sorry if this offend anyone but im just trying to understand. i have only been to america once but american men. wow they are so kind to women. they do half the cook and clean jobs so nice of them !! (i think its rude to make a man do that) if a woman here ever suggest that to her husband he get angry for even saying it. why do men in america have to do feminine jobs? it is wrong !! i hope you will understand. thank you :)
2007-07-26 00:10:36 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
no women work in my country too. they still do all the housework. for example my mom, aunt, friend and those women.
2007-07-26 00:30:30 · update #1
I think your sexist to yourself, men should share "womens" jobs, because a job is a job. Maybe the American women didnt like you because your sexist.
2007-07-26 00:14:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 29⤋
Be careful before you make a statement like that. That could get you into trouble. However, I think what you should consider it from a Situationalist point of view, that the current environment we live in has significant impacts on how we behave. If one looks at through that lens, you could say that there is an immense psychological pressure (which I do believe there is) for women to behave a certain way, and this may be a fallout of that. I've personally found a lot of nice men and women in life, you gotta look in the right places. That said, you'll find jerks no matter where you go, it's just a fact of life.
2016-05-18 23:33:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't judge most or all Americans by one family you met. Americans are very diverse. Just thinking of the couples I know, they are all completely different when it comes to who does what. While it's true there are people like what you've described, in every case I'm personally aware of, the women were sick or had mental problems. In all the cases that weren't like this, the women were healthy and did more than their fair share. People tend to pitch in a do what needs to be done. Meaness goes both ways and is wrong regardless of whether it is the man or woman doing it.
2007-07-26 10:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Because here in America some men like to cook and want to help out their wives. And not all American women are mean to their men. In America both man and woman take care of the house and don't treat their women like slaves in other parts of the world like in Asia and Africa. My husband is from Saudi Arabia and he knows if he ever dared to lay a hand on me in a harmful way I would kill him or have my grandmother do it for me. My husband does not treat me like a dog and we take turns cooking. However I do take care of the house all by myself but that doesn't bother me.
2007-07-26 13:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I think modern women would rather compete with men than be loving, caring, attentive partners. I mean, where is that maternal instinct? Oh, I know. They'd rather throw it away for their stupid pride over some stupid job... over being just as "equal and independent as men."
2013-12-28 22:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm all for women's rights and I'm quite independent myself but I HAVE noticed a decline in the quality of American relationships overall.
This has always been my theory on this... what happened is women demanded to come out of the home and have more rights. They wanted to work the same jobs as men and take SOME of those responsibilities. THEN what ended up happening is after the fact women realized while they were out there working they STILL had the responsibility to keeping a home or raising children (whether they were single OR in a relationship) Slowly women accidentally made men almost obsolete in their new found independence but they still try to add men back into their lives like an accessory. (like a toy that they're not quite sure what to do with) Now there is a confusion to what a respectable man's role should be. Since women are working AND taking care of the home... which job should the man step in and do? Should he go to work and let her stay home and take care of the household/children? NO because in a woman's mind that is loss of progress, almost an INSULT. Should he tell her to go to work and he stay at home and take care of the kids and household? *gasp* NO how DARE him try to raise HER children while she's away at work and revoke HER motherly duties.
So basically what I'm saying is, I believe women have a lot of thinking to do when it comes to what "side" they want to be on. Personally I respect whatever choices women happen to make in their lives. I respect a working woman just as much as a stay at home mother because at least they've chosen. They're not trying to straddle the line.
2007-07-26 01:14:56 · answer #6 · answered by Jeanelle 2 · 9⤊ 5⤋
American women are mean to men in ways that are far more profound than asking them to do 1/2 (or more than half) of the chores around the house (remember home improvement projects).
2007-07-26 01:45:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋
I am reluctant to answer this question jasmine because it will anger the women, but i going to give my thoughts on it any ways.
See the attitude you are referring to is what i call the CHIP, and a lot of women here have the old chip on the shoulder going. It starts and is identified by the attitude....... no man better look at me wrong or treat me in any way that is bad and thus they start off with the threat of what they will do. Imagine going out with a women to get to know her and then at some point she lays the old threats onto you, as if you are to prove your not a bad guy and if you even step out of line then you will pay. it is a form of control.
now i have experienced this so i do know what it is like to hear this crap. I used to not understand or know how to act when it happens but i now do......... its called nip it in the bud right now and look else were.
See to me two who are together need to respect one another and imagine if your boyfriend or husband mad threats to you about what he will do if you step out of line...... what do you thank the women would say? for instance, one poster say if her husband ever hits her she will kill him, well what if he say that to her how do you thank she would react? ..... that is the chip and i can tell you she would go totally off on him.
To sum this up it is all about respect and a lack of it. that's my answer .
2007-07-26 14:13:36 · answer #8 · answered by just another man 3 · 8⤊ 3⤋
If you are so concerned about American man, marry one, do everything for him and make him happy! That way maybe you will feel like you are making some contribution to the world.
2007-07-26 02:45:38 · answer #9 · answered by lou 3 · 8⤊ 2⤋
American women aren't "mean" to men. American women work just as hard as American men. Most Americans (men and women) have full time jobs and children and a home to take care of. Why should the men be allowed to sit on their butts and do nothing while a woman does all the cooking, cleaning, taking care of the children, AND work a full time job? It's not fair or equal to expect women to do all the housework and share in the career responsibilities without the men helping out at home. Women and men are equal in America. There are no such things as "feminine" jobs. A job is a job and if it needs to be done, then SOMEONE (man or woman) must do it.
2007-07-26 00:22:59 · answer #10 · answered by Sabina 5 · 11⤊ 11⤋
Whatever, my husband and I both make the money and we both keep the house clean and cook and all the other household stuff. We are partners and we both enjoy this, even after 20 + years. Oh and he is an Arab, go figure that one out honey.
2007-07-26 02:54:12 · answer #11 · answered by sashali 5 · 9⤊ 4⤋