and came home with a few "toys" what would you do? I did this yesterday & he was not interested. He lso started an argument with me for no appearent reason. We have bought toys before & watched porn before (twice), but now he is not interested. The thing is the other day he decided to look at nude pics on the net (boobs mainly) so I bought him the porn sort of as a joke. He is also seeming less interested in sex lately & has taken to drinking more than usual. (Usual being a few beers in the evening a few days a week.)
Is this normal? Are there some guys that just dont like that kind of thing? Can a man seriously not take the hint when a woman brings this sort of stuff home? What is that supposed to mean? He says it was nothing.
2007-07-26 02:15:26 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know and I know it's not normal. Sounds like there is definitely something going on with him. Lack of interest in sex, drinking more. Maybe he is getting depressed about something. I don't really get into the porn thing too much but if my wife did what you did I would rip her clothes off and "f" her brains out. The first thing you should do is try to sit down and talk with him, and be honest about how you feel. Let him know how much this bothers you but at the same time let him know you are concerned about him too. If you can not figure it out between the two of you consulting might be the answer. Good luck to you.
2007-07-26 02:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by IIIxKrazy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-20 05:00:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes something is bothering him. And when you mix sex with boredom and embarrassment it's difficult to predict what convoluted path things will take.
Now take this all with a grain of salt because I have no idea what you and your husband are really like.
Boredom is a problem with married men (I've been married for 26 years); you still love your wife but you miss thrill of being single.
There's an old joke -women want one man to satisfy their ever need, men what every woman to satisfy their only need. Committing to one woman is very difficult thing to do but then again men and women never fully understand the sacrifices the other party makes for them.
You two need to do something adventurous together but I'm not suggesting sex clubs and wife swapping.
Two things that have kept my wife and I together and happy. First - we have been through a lot over the years, this has generated a great deal of trust, friendship and loyalty. Second -part of our lives is separate from the other. If she wants to go white water rafting, she can. If I need to take a road trip, that's okay with her.
He gets the hint with the toys. He might be more interested in watching the movie City Slickers than porn. Ask him what does he want and let him know there will be no judgment or repercussions with his answer. Get him talking, then listen.
2007-07-26 02:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by brianjames04 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If my wife did something like that I think after the initial shock I'd pick her up and carry her to the bedroom for some playtime all night. But my wife has indicated since having kids she doesn't think anything "kinky" in bed is proper anymore.
On her computer the other night I left some links open to an online site which sells toys and lingerie with some specific outfits I would love to see her wear and some toys that were supposed to be great for women to enjoy. I left my gold card by her keyboard. She came and gave it back and told me there was no point in wasting money.
So I understand how you feel.
2007-07-26 04:16:23 · answer #4 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is not any way which you would be able to tolerate a guy that gets violent with you over porn. If it relatively is as stable because it is going to get with him then the only decision he delivers is to get out. He needs help massive time and that i does not enable him to disrespect me this type for any reason. Loving him or not does not propose which you would be able to proceed on with somebody that has those varieties of subject concerns and ever sense stable approximately your self. Sweetie those days while money is tight and your husband is spending the money on gutter rubbish i'm afraid that i may be the only to get violent here. once you may't talk with a extra physically powerful half out of worry that he could retaliate against you some thing is deeply incorrect here and he ought to easily forget approximately it. he's hooked on porn in the extra serious way and is abusing you over it. He could in basic terms could desire to look at me humorous when I delivered it up because of fact i could have 911 on the telephone and the police there in a minuet to escort him out the door. And.. he does not be allowed returned in till he have been given himself some counseling and that's the base line.
2016-10-09 10:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course there are guys that dont like everything but your guy i think has a mental block of some kind. Honest. Maybe he feels that he cant satisfy you anymore and he feels inadequate. in any case, do not give up. I have been married almost 25 years and my wife is just so hot. she has the body of someone half her age, but she can take it or leave it. if she bought me porn i wood include her happily and hope she wood also enjoy. good luck and pray.
God will give you the answer. But please don't cheat ok?
2007-07-26 03:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could depend on your attitude when you gave it to him. If he thinks you were making fun of him, he wouldn’t have taken it. Maybe he is dealing with some other issues. Try cooking a nice meal and trying to get him to talk about what is going on in his life other than sex. He could be dealing with some other stresses like job, family issues, etc, and that’s kinda what it sounds like. As a loving wife, this is your chance to be there for him when he really needs it. If he was looking at boobs on the net, he obviously can handle porn, so there’s probly something else going on.
2007-07-26 02:20:38 · answer #7 · answered by Closed for business 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he might have heavy issues on his mind, or even be depressed, especially if you have gotten things like that before and it's not been a problem.
Maybe if is concerned about his performance lately, he takes it as an indication that he is not satifisying you enough, that you have to go out and buy these things to do it for yourself.
It could be a lot of things, or it could be nothing like he said ~ if he's not opening up about it to you, there's not a lot you can do about it.
Be patient and pick a time to discuss it with him when he's in a good mood.
Fai
2007-07-26 02:22:41 · answer #8 · answered by Fai 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I dont know if it is normal. But my husband loved it when i did it for him...i gave him a big bag of "stuff" for his birthday. Videos and toys etc. He liked it so much he likes to make a trip to the "store" every now and again to add to his new "collection".
2007-07-26 02:49:06 · answer #9 · answered by Bite me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your bringing the porn home just a day after he checked some online sounds like a sarcastic response to your husband and you might have pissed him off. alternatively he could have a problem with libido from the drinking and cant talk about it. you better talk to him, since too much alcohol can cause potency problems.
2007-07-26 02:21:42 · answer #10 · answered by devitsdev 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋