I am in love with this guy he said he cares about me but doesn't love me. We have been in a physical relationship and have a great time together but he would not commit. he also said if i find someone else to live my life because he does not want to hold me back when he is not ready for a commitment with me or anyone (or so he said). I decided to cut off the sex and just remain friends because i felt if he is getting everything he wants from me he will not want a relationship. Can this actually work or am i wasting my time. He agreed to no sex and said he has no problems taking it slow. Does this make sence to try to reverse things after all we did sleep together and the attraction is off the hook. Also i should let you all know that we are not seeing anyone else but each other and he treats me like his girlfriend is very caring but would not verbally commit or agree to being serious. And before me he broke up with the love of his life and had been alone for five years before me (Help?
2007-07-26 04:02:14 · 13 answers · asked by Ans 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You are wasting your time. He was honest enough to let you know the relationship was a friendship with benefits. Because your feelings are involved I suggest you remove yourself from the situation completely because you will end up with a broken heart.
If that doesn't help you in your decision making just think about if you are willing to accept the following. When he is finally ready for a relationship, it is clear from your brief note that it will not be with you. I would suggest you move on. (He did) Good luck to you.
2007-07-30 14:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
did you ask him to explain it to you... why he cant tell you that he loves you ? There is a major problem as you want commitment ,a serious relationship ......id you sleep with him knowing that he wasnt looking/ready for a real relationship or did he tell you after the sex? That is important if he told you after the sex ...you might be not the 1 for him........or he still is married or 2-timing he is still available so just not that interested in you ,a guy who is really into you will move mountains .......so you seem not that happy so end it and go for a guy who will love you dont settle for anything less.......this guy is a player
2007-08-03 07:44:08 · answer #2 · answered by ajal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing to start off, you cut out the sex.. but like you said ; why have to commit if you are giving him everything he needs. hold back some you started with the sex and now keep holding something back until it gets his attention. If it was meant to be it will be and if it wasnt then it wasn't meant to be but at leaset you'll know what the answer was. good luck!
2007-08-02 14:00:36 · answer #3 · answered by jpoveda2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seem like this is a just for fun relationship, although the two of you can still be really great friends. Just be his friend and start looking at other people.
2007-08-03 11:04:43 · answer #4 · answered by crazyravysmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate, but time is valuable, if you cut him off, now you move on to find the love of your life because everyday you're getting another day older
2007-08-01 14:32:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i was u i would just be friends u don't look 4 love u let love look 4 u
2007-08-03 09:48:22 · answer #6 · answered by Ebony M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you invite something it creates confusion. Instead, keep your house in order. Fresh air arrive s when it istime for it. You cannot force it.
2007-08-03 04:28:34 · answer #7 · answered by MyWorld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please please please move on !!! you only come this way once, you deserve to b loved the way you should be loved, don't wait around for a guy who is obviously stuck in the past. release yourself of these shackles and go forth and find happiness with someone that really cares.
I am a bloke and I am telling you this man will never change
2007-08-03 09:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he do loves you but its just that he dont want to have sex as he wants to keep his virginity until marriage.
Doesnt mean we have to have sex when in love.
2007-08-03 10:27:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to your heart dear... i'm in love with a guy for more than 3 yrs... i've left my fiance for him.. got problems with my parents for him... n yet he told me we're nor goin to marry.. i accepted that coz my heart belongs to him.. i know it's near him i belong n i know he loves me too... maybe one day he'll change his mind.. who know's... so have patience... try to live each day to the fullest...
2007-08-03 03:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋