If your spouse no longer kissed you ~ How would you feel? What would you do?

Question

If you tell them it hurts you and they offer no change ~ is there anything you can do ?

PLEASE down at the bottom! THERE IS NOTHING WRONG with my teeth! I think they are rather lovely! That is not nice and not funny!

HE says he just doesnt like to kiss no more! BREAKS my heart! Last night I talked to my Senior Pastor about my feelings!

Answer 1

Me? I would look else where, if the spark was gone. But i can't speak for you!

Answer 2

I would feel hurt and rejected. My husband and I go through times like that. In fact, we never really kiss passionately like we use to. I miss that. I don't know if there is anything that we can do. I told my husband that I am tired of the lack of romance and sex and that if something wasn't done then I was going to leave. We sat down and had a long talk about our relationship. Come to find out he was feeling rejected too b/c I was consumed by the kids and house work and he was tired and stressed out from work. I don't necessarily suggest you threaten leaving but I don't ever want a loveless marriage.

Answer 3

Um, you're not getting kisses because your husband has bigger issues about your marriage and doesn't feel intimate or in love anymore. I'm sure you feel rejected... I'm sorry. But there must be other things wrong in your marriage besides physical intimacy.

If you are a Christian consider reading "Love and Respect". I don't normally recommend books because I never read recommended books myself, but this has been a #1 seller for 2 years now and has saved literally thousands of marriages. I'm on chapter 2 right now and a HUGE lightbulb went off in the first paragraph of chapter 1. It basically says that when a woman doesn't feel loved she acts out disrespectfully towards her husband, and when a husband feels disrespected he acts out unlovingly towards his wife. In other words... a woman needs to feel loved while a man needs to feel respected and when one isn't getting what they want they act out by not giving what the other needs and it's just one big vicious cycle.

If this is setting off any light bulbs for you I highly recommend this book. Like I said - I'm only on chapter 2 and I already feel a change in me which is already setting off a change in my husband. I'm not a religious freak or anything and this book does NOT read scripture after scripture. It just refers to the bible a few times (so far) to point out that this is what the bible is saying and it's working for thousands of marriages.

Anyways... again - it has to be more than kissing that is a problem in your marriage. I hope things start getting better one way or another.

Answer 4

You never noticed that when you were going out with him....that he is not the "touchy, feely" person like you? Yet you married him. (Gotta ask - where were you?)

Maybe he is being considerate (jungle mouth, bad-bad breath) or maybe you have it? Or a "goober" hanging from the nasal cavity?

Or it could be possible that he is respecting "your space"....and is giving it to you.

OR IT DOES NOT OCCUR TO HIM "CAUSE HE IS DAFT that, THAT is what you want.(and need).
It could be that this is gonna have to be a constant reminder thing from you do get him to do the "job"....kinda like the "brushing of teeth when you were a kid". If not reminded of it, it would not happen. Maybe during a cozy time it would be a good time to "explain to him WHAT IT MEANS to you" (but be clear yourself what it means to you)

"Guys are JOB orientated. What jobs do I need to get done today?.....is one of the first things that come to mind for him. DO, DO, DO and get it done.

Reminding won't go on forever. Once it is put on the auto pilot schedule as another daily task.

Answer 5

I've been with my baby for 8yrs. We still can't get enough of each other! We kiss all the time! I would be devistated if that stopped, as would he. I guess I would talk to him and find out why. If he's not happy or does not love me I would release him to go find happiness & do the same for myself. I just cant imagine living that way! Sorry!

Answer 6

you may need to check the dentist if you are developing bad breath, to tell you the truth maybe your mouth smells and he doent want to say. There are times when people have bad breath and they are not aware of it, so this is not anything like I am bashing you or anything. If your mouth is fine, then why all of a sudden he doesnt want to kiss you, he would have to give me a good reason, I would not just leave it there.

Answer 7

figuring your a girl, i would ask him why he isnt. if he doesnt say he would like to talk about it, put a little pressure on it. also, like alot of guys, we can sometimes think that since we have been doing it for a long time we want a little break and just want to relax

you probaly think hes cheating on you and, judging on how long you were dating before you got married, he might be, but thats not really likely unless hes been known to do it in his past relationships.

he may also have a blister in his mouth and might be embarrased or what not, so just try to coax him into tell ing you wats rong :D

Answer 8

I think that's sad, and I would feel terrible. I would also try to do everything I could do find out what's wrong and what the solution could be. Sometimes, if things don't get better, we have to do what's right for us, and not worry about what other people are going to think. I know you aren't happy, and I think you know what you are going to have to eventually do.

Answer 9

Find out why they're not kissing you. If there's no reason for it, then kiss them. Give them a passionate kiss that they just cannot resist and then say "I love kissing you" or something equally corny. It really works.

Answer 10

Hmmmm, thats a deep thought. I guess I'd be concerned as to why and try talking with them to find out the reason

Answer 11

I would get to the root of the problem, and find out why they don't kiss me. If he still refused, then I have no clue. I have never had that problem so it would be hard to answers.