We both enjoy each others company but are both in real relationships. i don't want to come in between him and his wife but we have feelings for each other, and we talk everyday. help I don't know what to do. I don't blame myself for this because he just told me he was married and I did not know it at first.
2007-07-26 02:11:27 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get out of the affair... It beings nothing but pain to all involved - you, him & his wife and............. also your girlfriend. It is filled with lies & nothing of love... you are both cheating from your own partners...
If you are that serious with each other, then break up from your girlfriend & he from his wife...
A lot of marriage which one spouse had an affair doesn't end with divorce. Sometimes, it heals the marriages so much... either way, you are the losing person in the whole thing
2007-07-26 02:21:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should blame yourself! You knew he had someone living with him and it is your neighbor! Regardless, of if you knew the facts of what was going on in his home or not, you stuck yourself in a position that you had no place in being! If you have feelings for him then leave him and his wife alone! You are in a real mess! The relationship you have with him is only on the surface! You should have enough self respect to not get into bed with someone else when you’re involved with someone already! He should have not put himself as well in a mess! When you are with someone you respect yourself and the one you are with! You do not go and prowl around for anyone else! You go to the one your with, and talk about what is going on and how to work it out! The other thing is when you’re with someone for even a month you have feelings for them, in every way! How is the one your with going to look at you? How is this person going to feel and react to what you’re doing? When you and your boyfriend are with your neighbors, do you (yourself and the neighbor) kiss and touch in front of the ones your with, or is this just one big secret to everyone but the two of you? If you did care so much about one another you would have ended things with the ones you’re with already!! So grow up and be responsible. Stop playing around with your life and the people in your life!!
2007-07-26 03:10:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So now you know. So end it. I am a wife and I know that if my husband cheated on me I would be devasted. Put yourself in her shoes please. I know how you feel about him but think about this. He is cheating on his wife and lying to her. And he lied to you and was actually cheating on you even if it was with his wife its another woman. Do you really want someone in your life thats like this. What kind of man does this. Please don't tell me you think he will change or leave his wife. To keep him would be selfish and foolish. Also does he have children with his wife? If he does think about the affect you will have on these childrens lives. They will be changed forever. You need to make him realize this too. If he doesn't have kids however you need to tell him if your mind is set on being with him to give you a call when your divorce is final. Oh and yea think of your girlfriend who trusts and loves you. She will be devasted. Your actions could change and hurt so many lives. If you stay with him now that you know you can start blaming yourself. Real men don't lye or cheat on their wives if they are real men they do whats right. You should do whats right also. How could you not know he's married if he is your neighbor?
2007-07-26 02:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are doing is really risky. Whether or not you blame yourself you have to realize that you have a girlfriend that you are sleeping with and you are sleeping with a married man. You have to be honest with your partner and let her know what you have been doing. You should break it off with the man because if he cheated with you he probably is cheating with someone else and it's not fair for him to string you along and it's not fair for his wife. Think about it from her stand point. He is probably leaving her after just having sex and sleeping with you. You should also go get yourself checked. Because when you play hardball sometimes you get burnt. Just be honest with every person involved it will be difficult it will work out for the best.
2007-07-26 02:21:23 · answer #4 · answered by TELO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have an ounce of brains, you DO know what to do. You just don't want to do it. Look, honey, this guy LIED to you. He USED you for sex. Do you REALLY not know what you need to do now? He CHEATED on his wife, a person he promised his life to. You really thing he won't do the same to you? You are right not to blame yourself, but if you are dumb enough not to give this guy a boot in the *** on his way out your door forever, then you WILL be to blame when your life is in ruins before too long. Dump the guy. Never see him again. And if he tries to bother you about it, tell his wife what happened.
2007-07-26 02:17:25 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is your NIEGHBOR......... you never saw a woman at his place i.e HIS WIFE!!! Is she a heermit and is never seen outside the home???
Maybe before you sleep with someone you should KNOW HIM a little better. You dont blame yourselve??? oh come on you are in a realationship too!!!! you didnt know you had a girlfirend??? Of 3 years??? You need some help!!!!!!!!
You should just be single.
2007-07-26 02:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by infamisstrish72 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, blame yourself for being a homewrecker the minute you messed with him after you knew he was married. It is sure easy to pass the blame.
2007-07-26 02:19:56 · answer #7 · answered by boohoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he should be ashamed of himself for not telling you about his wife,now that you know he has a wife,that should tell you that you won't ever come first with him,i just hope there is no kids involved in this,
2007-07-30 01:17:35 · answer #8 · answered by tnsupermomwhit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone. Don't think about how you feel, Think about how BOTH of your partners would feel if they knew. Think about how horrible your life would be if it blew up in your face. LEAVE IT ALONE and move on. No good can come of this.
2007-07-26 02:17:38 · answer #9 · answered by cass_muffin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing but pain and problems ever come out of situations like this. Be smart and get out of it now.
2007-07-26 02:16:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋