i'm feeling....?

Question

okay i'm starting to feel real depressed in my house hold cause ever since my mom got a new job things haven't been straight lately and my parents are starting to get more and more mad at me sometimes i feel like i wanna kill my self but can't and my parents are starting to get mad at each othr to what should i do.?

and i hardly ask for anything.

and i hardly ask for anything.

and now i feel like i don't wanna do anything anymore

Answer 1

When a mom starts a new job, especially if she hasn't had one outside the home before, it can definitely cause stress to other members of the household. She's not at home all day every day to do all the chores that need to be done. She probably took the job out of necessity, so she deserves to have some help around the house. Maybe if you took on some of the responsibilities of doing some of the cleaning, it might help. Ask her what she wants you to do. She can't be expected to handle a full time job, plus all the jobs that need to get done at the house.
As far as you parents getting mad at each other, they are going to have to work it out themselves. But it sounds like maybe your dad is expecting for her to be able to do all the work she used to do as well as her paying job. If so, this is unfair and he needs to pitch in and help. If both parents work outside the home, then both parents need to cooperate with the house work.

Answer 2

I am sorry that things are changing in your household because your mom changed jobs. Sometimes its hard when things change and it takes time for new routines to develop because of it. Are you depressed because of the job or because of something you are doing which your parents are getting upset over? Sometimes parents (although wrong) will show frustrations out on their children instead of at eachother and that will cause depression. Also being a teenager is hard enough without adding more pressure. Is there anyway you can sit one of your parents down at a quiet time and discuss the way you are feeling? Your parents would want to know that you have had thoughts of hurting yourself. I being a parent would want to know. Its a normal human thought we have all experienced from time to time, but its not normal if it becomes all you think about. I would really suggest that you made an honest attempt to talk to one or both of your parents to find out what it is you can do to get help, help them out more so they are stressed out so much, and also find time to do things you like. I find also that writing in a journal will help. Its something just for you and only you. Write it in whenever you are feeling sad and try to find connections of what is taking place when these things are taking place. If the depression keeps up I would ask your parents to take you to the doctors and go in and speak privately to the doctor and ask for help from him.

Answer 3

well ur parents should be getting mad at u for a reason so i suggest u look at ur actions maybe you are doing things to upset them but other then that all you need is freinds around you to make you happy, they dont have to know your problems you could still be happy around them and talk about other things like that you get away from the things that depress you.- chill out and try to relax got meditate or better go to the mall or just have regular summer fun...

Answer 4

Okay, as a working mother I can tell you that she is not mad at you...
This happens when someone spreads themselves too thin, they get stressed and then frustrated with everyone & everything...
So, I suggest helping around the house more, make a consious effort to help her as much as you can. This will relieve some of her stress. Try cooking dinner a couple of nights a week and if you have siblings help them with their homework or get their baths...
She will notice, believe me and she will appreciate it!

Answer 5

Had the same problem...parents are seprated..and my mom just started working again. I cant really go to her and talk about my problems..I dont know why but I cant. But I couldnt hold all these problems inside any more so I started talking to my basketball coach. Try and find someone you are comfortable talking with...good luck

Answer 6

sounds like your parents are stressed about the families financial state. if your asking for a bunch of expensive stuff stop it. your only adding to there stress. when school starts talk to a teacher and go see the school counselor. and try to understand adults fight sometimes

Answer 7

I kind of have the same problem. What I do is try to be around/talk with people that make me happy as much as possible.

Answer 8

Talk to someone you trust- a teacher at school, a coach, someone at church, even a friend's parent.

It's hard growing up, and you deserve someone to listen to you.

Answer 9

tell them how you feel and explain the situation from where you are. avoid "you" statements like, "you never let me ..........". try using "i" statements like, "i feel that i am not getting enough ...........". make sure to bring this matter to them in a mature way. suicide isn't the only thing you can do. talk to someone. oh and there's phone things like kids help phone and whatnot.

hope that helped

Answer 10

don't kill yourself!!!
if u really cant live there,i would say move to ur grandmas,or some other relative,and if they live far away,tell them about whats going on,and they can come,I'm sure they will be concerned. i would say try to go to some counseling ,maybe at school.