why do women tend to go off sex before men do?

Question

why is it women in a long term relationship go off sex before the men do? and is this the cause of men having affairs?

ok that was a broad assumption. it was a conversation i was having with work colleagues and it came across as that more woman went off it than men. i shall pass on your comments

ok before you all start having a go at me this comment first came from a women, and the mix of men and women in our chat is about the same. i just wondered if this was a global view.

im not trying to justify the affairs part was just a question. and im very happy in my life with my partner, i was just looking for a wider view

Answer 1

I think it has a lot to do with the growth of the relationship. Usually over time comes marriage and kids. Once you have kids, most of the time it falls on the women to take care of them and when they are small, it sucks out most of the energy, therefore leaving your sex life lacking.
If there are no children, then I can't answer that. My sex drive didn't go south until I had children. Now that they are older it has returned, but there was a 4-5 year period where I couldn't care less if I ever had sex again. I did it more as another chore. I had 2 small children that took up most of my time and energy. Now I'm back to my old self and I probably want more than he does. Go figure........

Answer 2

I don't have a answer for the first question but i don't think that its a excuse to have an affair just because your girl is not putting out. If your sex life sucks then put effort to spice it up like maybe do things she will enjoy but that you might as well, or just say i want our sex life to be better or it might make me want to go somewhere else for it and I'm gonna figure she will change or shes not worth keeping because sex between partners is suppose to be the time you guys have together to either have it kinky or just to make love, sex is a healthy part of a relationship and is definitely needed. Good luck!!

Answer 3

Well, to answer the first part of your question: I feel that women tend to lose interest in the sexual part of their relationship for several reasons:
1) Biological. Sex is, in a base sense, the means by which we reproduce. As a woman gets older, her body tends to not want to have children anymore (the ol "biological clock" begins to wind down) and therefore her craving for sex diminishes.
2) Comfort. Lots of times, women know that in order to "get her man", she may be more willing to have sex in the beginning. Then, as the relationship progresses, she may revert to her less-amorous nature.
3) Routine. In long-term relationships, both parties settle into a routine. This could include careers, kids, responsibilities, etc. When you get into a routine, you get bored, and sometimes sex is something you don't want to think about. OR, you get bored with your mate.

AND, that last part could be why men have affairs: they get bored. They get tired of "not tonight, I have a headache". Of course, anyone having an affair - male or female - needs to be mindful that deceit is hurtful and could lead to the end of a loving relationship. The boredom can be overcome by having open, honest conversation about the problems.

Answer 4

I would say that women overall are more sensitive and emotional about sex and must feel an intimate connection with their partner to enjoy sex. While men, on the other hand, find sex more of an animalistic response and are physically more demanding and driven sexually then women
. Women want intimacy and want to develop a relationship with their sexual partner. If women don't get this love need met through intimacy, they give up on the partner. Women desire what they perceive as love in a relationship to feel desire.
If women develop resentments toward their mate, it is difficult for them to desire sexual intimacy with them. Also, women's hormones and their level of tiredness play a big part with desire. It is easier for a women to get "touched out" than a man. Often all day long children are hanging on them and they are being touched constantly. Even though it isn't in a sexual way other people touch them and hug them more than men basically in daily life. While men on the other hand are not touched in their daily pursuit of activities.
So this is a complex situation, as you begin to research it.

Answer 5

Not in this house...I've been married 14 years this last time and my husband quit sex,kissing, hugging, touching of any kind exactly 3 years and 5 months ago with absolutely no valid reason. No he isn't with anyone else, yes I'm positive. Live with that. He is only 45 and I'm a few years older than him. I find it odd, I was also under the impression women lost interest before men, but here's one for the books. It is very depressing and sad for me. I wish you luck!

Answer 6

Wowie, you couldn't BE more wrong.

And for the ones who HAVE "gone offf sex" I say look in your own back yard for the answer. If your woman has "gone off sex" then take a long, hard look at yourself. Are you wooing her? Are you kind during the regular day, or do you just hop on top of her when you want some? Do you help with the cooking, cleaning, shopping, chores?

Sex for a woman starts WAY before you enter the bedroom.



The "cause" of having affairs? Don't make me laugh. There *is* no "cause" other than the man being a piece of sh!t with no morals.

Answer 7

Broad assumptions. Many women post here every day about MEN having gone off sex.

Answer 8

I have a higher sex drive than my hubby to be, I think a lot has to do with age.. But to be honest, men tend to let themselves go as they get older, I think women take more pride in their appearance, add that to the fact that men are stimulated through vision whilst women are stimulated through hearing, hence men looking at porn movies/mags but women need to be told nice things to keep us interested..

Answer 9

Yeah that is a broad assumption. My man went off of intimacy first, and then sex. Sometimes it's feeling like we're simply roommates

Answer 10

The cause of affairs is bad character. Women just get really tired of the bad sex.