does she loves me?

Question

my girlfriend says she loves me but how do i know if she realy does love me?

Answer 1

I agree with The It Girl. It probably feels good to hear her tell you that she loves you, but nothing speaks more love than actions.

Answer 2

A great dancer and the right lines do not mean love and successful marriages. Do not mix up great sex with love either. They are two distinct and separate entities. Sex is to reproduce the species only. It is not love. Love is something else. Sex can improve with real love and intimacy. If you are in lust, it is not love. If someone is bad to you, you do not want sex with them unless you are delusional and are using them too, or if you mistakingly think that a great orgasm will make the someone stay or change. If you find yourself thinking about someone100 percent of the time or close to it, he is NOT good for you. You will lose yourself in that person. If you are a giver to the partner you lust, then learn to be less available and more equality demanding. You have the right to be treated well and decently. That does not mean lavishly. It means honestly with respect. And it goes both ways.

Forget the multitude of books on men women and relating. They will mostly confuse you except the short Robert Johnson trio of books. He, She, and We.

There is a great book on the subject called Boundaries. It is a thick non-religious book on the subject, a soft cover, /Ph DO written. Don't Say Yes When You Want to Say No is another great book.

I personally have done numerous workshops, read lots of self help books, been in therapy, etc. I have done The Forum, offered by the Landmark Education Corporation. Google them. I think that their courses, starting with The Forum (3 days and one evening) can give insight into love and living successfully better than almost anything out here.

I have learned it is not what we do but rather, who we do it with.

You must find an evolved partner, one who can set boundaries with his family members and even can speak honestly of their shortcomings and how that person is working on them. Also remember: never believe what people say: Only judge people on their actions and deeds. If someone says they loves you and cheats, or doesn't want to date, but just have sex, they are either married on the cheat, or a narcissistic abuser. If someone never says they love you but treats you well, they loves you. It is all about actions. YOU want someonewho can walk equally with you and you with him, one who asks for advice, one who doesn't bottle up anger, and that goes both ways.

Make something of yourself to get your own cash. Meet new evolved people.

Also remember: no one is perfect.

Best of luck!

Answer 3

By her actions.