geek"?
In the long run, the way you look won't matter as much as what you do with your life when you get grown. Will you be a contributing citizen to society or just a pretty face?
"Beauty fades, but dumb is forever."-Judge Judy Sheindlin
PS...I would kill to have hair as long as yours! I'm green with envy...
2007-07-26 10:41:19 · answer #1 · answered by Peaches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a Geek. Believe me by not all means. I used to feel that way once I was in your age. Only what I wanted was having friends who liked me in school. I was quite, very striken with bad health and therefore often sick. (Heart condition from birth) Kids were mean back than to me. They would bully me make fun of me. Finally throughout high school and later vocational training, I gave up on having friends. Cause I felt it wasn't worth it. so I followed my dreams. I learned to play the piano the guitar. Had classical guitar lesson's and piano lessons. I went to the youth choir and adult choir. I made friends there . But there were people and youngsters there too who found an easy prey in me.
You know what I learned back than? What gives you hell makes you stronger. So I just thought ok, no one wants me than I stay away from them. I got finished with an education and some of my former bullies failed. There loss not mine. You are not a geek. Just different. Don't be too caucious about it. Ignore when they belittle you or bully you. Do not show them fear . That will antaganize them even more. I would have loved knowing these things back than. I bet it would have been different. Today, I have plenty of friends. And I being loved by a lot of people. See life is just beautiful. Sorry I had to share this! And I hope it helps you!
2007-07-26 04:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by angelikabertrand64 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Geeks rock!
There's WAY more to life than being 'in with the in crowd'. Ignore the insults as best you can, even try to stick up for yourself, it'll work out in the long run.
Don't change yourself for people who don't deserve it. If you fall into the trap of conformity you'll be there for a while, constantly having to change yourself to something you're not, pandering to the whims of others.
And don't start hating your friends just because they aren't popular; any new 'friends' (who start liking you because of say, your haircut) are unlikely to be true friends and they won't last.
You could try making some friends outside of your current social circle as well - look online or join some out of school club or take up a new hobby.
Good luck, and don't give up on yourself.
2007-07-26 12:31:01 · answer #3 · answered by Kaiser_Bill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what "geek" and "nerd" are supposed to mean, it seems to cover absolutely every one who is not a cretin and has ANY interest of any kind (other that sport).
If people call you names it is because they are thick conformists who think you should be an identical clone to them.
If you really want to be like them just buy all the same products and start being nasty and self obsessed but really I don't think bullying scum are very good role models.
You're probably a much better person than any of them and school doesn't last forever so just be yourself and don't cave in to those idiots, you'll have the last laugh (especially if you get weapons, lots of weapons!)
2007-07-26 04:54:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being a geek is awesome. Honestly I was always part of the popular crowd and I never got to be myself... and it took me a long time to meet some good friends and to learn who "myself" was. I've embraced my inner geek and I think it makes me even more attractive. Being popular you have to constantly be worried what everyone else thinks, you get back stabbing friends and you really don't get to have as much fun as you'd like to. Just wait until college. Thats when the real fun begins and its not a matter of popular anymore.
2007-07-26 07:30:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about what people call you. Stop worrying about being accpeted by the mainstream that will not be helpful to you latter on. And most likey they are calling u a geek because you do your homework. I know i get called a nerd for that but hi it was funny watching them dig though the trash for it.
2007-07-26 04:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by whitehawk 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
say what is wrong with being a geek. i was not called a geek, but i had intelligenct, and now i am a family doctor. It is a status question and just accept it, people like it when you are smart compaerd to the opposite.
geeks have good and well-paying jobs in the future
slackers are the opposite.
2007-07-26 04:49:26 · answer #7 · answered by $210,000 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Don't Be a geek, get through school, get an education. You can party like it's 1999 later in life and reinvent yourself when you get to University.
It'll pass and until it does, be cool with it!
2007-07-26 15:10:32 · answer #8 · answered by politicsguy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let other people make you feel pressured into conforming to their idea of what is socially acceptable. Be yourself! Wear your hair how you like it, say what you want, and dont let what other people say affect anything you do. You'll find that this is a petty phase that some people go through, but i guarantee that if you just act yourself people will grow up and accept you, and you'll feel better with yourself because the people will like you for being you, rather than for being what they want you to be.
2007-07-26 04:48:23 · answer #9 · answered by drumboy_14 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about being a "geek". There is nothing wrong with that. If your personality is truly who you are, then others have no right to judge you negatively. Just keep in mind, the biggest geek of his time, is the biggest billionaire of ours (Bill Gates.) Just do you and have fun with it.
2007-07-26 04:49:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋