I dont get it and to make it worse she has cheated on me and is a comulsive liar and we were suppose to be working out our issues together one being I feel she is not faithful. There is plenty more but is it appropriate at any time for your wife to talk sex and be making out like she is organising sex and having whats supposively a good friend of the opposite sex talk to her as if he wants to have sex with her and she says things like she would love for that to happen.
2007-07-26 02:55:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And yes I do know the answer to this and I do need a kick up the A from being in denial believing her that she would change for years. The experience with her has changed me to a lesser person and I really am going to find it hard to trust again. But I am out and away from her so that is a start
2007-07-26 03:45:45 · update #1
She's playing you for an idiot! Get away from her, she has no respect for you. I'm married and under no circumstance would I think it's ok to talk dirty to a guy friend. She's cheating with whoever she's talking dirty to I can guarantee it. If she's a compulsive lier then she'll never change. Get out!!
2007-07-26 03:00:52 · answer #1 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people believe that whether they actually have sex or not, your wife is cheating on you by talking dirty with someone else. Do you?
You said yourself, she's a compulsive liar. That being the case, how can you trust anything she says? There's an old saying - where there's smoke, there's fire. And I think in this case, something's burning.
If you can't trust her, you need to decide whether or not to stay with her. If she cheated once, I could see forgiving her. But if she's doing it again (or if you even THINK she's doing it again), forgiveness shouldn't be an option. She'll never change.
2007-07-26 10:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by Christie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Are you around when she makes these gestures and talks this way? I would seriously be worried. Have you tried talking with her about this? It is totally inappropriate and not funny considering that she has cheated. I would put my foot down and demand this insanity stop. If it doesn't -come up with an ultimatum. Obviously you two are still married despite some troubling events, but you cant do all the work. Ask her if she is serious about this marriage, if she's not- (which is apparent with her flirtacious dirty sex talk) then you need to cut your losses and move on. She cant have respect for you and do this to you!!
2007-07-26 10:13:01 · answer #3 · answered by trisha b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve to be happy. Your wife has deceived you and lost your trust, and is not taking the appropriate steps to try to earn it back. She should be doing anything she can to prove her love and commitment. The fact that she is not says she does not value you or your marriage. I am sorry that you have to go through this, please understand that not all women are like this. Get some counseling for yourself, and contact an attorney. No one should have to live every day of their life wondering if their spouse is cheating again. You deserve more. Good luck to you.
2007-07-26 10:12:57 · answer #4 · answered by Smilingcheek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to move on. She is not willing to work on herself to change for your marriage. You already said she lies so where is the trust going to come from? It is never ok to talk about sex with other men she should be talking to you. I mean nice thought you want to work it out but, on the flip side dose she really want to work it out? Doesn't sound like it....sorry
2007-07-26 10:01:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just change your screen name (and real name) to "Doormat" as this is what your wife thinks you are. So long as you aer still married the best you should ever hope for is to be taken outside and dusted off once in a while.
2007-07-26 10:56:24 · answer #6 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds to be perfectly ok in her world. You seem to need some help. Why would you allow such activities in your marriage? and for things to be so far to the left, was it like this before you got married? Usually, when people behave in such a manner, it is nothing new to anyone, its who they are. Ask yourself, is this who you are. I can't imagine what you are going through. But no sweetie, nothing is right about this.
2007-07-26 10:16:16 · answer #7 · answered by Tamm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really need an answer to this or just a kick in the ass to get out of this destructive relationship?
I think you're in denial. It sounds like it's over. Sorry.
2007-07-26 09:58:24 · answer #8 · answered by Toolman 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not okay. It's very similar to cheating, and since you mentioned she's done it before, I wouldn't put it past her to do it again.
I'm glad you're trying to work things out, but she's not making it easy for either of you.
2007-07-26 09:58:09 · answer #9 · answered by xK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're married to a classy lady.
2007-07-26 10:37:23 · answer #10 · answered by smt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋