We have been married 15 years. Wow, what a sex life even with three elementary to high school kids. There is absolutely nothing I wouldn't do to fulfill my wife's every sexual desire and need.
Over the past few weeks I've asked her if she wants anything different or desires something she isn't getting. In times past this would be a simple "no".
Lately it has changed to more of a shrug and "Oh, I don't know". For the life of me I can't get it out of her.
Please don't start with the sharing or threesome answers. Never has and never will be considered. We know that.
2007-07-26 03:09:02 · 11 answers · asked by JoelMacDad 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes a fantasy is so personal and intimate that sharing it with your spouse might take away the naughtiness a little bit. She probably just hasn't decided yet if she is ready to let go of that particular fantasy. Or she might be afraid you will judge her if it's something on the taboo side. Or she might not really want it fulfilled even though it is a fantasy - some thoughts are better than the real thing.
I think it's great that you are so dedicated to fulfilling your wife's desires but don't pressure her to tell you. It sounds like you guys have a nice healthy relationship. She'll probably tell you eventually.
2007-07-26 03:15:35 · answer #1 · answered by Jbuns 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Surprise her by telling her about your sexual fantasy...or you can surprise her with a night of fun and games like buying things you've never tried like sex toys, lubricants, food, lingerie and even experiment with kinky bondage...if you've done this already and you're saying...been there done that got the t-shirt... something is probably bothering her...not about your sex life but maybe the kids or something at work... just spontaneously send her or deliver flowers to her work with a note reassuring her that you love her and that you're there for her...
2007-07-26 10:19:17 · answer #2 · answered by Space Monkey 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes there are, but my biggest one is just to have sex, period. See my husband hasn't touched me, hugged me or kissed me in over 3 years. He says he just lost his drive, and no he isn't with anyone else, he gained alot of weight and he thinks its from that but whatever the reason, he could have made it a goal to fix and hasn't and doesn't care to either. Sex is a funny thing in marriage. This is my 3rd marriage and the best sex was in the 2nd marriage. That was everyday for 6 years up to and even the day of our divorce. Go figure! Good luck with your dilemma
2007-07-26 13:02:11 · answer #3 · answered by BoosGrammy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, but that is why it is called "fantasy", I will never tell, and it will remain just a fantasy, not a reality.
You might just try to spice it up in acceptable ways that do not involve other people (or animals...oh my God) put on your thinking cap.
2007-07-26 10:12:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do have certain desires that I would never tell my spouse because it would scare him away. No, it doesn't have anything to do with children or animals!!!
If I were you I wouldn't worry about it. If your relationship is as great as you tell us, she'll eventually tell you what it is.
2007-07-26 10:14:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has fantasies, some of us choose not to share them. Some of us know our mates well enough to realize that the fantasies we have would make them uncomfortable.
I have a couple that I would never share with ANYONE, but that's okay. They make my sex life richer, yet I don't have to make my lover nervous.
2007-07-26 10:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by diva_500 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Try a little truth serum (wine) and a quiet night in and be turning her on then pose the question. Maybe you'll be able to tickle it out of her.
2007-07-26 10:58:08 · answer #7 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she won't tell you because she knows you're already ruling it out: "Please don't start with the sharing or threesome answers. Never has and never will be considered. We know that." It's possible that she has changed her mind on the subject, but since she knows you'll reject it, why bother telling you?
2007-07-26 10:14:13 · answer #8 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Try getting her so drunk to the point that she will tell you.
Only joking by the way! Haha.
Cheers!
Thistle
2007-07-26 10:17:27 · answer #9 · answered by Scottish Thistle 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
nope, i had a fantasy and i told him, already lived it.
2007-07-26 10:20:34 · answer #10 · answered by kira 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋