Most of the time, couple fights over faults of each other, they keep giving reasons for their faults and the other partner questions his or her reasons... And after that, a big fight.
So, should we give reasons or question reasons?
Cheers
Yee Cs
2007-07-24 19:46:23 · 5 answers · asked by jACKSON 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
If we pointed out our partners' virtues and appreciated them, rather than focusing on their faults and attacking them, we wouldn't even have fights.
Reasons are irrelevant. None of us are perfect. We all have our issues. There is no such thing as a functional family. We all have our sob stories from childhood. So you just deal with it. Who cares why we are the way we are? Take responsibility for yourself and be the best you can be. If you love your partner and he/she is basically a good person then love them for who they are, accept that they will not be who they are not and make the best of it. If there are major flaws that you can not live with (some things are dealbreakers: infidelity, violence & substance abuse to name a few...) then don't complain about them, just get out! You can't force someone to change & all the fighting in the world won't solve the problem. The person has to want to change.
So, don't fight. Discuss. Love each other enough to be accepting and loving rather than attacking and blaming.
Easier said than done sometimes. Believe me I know. I can be pretty stubborn. So can my boyfriend. But we adore each other & it's very passionate. It's worth the effort. You just have to remember what it is you love about the person, even when they get on your nerves!
:)
2007-07-24 19:55:13 · answer #1 · answered by amp 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you speak
Think about the effect of what you plan to say
Not just the truth
It's so very easy to be wrong--
by being right.
2007-07-25 02:59:03 · answer #2 · answered by Phoenix Quill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps question reasons: reasons for faults are usually just the person's inability to accept their fault(s)
2007-07-25 02:53:31 · answer #3 · answered by anachronymph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Criticism is normal in any relationship, however good it is, - it is only when it is just verbal abuse that relationships fail.
2007-07-25 02:58:50 · answer #4 · answered by jenesuispasunnombre 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares ...your gonna fight anways, why make things more confusing
2007-07-25 04:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋