idk if i should tell my friend that im gay or not. i mean i trust her in not saying anything (im a closet case), but i dont no how she'll treat me. cuz she's Jehovah's witness and they believe that homosexuality is crude, vain, and disgusting (like christians......go figure). ive been friends with this girl since kindergarten and i would b mortified if our friendship ended because of the gender i love, but i also dont want to keep lying to her about it anymore. plz help!!
2007-07-24 19:38:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
First and foremost it is amazing how non Witnesses answer a question about how a Witness might react.
You have homosexual desires, are you acting on them? We dispise the sin not the sinner. Many in the first century Christian Congregation were also Liars, and Idolaters, and Homosexuals, but they chose to subdue those fleshly tendencies to pursue a Godly path. They became new people as regarded their former course (1 Cor 6:9-11)
But then again we feel the same about fornication (sex outside of marriage) of every sort (1 Cor 6:18). How have you maintained a friendship, and seen the benefits of such a course, you know that no good can come from fornication in this day and age, and "protection" is no protection. The only sure course of safety is complete abstainence in this age of rampant diseases.
I am not sure how your friend will act, but I would not be suprise me if it strains your friendship regardless of how "good" a friend she is to you, at some point she will have to choose you or God, for God does not like (nor never has) those who choose to act on the inclinations of their flesh for their own satisfaction. Those inclinations are born in the rebellion by Satan, and become manifest in those born with sin we each have our burdens to put down, to take up service to God. But I do wish you Peace, maybe you should ask your friend for a subject study on the matter, and maybe take a look at God's stand on things if only for a moment.
2007-07-25 15:43:42 · answer #1 · answered by Michael 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"Lying"?
It seems entirely possible for the questioner to both "stop lying" and also keep his sexual habits to himself. Many or most Jehovah's Witnesses have good relationships with coworkers, classmates, neighbors, and others despite the fact that these associates are persistent fornicators, idolators, and false worshippers. A Jehovah's Witness will certainly not work to learn the details of his associates' sinful lives, and it seems disrespectful to force such details upon him.
(Proverbs 26:20) Where there is no wood the fire goes out, and where there is no slanderer contention grows still.
(James 3:5-10) So, too, the tongue is a little member and yet makes great brags. Look! How little a fire it takes to set so great a woodland on fire! Well, the tongue is a fire. ...But the tongue, not one of mankind can get it tamed. An unruly injurious thing...Out of the same mouth come forth blessing and cursing.
As a religion, Jehovah's Witnesses do not choose disfellowshipped former Witnesses as close associates, but otherwise leave the matter of friends and socializing entirely up to individuals and family heads. Thus, a Witness head-of-household continues to exercise God-given authority to make certain decisions regarding the members of his (or her) household. When the head-of-household asks his children (minor or adult living at home) about their associates, it may be with a view to instructing his dependent to avoid associating with self-described homosexuals or fornicators, and it would be the responsibility of Christian dependents to obey that household rule.
(Ephesians 6:1) Children, be obedient to YOUR parents in union with the Lord
(Colossians 3:20) You children, be obedient to your parents in everything, for this is well-pleasing in the Lord.
Incidentally, Jehovah's Witnesses are Christians, and they do not believe the bible to teach that homosexuality is a worse sin than heterosexual promiscuity.
http://watchtower.org/e/20050408a/article_01.htm
2007-07-25 16:10:17 · answer #2 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What kind of friendship do the 2 of u have?
i.e. do u lie to each other?
(obviously I don't mean in this matter,
we already know the answer.)
You knew she is a Witness..? right.
How she responds?, how will someone else, know.
Friends are FAR & FEW between,
real, loving, caring, trustworthy, loyal, akin to each other.
We wouldn't 'chose' to lose such a friend/ship;
but the facts remain; its on ur mind.
It is your choice.You don't have to put urself out there like that to her. It's none of her business, u think?
The same said for her; its her own Bible trained conscience,
that will affect her = to your news. Yes, news; its news to her,
if she doesn't already know.
She will be quite sad/ upset..? most likely.
I think you already know her well,
what do you think? u know her not us.
Again, it is ur choice.
If she is not able; her conscience won't allow,
for u 2 to be such close friends, will you accept that ? ;
being that u are her friend as well.....
Would you ask a friend to ignore the principle & disipline
by which she guides herself through this life?
To go against the word of her God.
If that were the case?
2007-07-25 15:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm not sure. If she is an *extremely* good/close friend and you value your friendship a lot, then I would withhold your secret from her, at least for a while, y'know? Test the waters. Tell her that Town X is trying to get a Civil Union/Domestic Partnership bill passed, and gauge her reaction to that news, but tell her when y'all are alone-ish, so she doesn't feel pressured to say what her family would want her to say or what fellow witnesses would expect her to say, y'know?
After you test the waters and observe her reaction, then and *only* then will you know whether or not telling her is such a good idea. I mean, we're talking about people who literally KNOCK ON RANDOM PEOPLE'S DOORS IN AN EFFORT TO CONVERT THEM AT 6 IN THE MORNING, MAN!!! You really need to walk on eggshells around her regarding this issue. If she's a true friend, she'll accept you and won't let her religion cloud her mind, but I wouldn't say anything to her yet, y'know? Maybe in a year or so, but not now...
Say, how old are y'all, anyway? Age has a major impact on how open someone will be to new ideas, and how much of an effect one's family has on that person.
2007-07-24 19:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I'm thinkin I agree with answer #1 above. U don't gotta lie to her, just don't say nothin. And if the conversation ever goes that way, do somethin to change it. She will probably only figure u aint interested in her.
A lotta religions don't like gay, but I don't hold much with any religions cuz I think they were created by men, not by god. And I have yet to see anything real where god says he don't like gays just as much as everyone else. But then u can't change other people's minds, so it's best to stay a closet gay for now.
2007-07-24 19:47:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Not if you want to keep her for a friend. Either she will conclude that you are hopelessly sinful and shun you, or she will work full time to convert you. Neither is going to do your friendship any good.
You say you are in the closet. Keep the door closed. You don't have to lie to her; just don't say anything about sex. She's not supposed to be thinking about it anyway, is she?
2007-07-24 19:41:25 · answer #6 · answered by auntb93 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Honesty is the only way to go.
As long as you are not practicing it, you'll still have her as a friend. No promise here. Each person reacts differently.
2007-07-26 12:25:29 · answer #7 · answered by My2Cents 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why not she will understand it your chose maybe she can give you some insight on some things. I don't think she'll stop talk or be your friend.
2007-07-25 14:26:47 · answer #8 · answered by lydia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one, honey.
I'd say tell her. I mean, she's gonna find out eventually. It's better to tell her now "Hey, I'm gay." than to wait and tell her ten years from now "Hey, this is my boyfriend, James." Or worse... she could accidentally find out on her own...
Chances are, she'll tell you that she doesn't agree with it, but that you guys are friends and she'll support you regardless.
2007-07-24 19:45:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
No, she'll only throw stones at you and scream BLASPHEAMER! I would never have befriended someone part of such a narrow minded cult as that anyway, but that's just me. You may go ahead and press the thumbs down button now, it'll make me happy :)
2007-07-24 19:56:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋