anyone in a relationship that are swingers or just open...? if so does it work for ur marriage? and y? or have

Question

u tried it and it ruined what u had and ur not together anymore?what happend?

Answer 1

Never tried it, but we talked about it and the idea was exciting. Problem is finding the right partners, and jealousies could get in the way. I guess it could go either way with the marriage, it could either be an exciting extra or it could become the straw that breaks the camel's back... Didn't wanna risk it. Think we'll just keep the ideas for bedroom tease talk and not actually do anything about it. Call me chicken and cover me in yellow feathers if you want!

Answer 2

We've been swingers for 4 years. We've been together 9 and married 7, and there is no end in sight to our relationship. :-) We are deeply in love with each other, just like we were when we were just dating.

But, and this is the big but: we were very happy when we started swinging and swinging was simply an extension of our great sex life together. It was exploring our sexual fantasies together. We did not get into swinging to "fix" or "spice-up" our relationship or use it as replacement sex. It's additional sex and that's it.

In our experience from the past four years we've been in the lifestyle, ever instance of swinging ruining a relationship really had very little to do with swinging, it was just the last thing a couple did before they got divorced so it was easy to blame it for their problems they created.

These are the couples that already have one foot in divorce court when they start swinging, and they use is as a last ditch effort to fix or spice-up their failing relationship. It doesn't work because the relationship is failing because of them, not because of any specific activity. Having sex with others doesn't fix their own personal issues that are killing the marriage, it only gives them one more thing to hate each other over.

The others you see it cause problems with are those where one person in the relationship wants to swing and the other doesn't - and you'd be surprised, over 1/3 of the time it's the wife. When a person gets coerced, manipulated or convinced against their will to do anything, they usually end-up resenting the other person for it.

Luckily, you can usually identify those couples that fit the above scenarios pretty easily when you meet them. There just isn't the closeness you see with couples that have strong and great relationships.

So in short, swinging won't fix a bad relationship, but done by the right people in a good relationship and done for the right reasons it certainly won't hurt it.

Answer 3

Hold onto your chair. I had a bisexual girlfriend who used to bring her friends over and we would have rockin 3-somes. Then she would get jealous and we would get into a fight. I knew she ran around with guys behind my back but I accepted the fact that she was sexually very active. She caught me cheating on her one time and that led to another big fight. She is a red hot Latina. Beautiful too. I was madly in love with her and things were going great, despite the drama. Then I found out she was married. For 12 years, even, and still lived with her husband. She had always told me she lived with her mother and son (7). That led to our biggest fight and I said some things I regret. I still love her but I had to break it off since I don't want to see a married woman like that. That was more of an open relationship then I ever want to have again...

Answer 4

my fiance and i have been together for 6 years. we swing occassionally, and are very open. the main thing is that no matter what we do, we don't do it alone. we are in this together and we have fun together. it's a great experience if you have the right type of relationship. it doesn't work for some people, and for some people it does. my fiance and i are both very open, honest and communicative with one another. we respect each others boundaries as well. for us personally, it's something we do together. it's never had a negative impact on my relationship. if anything, my fiance and i are even more affectionate toward each other and we appreciate each other so much more. what we have with each other cannot compare to anything else. so, it works for us!

Answer 5

my lady and myself have been together many years and we are swingers , we are very very happy , because we have been able to seperate the sex from the emotional parts of our relationship .... when we play(with others) we have sex... and its great , when we have sex with each other ... we make love ... with our bodies and our minds and hearts and thats even better , we are totally open about our sex lives with each other and get great enjoyment out of it .... no need to "do it" behind each others back at all.... so that takes 80% of the fights out of our relationship and thats a good thing ..... now if we could just fix it so that we had a little more money ... then we would be perfect

Answer 6

may not work for some but is fine for us. there are limits and rules set and we both agree on them. you really have to have a strong relationship to do this. it can cause hard feelings. make sure you both understand that if you try and one or both of you cant handle it , you will stop. its not anything to ruin your relationship over. its just supposed to add a little spice to it. becareful who you choose. it can ruin a friednship and you could catch something from a stranger you dont want.

Answer 7

have in the past. no issues she just wants to be down for a bit. could happen again. casual sex

Answer 8

i am single that god for that saw many a good marrage end on less . in my honest opion?

Answer 9

From what I've read on here.....it always ends up in a diaster.