There is this couple that live accross the street from me. Every time I'm outside, I hear them yelling at each other, the guy mostly. Then you'll hear the door slam. This goes on at least 3 times a week. And when I say accross the street, I mean I live on one side of a 4 lane road. Tonight I went out to yell for my cat to come in and I heard some crying. I noticed the girl was on the front porch, and crying like when you find it hard to catch your breath. I wanted to yell accross "Are you alright". But I didn't. I know this is not my place, but what I have seen of this couple, she mostly just sits at home. I'm the type of person who doesn't like to get in other's business, but I'm also the type that wants to help others. So if I ever came accross this again, do you think I should say something, even if it is a yell accross the street asking if they are alright. I know abusive relationships(my family, mom and sister were both in one) and from what I went through with them.
2007-07-24 19:48:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
They feel like they are alone. I just don't want this girl to think she is alone. When is it alright to ask if she is ok, or is it ever?
2007-07-24 19:49:54 · update #1
I think if you have a chance just ask .....the worst they can tell you is to mind your own. But if you really think something is going on I would get in it because the next thing you might hear is the cops and somebody is hurt or worst dead. So yes do something or say something if you can. Don't get yourself hurt though .....most women don't see it when it's happening to them at that time but if they have somebody to encourage them to get out ....when they look back they'll be glad they did. You should feel good about yourself that you even care, most people don't. Good Luck!
2007-07-24 19:54:43 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ღ TravelGirl ღ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a dog take it for a walk and walk by the house. When she is sitting out side say hi and then maybe ask if it feels right. I think being across a 4 lane road and yelling "are you OK" might be a bit embarrassing for her. Knowing that you can hear what is going on all the way across the street is probably already embarrassing enough. If you think she is getting abused call the police and make a complaint tell them what you hear weekly and let them handle it. Who knows this man may be a bit crazy in the head, and turn on you. Be careful and I am glad there is some people out in this world who do look out for others.
2007-07-24 19:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds pretty bad.. How well do you know the girl? If you know her sort of, or at least know eachothers names maybe you could go over there when the guy isnt home and ask if she's okay and whats going on. And if you get the feeling theres abuse involved I would call someone, cause if she's in the position where she doesnt know what to do then you could probably really help just by making a phone call. You could even make it anonymous?
2007-07-24 19:53:52 · answer #3 · answered by Zabini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might go across the street when the husband is not at home, ask the neighbor if she is okay, and if you can help in any way. But if you do that, have some phone numbers for her; therapist or organizations that can help her if she wants to leave the abusive relationship.
2007-07-24 19:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by pattimaris1675@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should say something. Wouldn't you rather get into someones business than to walk out front some day and see the coroner across the street? I know I would but that is me.
2007-07-24 19:55:37 · answer #5 · answered by icunurse85 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to make friends with her. You can get to know each other. Talk about various fun things in your life and maybe you could talk about what went on in your mother or sisters situation. Sort of leaving the door open for her to talk about hers. Let her know that you are there to listen. Then you will have information that you can utilize to help her.
2007-07-24 19:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by Judy F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you ever see her alone crying outside her house, yeah, you should ask her if she's okay. but i think it's better if you actually walk up, and not just yell it. maybe she wants help or someone to talk to, but she doesn't know that you're willing. and i would make sure the guy isn't around, you never know if he'll get mad at her for telling you anything personal.
2007-07-24 19:57:46 · answer #7 · answered by ladyboo(: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best could be to try and befriend the woman and then talk to her and she may confess the problems if she wants to then you could offer to help her leave the situation if you wanted to, As you may find your self stuck between the couple and end up hurt
offer a hand of friendship first
2007-07-24 19:55:29 · answer #8 · answered by kevinmccleanblack 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would totally ask - you can figure out whether or not you should follow up based on her reaction. She might be crying outside in the front yard because she needs help, but doesn't know how to ask for it.
2007-07-24 19:52:18 · answer #9 · answered by s p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you do anything, it should be talk to her. calling the cops can just make it worse. the worse that can happen by asking are you alright is.. she yells f-u its none of your business. she may think its okay or she can deal or it'll change, then she needs some talking to. or maybe needs to get out but has no money or anyone to go to in that case well unless you're a saint i dunno not much then i guess.
2007-07-24 19:57:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋