We've been together for a year and he seems very passionate towards me. He's 39, I'm 31. He gets turned on all the time, when he kisses me, when we touch, even when he looks at me, but once the lovemaking starts he finds it really difficult to climax unless I help him with my hands. He simply cannot climax by making love to me! It's the first time this happens to me. I'm generally considered a passionate and imaginative lover. He has -very occasionally- had this problem in the past with other girlfriends but definitely not to the extent he has it with me. It's ruining our sex life. What is the problem?
2007-07-26 04:35:46 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
This will sound harsh, but perhaps there isn't enough friction to properly stimulate him. Perhaps anal sex which is both tighter and hotter would help him.
Also, I totally agree with the answerer above me. If your man is nervous, especially if he feels somehow inadequate due to not being able to climax, that will also further the problem. Reassure him .. and maybe if you just make it a routine to finish him with your hands it will relax him and make him feel less pressured.
I hope this doesn't insult you. I don't mean it to.
2007-07-26 04:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by Cinnibuns 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the orgasm comes from the brain being excited. He is obviously thinking about something else. Try talking dirty and sexy to him while making love. This will get his mind thinking sex and he will climax. Tell him something you have never told him before. Talk about fulfilling his sexual fantasy. This should work.
2007-07-26 12:20:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many times have you had sex? Is your boyfriend a very confident person? Usually if you cannon orgasm during sex, its because you are nervous. Tell him to calm down and maybe that will help.
2007-07-26 11:46:16 · answer #3 · answered by Konstar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The man is nervous. He needs to relax and enjoy you. Maybe deep down he is not really arouse by you.Change your methods.Try new styles and some wicked,crazy sex,oral, anal,viganal.If this does not work,well the man has a major problem.Don't quick,you might have to revatilize the tiger or devil in him by oral sex and...........If this still does not work.The man is either gay, has another woman or de man is sick.
2007-07-26 12:09:09 · answer #4 · answered by BLESSED 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the comments about stress/nervousness and even the friction part.... I'd also wonder how much porn does he watch without you.
2007-07-26 15:34:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is pleasuring himself, he may even prefer to do himself. Talk to him about it, maybe a little mutual would help. Masturbate in front of him and notice his reaction.
2007-07-26 15:28:20 · answer #6 · answered by Solo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe like already mentioned it is loose to him and you need more friction.....
2007-07-26 13:05:29 · answer #7 · answered by ilovemylcpl_oohrah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋