I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now. We both say that this relationship is the longest for both of us. He is really my first serious boyfriend and I love him so much. Lately he has been talking about marriage and moving in together. I know I am to young to marry but he is 2 years older and ready to settle down. He respects me wanting to finish college first and he wants time to establish his career and save up so money but he wants to get engaged. It scares me because he is my first at everything just about. I havent experience other relationships but thats a good thing at least im not earning a whore rep. I love him so much and couldn't imagine life without him but would i be crazy to marry the first guy i fell for?
2007-07-26 04:34:13 · 19 answers · asked by K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I met my husband right before my 15th birthday and he was 16. I fell head over heels. That was 18 years ago. We are married and have 2 kids. Neither of us has ever been with anyone else or been in another relationship. So, yes it is possible and no you would not be crazy. If you love him and you want to spend you life with him, don't worry about what you might be missing. Love is rare. Don't let it get away.
2007-07-26 04:39:55 · answer #1 · answered by Jbuns 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
love is a matter of oppinion, I still think about the first girl I told I loved, buut I am married to another beautiful woman now and thiough I can't say I never look back I can say when it was time t get married I knew the time was right. if you feel it is the right thing to do go for it.
But not to put you off, in 5 years time will you be wanting to have only ever had one serious realashionship or will you want to see what it can be like with other people.
I think you are lucky to find someone so early, not many people get it right on their first attempt nobody here will be able to answer this question for you only offer you adivce on their own experiences.
2007-07-26 04:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by TJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
crazy? no ... i have some friends who have been married 15+ years and they were high school sweethearts ... i also have friends who were high school sweethearts and got divorced after a couple years of marriage ...
since you have ONLY been together for a year (and that is the longest for both of you), you certainly don't have the strongest foundation to build a marriage on ... stop talking about the future with him and take things as they go ... there's no law that says you have to be engaged for several years before you get married ... my wife and i were together for 4 years, engaged 4 months, married 6 years now ...
and just because HE is ready to settle down, doesn't mean you have to ... don't let him talk you into it, otherwise, down the road, you will realize it was a mistake
2007-07-26 04:41:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay in the relationship and have a long engagement. Do not set a date for another year or two depending upon your career/education issues.
You do not have to have been around the block a dozen times. It has more to do with getting to know the person and discussing the kind of life you want together so there are no surprises.
2007-07-26 04:38:13 · answer #4 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope happens all the time, and from personal experience, it seems to make things that much better. Because you've never had anyone else you don't want anyone else. There's not pent up emotion from another relationship, nothing to compare to, it's pure it's fresh and there are no past hurts and regrets to cause rifts. Don't throw what could be the best thing in your life away just because you might think you're bending the rules a little bit.
2007-07-26 04:39:27 · answer #5 · answered by rully's gyrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a whore rep? strange... having multiple partners doesnt make you a whore its the style in which you do it. sometimes people are just unlucky in love. you sound lucky dont abuse it. there really isnt anything else out there that beats love, yea you will find attention and adoration but he will give you that. you might find someone who is more muscular but he can be a terrible guy. you may find someone who seems like prince charming but he really is a snake. if you have doubts dont get married. just take it easy. depending on your morals and values you could move in together first.
2007-07-26 04:40:07 · answer #6 · answered by CATWOMAN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id tell you to give it a little more time and ask yourself the same question and no you are not crazy to marry the first guy you fell for.
2007-07-26 04:37:47 · answer #7 · answered by Flipmat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firs, try to know and understand what is LOVE! Make sure he knows and understand it as well. Get counselled and don't wait until problems arrive to seek advice. Do it now and you'll find your relationship standing on solid ground. Also you'll be aware of it and acknowledge your success. Then you'll grow mentally and wisely.
Good luck!
2007-07-26 04:44:10 · answer #8 · answered by cboursiq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look if both of u love each other ,if u can live with him ,if u can see Ur life will be beautiful with him in the future ,if u have some similarity, if he can make u smile,if he will be the good father for Ur both children i the future so i think this is the true love which can be more beautiful in the future
2007-07-26 04:53:23 · answer #9 · answered by nelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, I married my first real boyfriend, why try out others if you love the one you´re with??? all my girlfriends say it´s so romantic that we have never been intimate with others...
you could always first live together without getting married if yo don´t feel ready for marriage..how old are you???
2007-07-26 04:42:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋