I have almost all the proof I need. I will tend to the husband issue seperately. I would however like this slut behind bars.
2007-07-26 02:43:01 · 27 answers · asked by skiphop32 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You all don't know me so you would not possibly know that I didn't do anything to deserve my husband doing this to me. I am pregnant, have a 2yo, work full time and am very tired and it's hard to fulfill his needs right now. That is the reason I think he's doing this. I said I would deal with him seperately- probably after my baby is born, so I don't go into early labor or something. But I would also like this other person punished on principal. After what I am going through, it would give me a lot of satisfaction. Does that make me a bad person? I guess I am in good company then.
2007-07-26 02:57:24 · update #1
I guess I see the sense in what most of you are saying but with few exceptions most of you don't know how this feels. I would be pissed if the cops thought my situation was funny- it's not. How can you people basically say "this is life" I don't deserve this, I am not stupid and I am not responsible for any of this.
2007-07-26 03:20:15 · update #2
Yes, I think so.
2007-07-26 02:47:32 · answer #1 · answered by JP 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can't get her arrested for cheating but she can be arrested for being a prostitute...but other than a police officer catching her soliciting you can't just walk into a police station and say "Here go get her." Have you decided whether to leave or reconcile with your husband? I think you should concentrate all your energy on that and let the prostitute live her miserable exsistence.
Let me add that I know what you are going through...my husband admitted to a drunken one night stand and she was basically a prostitute, although she didn't get paid for her services, I hold no ill will towards her...I actually feel sorry for her that she is so lost in her life that she would degrade herself and pick up a drunk married man in a bar and take him into the parking lot. My husband has a lot of issues as well but I love him and I made a promise to him til death do us part. So for me the only answer is to heal our marriage (that and he is extremely remorseful for what he has done). I will be praying for you but I promise you seekin revenge on the whore will not make you feel better!
One last thing...you are absolutely right YOU DO NOT DESERVE THIS and it was not your fault!!!
2007-07-26 09:51:46 · answer #2 · answered by Notagain 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi there. I feel bad for you. I really do. Your husband should be able to go without any sex for a while, at least until the baby is born. Right now, focus on the health of your baby and just let your husband know that you know what is going on. In defense of him, we are all sexual beings. No attention at home means that one of us will be out on the prowl, whether it is internet porn, prostitutes or extra-marital affairs.
Long-term, you have to show him some attention or he will leave. All you women out there that decide once you've had a few kids , that the sex goes away should be put on notice:
Your significant other will go looking elsewhere and although he will be the one "cheating", the fact is that you cheated on your marriage by going cold.
2007-07-26 14:39:52 · answer #3 · answered by Rob M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You realize that he'd be arrested too, right? Someone can't be arrested for prostitution unless there's a person who they had sex with for money, and that person would be arrested as well.
Plus, why are you mad at her?? She probably is just a drug addict who needed some money. Your husband is the one who broke his marriage vows! I HATE when women do this. They get cheated on, and they're angry at the woman instead of the cheater. You need to redirect your anger to the appropriate person.
Not to mention... do you have any idea how many times most prostitutes have been arrested? They get arrested all the time! They're used to it! Come on - they stand around on the street and offer sex to men. The cops don't need your "proof," this isn't a mystery novel.
2007-07-26 09:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why punish her? He sought her out and PAID her to do it. Think about what her life has been like to bring her to the point of selling her body for money. I mean how low do you have to be to do that? Just letting her continue with her lifestyle is punishment enough. Throwing her in jail is not going to help her, your husband, or you. All it is doing is actually costing you more money because you have to pay the taxes to keep her there.
I would focus on that husband of yours.
But also consider, I know you won't like this, was he getting any at home? Did he have a good reason to go looking? If he didn't well, he is a complete dirtbag. If he did, don't be throwing all the blame elsewhere.
2007-07-26 09:50:24 · answer #5 · answered by mv_alva 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Just call the local police department and talk to one of the detectives. They can tell you if it is possible to get her arrested. I would be willing to bet though that there will be some implication for him too. What they did was illegal for both of them. I see where you are coming from though, and I also would want vengeance (even though that is probably not the right way to handle things). As for you handling your husband later, I would not give him a second chance. You don't deserve to be with a cheater who has has caused you this much pain...especially while you are pregnant with his child!
2007-07-26 13:07:18 · answer #6 · answered by CuitePie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The cops will laugh at you.
Seriously. They'll take the report, and be all serious, and in the car blocks away, shake their heads, saying, "What a stupid *****" About you.
Imagine you on the sidewalk doing the report on an episode of COPS. It'll be comedy. "Arrest her, she sucked off my husband!"
It's not her fault, it is typically the husband's fault. See that. Your anger is misplaced. She in fact doesn't care a dime about him, he's a john, he's 20-40 dollars, goodbye. Or if it is in Tenderloin in oh, Frisco, a few hundred.
Do you love a stack of paperwork you got to get through at work? That's how they feel about their "johns" No lie, but he thinks she loves him. She thinks of him as less than a bug, hates sex, because it reminds her of all sorts of childhood BS she took from men.
She lets him think that, she loves him, a la pretty woman, now he's a regular customer, if he divorces you, so much the better, more money for her, because of his sex addiction.
She'll string him along, make up some Pimp (her cousin, or a big dude / friend packing a gun for 100.00), that will get him out of her life, your hubby broke, but wiser. Her off to find a new mark.
I've seen it and seen it and seen it.
2007-07-26 09:53:37 · answer #7 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A prostitute rents out her body for a night for sexual pleasure to the opposite sex. If prostitution is legal in your country then you cannot get her arrested, in the other case you can get her arrested for prostitution illegally by clicking your husband and her together.
In your case I feel there is no point in arresting the prostitute. You are either no clear to your husband and if you have found out that he sleeps around, talk it with him. There is nothing wrnog that the prostitute is doing to you. Your marriage is about you and your husband and not about any prostitute or a girlfriend if he has one. Be strong to maintain the relationship of break it, life is too small to waste time in taking decisions. You will regret if you take the decision too early or too late.
Gets your facts cleared to yourself.. Who is at fault and if there is someone can you do anything about it? In this case its clearly showing that you are unable to take any action against your husband whom u are frustrated about, and if its really the case... leave it where it is. Involve urself into things you find pleasure in which obviously need not be sex like ur husband.
Regards
TheFinalMiracle
2007-07-26 09:50:20 · answer #8 · answered by TheFinalMiracle 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why are you placing your anger on the prostitute who is just doing her job? She didn't make a commitment to you, YOUR husband did. He is the one that you should be angry with. He is the one that is spending his money and his time on some woman who is going to do what she's gotta do (even if she was to be arrested - she will be out in short time) to earn her money. Your husband can always find other prostitutes to sleep around with. You need to really find out why your husband is doing this and if you decide to stay with him, he needs to figure out how he can prevent this from happening again.
2007-07-26 09:54:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone she was just making an honest living selling what is hers to sell.
Then again, if you really want to have her arrested make sure to have her customer arrested as well, it is just as illegal to buy it as it is to sell it!
BTW--she wasn't cheating, and chances are she didn't even enjoy the experience. Put the onus of blame where it belongs, then question why your husband feels a need to go to a prostitute in the first place. Perhaps his needs are not being met where they should be.
2007-07-26 09:55:34 · answer #10 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Although it is illegal to solicit sex for money, it is also illegal to purchase sex for money. When you know they are together (video tape if you can cause it will be easier) and have their location, call the police station and inform them of the situation. That way your husband will have to call you to explain what happened from jail. Tell him you will be right there and arrive with divorce papers in hand and no bail. He endangered you by getting a prostitute cause you never know what kind of crazy disease he could have brought home to you.
2007-07-26 09:53:28 · answer #11 · answered by MJ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋