2007-07-26 04:36:42 · 26 answers · asked by cindybells 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am told how much im loved constantly but im trying to stay out of this relationship because of past lies ,drug use and suspected infadelities ,plus im just tired of the roller coaster relationship ,all my senses tell me not to trust this man ,but he says im over reacting to his mouth,
2007-07-26 04:43:50 · update #1
hes even said on numerus ocaisions that my family and i are going to be killed or hurt but not by his own hands because he knows people in low places [then he laughs],i already have a restaining order but to me its just paper because theres always loop holes ,so what do i do jails temporary
2007-07-26 05:25:45 · update #2
he says that he says these things because hes hurt from me leaveing him and he doesnt know how ealse to get me back
2007-07-26 05:28:42 · update #3
I can not explain it any better so I'll use these precious words....
Love is patient, love is kind.
Love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude.
It does not insist on it's own way: it is not irritable or disrespectful.
It does not rejoice in wrong doing, but rejoices in truth.
Love bear all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Sounds like this situation may need a little review because I'm pretty sure nasty names and being controlled is not listed above!
2007-07-26 04:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshine's Pic Is on 360 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is love, then you have no reason to feel threatened.
And if you feel threatened, then I suggest you look for someone who makes you feel like you are a part of his life, because last thing that anyone would want is to threaten his own life. Am I right?
To call nasty names means that the person suffers from low self esteem and uses his personal ego to convince himself that he is a real something. But that is not true. What is worst is that the person himself is normally aware of this fact and is coward enough to accept it face down.
To threaten a life is in itself a criminal act, it may be your own or others, and so normally these kind of people are either abnormal or they need some serious psychological consultation or else they play a wild hoax to your weak personality or emotion.
Remember: they cannot do you any damage once you come up to challenge them. They only try to capitalize on your weak sections.
Get up! Stand straight and say that you care as long as you feel cared for. There are ten thousand ways to express love without being nasty, rude, or domination to the extreme.
Love cannot be purchased, aquired, manipulated, transffered or passed forward or coerced.
Love is just a gentle touch that relaxes you the minute you feel it. Love gives you a shield of protection whereby you come up with an ample volume of moral courage and support.
Love makes you feel wanted and cared for even in the most loneliest of places.
Love gives you the enthusiasm and the positive rythm to live and thrive happily and strongly upon the greatest pains,sufferings and struggles that you have to face in your day to day life.
Finally: Love is like a rope that hangs out of nowhere and you cling to it when someone pulls the carpet off from under your feet.
2007-07-26 12:40:12 · answer #2 · answered by SUBIMAL B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this you or someone else we are talking about. If it is a friend or family member the only thing you can do is let them know how you feel about it and tell them you will be there for them in any way as long as they leave the relationship. If it is you, you need to either put up with it and stop complaining or tell him if you two don't get some help you are leaving threats or not. The worse thing is to hear someone say they are verbally and emotionally being abused but won't do anything about it. Stand up for yourself and then maybe you will start to respect yourelf enough to leave. If you have children which I hope not you definately need to leave if he doesn't get help. Think of them and their emotional well being. And if you don't have kids think about if he will do that to you what will he do to your kids.
2007-07-26 11:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you with my ex?? I'm j/k, but no, that's nowhere near love. And it's better to get away from someone like that as soon as you can, even though I know it's hard to do. The longer you wait to get away from a situation, the more difficult it is to get away from it when you do decide to get out of it. Everyone says that...but everyone says that b/c it's true.
don't sit around thinking someone like that will change, b/c they won't. That type of person usually doesn't love themselves, so therefore how would they love someone else and treat them right? They try to get you to hate yourself, too.
Nope...that's not love. And don't let him make you think you're overreacting! I hate that line of B.S.! My ex told me that constantly! He was also an alcoholic and said he was going to change many times, and never did. He said the nastiest things for me, and the next day would try to make excuses for it, or make it seem like my problem. Get away from this guy. Seriously.
2007-07-26 11:43:18 · answer #4 · answered by C.Lee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were real love he would respect you and your feelings. Love is about caring so much about a person, that you care about them more than you care about yourself. If he did he we would be treating you well. If he is abusive in any way, verbaly, emotionally, then you need to get out. Remember your heart is glass. It needs to be handled carefully and if broken it can be mened but it will never be the same again. He has broken your heart. You put it back together again with lots of pain. Are you willing to hand it back to him to break again?
2007-07-26 12:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by Tina S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call that abuse which can end up giving the person abused PTSD. I would get out of the relationship ASAP. There needs to respect for there to be love.
2007-07-26 11:42:45 · answer #6 · answered by baker99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not love darling that is prison. If this is happening to you please tell someone and get out before it gets worse and it usually does. You may think you love them but think about it how can they love you if they are hurting you is that how you want your children brought up? I don't think so. GET OUT NOW!!!
2007-07-26 11:49:31 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not love, it is abuse.
Go with your gut instinct, it is there for a reason. This type of behaviour almost always winds up getting physical.
2007-07-26 11:38:48 · answer #8 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is not real love. It is command and control. Get the heck away. Run.
2007-07-26 11:39:36 · answer #9 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No this is not love. It is him trying to take possession of you. Listen to your gut feel and stay out
2007-07-26 12:17:12 · answer #10 · answered by MissE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋