I've had this problem with him for years... he is constantly talking to "female friends" on the phone, it wouldn't bother me if he casually called them to say hi and catch up on things, but there's always a call or a text message.... recently, after I confronted him about his "friend" he said, "fine! I won't call her anymore" but now there's a blocked number calling him everyday, more than once with calls of about 10-15 minutes, sometimes longer than that... these blocked calls started right after I confronted him. Should I be worried... ?? this seems really shady to me... It hurts me that he spends so much time talking to someone when he can be talking to me and confiding in me and not some other girl.... help.
2007-07-26 04:32:08 · 9 answers · asked by colombiana82 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would be upset as well.......Male and female relationships are very hard to keep casual....I would look more into it to see if he might be cheating.
2007-07-26 04:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by Just me 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree. Even doctor Phil says that these kind of relationships are dangerous in married couples. If it's just a friendship then why all the sneakiness going on(blocked numbers)? And why is he spending so much time talking to these woman? Does he spend time with you and have you met any of them? Are the woman married or committed too or single? If they are single that's not cool at all.
2007-07-26 11:51:28 · answer #2 · answered by honeyb 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you are too independent for your hubby? Let's face it, he gets something from these women, attention? He solves their problems and feels more MANLY? He's getting something from them that he's not getting from you OR he really is just an insensitive jerk. Try to figure out what it could be and then see what changes YOU can make...kind of like a chain reaction. Instead of whinning at him and nagging about these calls, try to see if you can grab HIS attention and keep it so that he is less inclined to need or want the attention from the other women.
2007-07-26 12:02:11 · answer #3 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its obviously a problem, the two of you need to talk and come to an understanding....hell, I'd be annoyed if his guy friends called that much...so it wouldn't of been a girl issue for me.
Just explain, that it isn't her so much as it is that he can't talk to you.
2007-07-26 11:36:46 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same problem with my husband. he keeps talking to his ex-wife. And now he's hiding it to. But he bought a calling card to call her with, and now I can't track his call anymore. Now tell me that he has nothing to hide. He even puts his phone on silent when he is at the house. Sorry that your going through this.
2007-07-26 12:00:23 · answer #5 · answered by baylees 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be so upset! These male/female relationships are dangerous for sure. I'd ask him how HE would feel YOU had so many guy "friends" and were acting like this.
Good luck.
2007-07-26 11:57:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you must be worried..!!
i am guy i know very much about we "males"
Solution: Ask him that you will not talk with any male on fone and restrict him that he would not answer to anycall while being at home.
"Family Above All"
sIncerely;
[ r.Ahmad ]
2007-07-26 12:59:32 · answer #7 · answered by [ r.Ahmad ] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't trust him, is it worth the effort of living with and putting up with him?
you have do make choices based on your level of trust and the feelings you are experiencing.
i hope things work out.
2007-07-26 11:36:39 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL YOU TWO ARE MARRIED. YOUR RIGHT ITS NOT GOOD. ME I FELT BAD BACK THEN WE DIDN/T STOP AND THINK. I DO TALK TO MY EX GF ON EMAIL. JUST ASKED HIM HOW YOU FEEL.
2007-07-26 11:38:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋