I've been called selfish (even by people I consider more selfish than me). I don't want to be thought of as selfish and I don't want to lose the small net worth I've worked so hard to earn. I can't volunteer because there's no time and no volunteer work I'd be good at. What can I do so I'm never called selfish again?
2007-07-26 03:48:12 · 11 answers · asked by Luxecashmere 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That's a wonderful question Luxe. Let me give you something that worked for me when people voted me selfish in a management seminar. That was a shock to me 'coz I never thought this could be true!! Anyways, I started introspecting from that day, and one fine day I heard this on TV from a wise saint:
Look at God's creation around you... at those trees that give you fruit and those flowers that give you colors and fragrance. Do they ever ask you if you're their friend or enemy? Whether you like them or not, they do their job of GIVING YOU UNCONDITIONALLY whatever they have. And that my friend, is called unselfishness. Give--before you receive.
The day you will be able to give your smile or support or guidance to someone 'unconditionally' ...without even thinking if he/she will return it back or not to you or not, and STILL feel happy about it from inside, that day I guarantee you will not only be an unselfish person, but you will even start to help others how they can be unselfish too!
Try it. It really works. And you will be happy you did it for yourself :)
Take care.
2007-07-26 05:22:29 · answer #1 · answered by Arian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy....Do for others what you would want done for yourself. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Selfish doesn't always have to have anything to do with money. Some people are selfish just because they are inconsiderate of other people's feelings. Try to be perceptive to other people's thoughts, needs, opinions, etc. You don't have to hand out money to be unselfish.
2007-07-26 03:52:55 · answer #2 · answered by garciajennifer@att.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more is we think for others, the less is the selfish - but so is the otherway arround ! In other word, the less we think for others, the more is the selfish !
And to give is better than to receive - sound crazy but it's true - examples on how happy is a father to see his daughter grown up even tough he spent his money for her education ! It's a proof that human is capable in loving others !
2007-07-26 06:17:31 · answer #3 · answered by Tanya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you see a horse, and the horse is brown, you might say to someone, "See, there is a brown horse". If the horse hears you, and does not like that it is brown, there is nothing the horse can do.
However, if the horse just happens to nod its' head as it passes you, you might think "What a smart horse". If the horse hears you, and does not like that you think it is smart, the horse needs only to stop nodding when it passes.
We suffer when we become attached to things. Attachment creates a longing to obtain more, which causes us greater suffering.
What actions do you take which might appear to be selfish? What behavior do you have which might appear self-centered or lacking in compassion.
Like the horse, what can you do to change these perceptions?
2007-07-26 04:01:32 · answer #4 · answered by zbjw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with the little things... the way you treat people... and as long as you let close friends and family see that you respect them and care about them, and that you think of the consequences of your words and actions, it will be pretty hard to call you selfish.
good luck!
Ps: Putting up this answer might be one of those actions: trying to do something about it. Some people don't even want to admit that they might have something that needs some work.
2007-08-02 21:49:31 · answer #5 · answered by Artist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be unselfish is the opposite of selfish which means that you are not contributing to your group you want alone and not helping others needs .\So what you will do is to share what you have cash knowlege time things .
2007-08-02 08:31:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always something you can do and be good at!!!!What about helping an older person in your neighborhood for a little each weekend?help pull weeds in their yard, bring in their groceries, walk or wash their dog for them, offer to help a young mother out by watching her little ones for an hour while she reads a book, little thing matter a lot
2007-08-01 11:12:52 · answer #7 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Selflessness is a way of thinking. But I believe that we can "act" our way into a way of thinking. Commit yourself to one selfless act a day. You have to make a conscious effort. Before long selflessness will be as natural as blinking.
Good luck!
2007-07-26 03:55:17 · answer #8 · answered by mediahoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be giving to others...don't think so much about yourself as you do about others. Place others wants and needs before your own as long as it does not cause you harm or issues.
Think of others first without forgetting yourself.
be cool...
2007-07-26 03:54:56 · answer #9 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of others or do things to help out others without thinking of what you can get out of it or how you can benefit from it.
2007-07-26 04:14:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋