↑§ "What others think of me is none of my business"......Are you affected by the opinions other have of you?

Question

Feel free to vent.

Answer 1

quite honestly i am totally affected by how people percieve me :)

Answer 2

I worry about the opinions of the people I care for, and if they are negative or unfair in anyway, that hurts me.

I don't worry about what people I don't know or care about think of me, because I know myself very well, and have the utmost respect for me aswellas my loved ones.

However, if someone I care about and respect does or says something unkind, that breaks my heart, and also shatters the illusions I've had of that person.

I believe in karma and try to treat people the way I like to be treated.

So, if I feel there's a misunderstanding or an unfair judgement that has taken place with someone I have respect for, I get out of my way to try to communicate and resolve the matter.

I am a pretty honest and straight forward person, so the people who know me never have to second guess me. I also try to handle any confrontation with class and dignity.

Hope this answers your question.

Answer 3

I used to be terribly affected by what others thought of me. I didn't understand why people had such a strong reaction to me, either really liking me or really disliking me (verging on hatred) right away. The thing that bothered me most was that only about 10% of people were in the "I like her" category, and the rest really didn't like me much at all.

I finally started to get over my worries when my best friend, who is very good at reading people, explained why it was happening. She told me that I have a very strong personality, which I already knew, but that the real issue was one of confidence. She said I come across as both confident and comfortable in my own skin, and that for some people, especially those who lack a healthy dose of self-esteem, that is akin to a mortal sin. She also told me that my intellectual side is very intimidating to some people--she said that people had actually told her they didn't like tallking with me because I made them feel stupid, not by anything that I said specifically, but simply by being me. When I finally understood what she was saying, I realized I had two options. I could either stop being who I am, and pretend to be someone I am not, or I could just not worry about it. So I chose to not worry about it.

Sometimes, I do still regret the negative emotions I evoke in people. I don't do anything actively to make them feel that way--it's just how they react. But I prefer to be myself. And more and more (and this started over ten years ago), I simply don't care. I cannot change someone's split-second assessment of me, nor do I want to. If they don't like me, and make no effort to get to know me, so be it. I like me, and my family and friends like me. That's enough for me.

Answer 4

I must admit that I am sometimes affected by unkind words. Ofcourse over the years I have learned to put them in better perspective, by considering the source, and not let them devastate me. Regardless, tho, sometimes even the words of strangers can be cutting, especially if I am in a more vulnerable state of mind. With age comes wisdom but it doesn't always work!!!!!

Answer 5

Advice I got from my big brother, and my Dad:
"Liking someone is a matter of taste, you are not responsible for anyone's lack of it"
Also:
"If someone doesn't like you, they are the ones who have the problem; they are all uncomfortable and unhappy having to deal with someone they don't like. This doesn't change your life, you still go home to people who love you; you don't have the problem"

Pretty much sums up my feelings on the subject.

Answer 6

I used to be effected by what other people thought hun, then I got rid of the then B/F, started sorting out my life and figure if people dont like me way I am, well that there problem, since I am honest and straight forward I am happy... so well who cares x

Answer 7

Not especially. Those that know the real me know where I'm coming from. Those that develop an opinion without getting to know me are only cheating themselves out of a possibly good friendship not only with me but with others as well. I know who I am and I'm content with that.

Answer 8

I do care what others think of me. I try to be nice to everyone, without compromising anything I believe in. Now and then, someone appears who just doesn't like me [or vice-versa] for whatever reason. I don't lose sleep over it, but it does hurt sometimes.

Answer 9

What ppl thought of me used to bother me more. Now I am more secure in who I am to let what others think bother me. Anyway most of the time the ones who think badly of me don't really know me and those are the type of ppl whose opinion I do not value!

Answer 10

No, I don't really care what others think of me. Not enough time in the day to waste on such trivial things. Besides if they are picking on me and my way of life, then they are leaving someone else alone.

Answer 11

No way and no need to vent. I'm the only person I answer to.