Im from Russia, married american man, lived with him for about 9 month, recently we had a big fight and i left for 2 days, then he came saying that he sorry and everything, but i already decide to go back to Russia, because im tired of fighting and conflicts also i need go back to school and in Russia I can get me a good job, which is already waiting for me. But since we made up things was good between us and i dont know what i wanna do. My mama keep sayin that i gotta go back to school get me a job be a sucsessful person, and my husband tellin me that he gonna give me everything in the world i just need to wait a litle bit. so im confused which way i gotta go: love or money. Need advice, plz!!!
2007-07-24 17:22:19 · 21 answers · asked by innusya26 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You've already made your decision. You know what you want. You're homesick. Go back home to your family, school, career and future. There you have everything waiting for you. Here you have nothing but a man you constantly argue and fight with. Your marriage is a failure. It won't last. Return to the people who love you. Return to your support network. There's nothing more for you here.
2007-07-24 17:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Husband and family should come first, parents and career can come next. However in your case it is better to go back to school in russia and take up your career, u don't have to depend on the man who only promises to give u everything in the world, later. He may not keep his promises and u will be left in the ditch.
2007-07-25 00:33:19 · answer #2 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NEVER depend on a man to "give you everything you will ever need"!!!! That is just a line.
Go back to school, get your career started, then seek out a serious relationship where YOU can support yourself and not depend on a man... Your Mamma is right!
Apparently, you are looking for someone that is going to agree with you... Why even ask a question that is this important if you do not take the advice seriously.
2007-07-25 00:26:08 · answer #3 · answered by LyndasCa 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The only person you can rely on in this life is yourself. This is America and marriages don't always last. If that happens to you, you will have to rely on yourself. So whatever your plan is, it has to include bettering yourself. You have to get your husband to agree to let you go to school here (School is around the corner right now, attend community college or something). It goes beyond job skills, it is self esteem.
The only people who will give you love and "things" unconditionally are your parents --- that's blood.
2007-07-25 00:52:21 · answer #4 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is it that you are confused about. you are now married to your husband, not your parents. GROW UP and act as such.
You are no longer in Russia and if life was so great over there you would not have come over here and much less got married to an American. stuck it up go to school here (america), get a good job here (america) be successful here (america). What you and your husband are going through is called MARRIAGE, LIFE. you and your husband are no different from the next newlyweds but the difference is your committment to your husband and marriage is not there. its with your mother. LIVE YOUR LIFE your mother has lived hers with all due respect. GodBless
2007-07-25 00:31:04 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The priority between Husbands and Parents is definitly HUSBANDS!! And that between Family and Career is definitly Family!!
But then you shoudl not dump the lower priority one like Parents and Career - each has its own meaning and value in life!!
2007-07-25 01:56:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre in a hard place right now, but you really should go back home if youve been having problems for a while. problems wont go away but if you dont have any children, and in your heart you want to go back home, then you should.If he loves you, he will follow you there.If you are already having doubts honey,then most likely,if you stay you will eventually leave,but in a worse situation.You should put yourself first and get your education.You will never forgive yourself if you dont,and if you stay and settle,you will resent him for it later. good luck, my prayers are with you.
2007-07-25 00:35:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can find a hundreds of man, not my family, and i need a career for my own..and dont need to depend to anyone. to have a better future and spend my own money. but if you think you can really sacrifice all these things just for love, then think hundred times. good luck
2007-07-25 03:15:16 · answer #8 · answered by pink_blossom 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never Break your family otherwise you will repent in old age.Minor issues can always be settled, a well balanced family with good relations with immidiate kins is alwaayws good.
2007-07-25 06:07:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As per my point of view husband & parents both are important in life but as per your above family feedback i give my opinion that you choose your parents first because they introduce yourself in world & they do not want any returns from you. you also built up your career it will help you in future for confidence
Thanks
2007-07-25 07:53:29 · answer #10 · answered by shailendra s 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋