2007-07-24 16:56:46 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i have already told my parents
2007-07-24 16:58:39 · update #1
I am so glad that you told your parents I hope they understood. I hope your mom helps you or whoever you trust with your baby to help you is fine as well! Good luck God bless you
2007-07-24 19:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by Boyish jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't really read what other people have told you. But the first step is the best step and you've already didi this. You've told your parents. Even though their reaction couldn't be what you hoped for I'm pretty sure it wasn't what you feared it would be.
Now what you do is up to you. Age has nothing to do with being a parent. In some cultures women are married by your age. So don't dwell on age. It's about responsiblity and commitment. It is a lot and i mean a lot of work 24-7 7 days a week 12 months a year. It never stops and being a mommy never quits. There are no breaks. But the rewards make up for the hardships. Trust me. I'm 26 and have a 11 month old. The way you think now will change when you have one.
A child will change your life, yes. But DO NOT try and compare other children to what yours could or will be like. It's what you mold them to be.
If you decide to have it and aren't ready you have options. There are open adoptions. Um maybe your parents will take gaurdianship. Im not for abortions. I wasnt ready for my daughter but I was ready to have unprotected sex. So I made my bed and I laid in it. Or how ever that works. But there are options and that may be one for you. But you have to really dig deep inside yourself and ask you what are you ready for. Can you sacrifice your life for another? Cause untill this baby is in school that is what the first couple years feel like. If you decide to keep it and go through this. You are not alone. You can email me any time and ask questions or just talk if you are scared
2007-07-25 00:15:52 · answer #2 · answered by tracy l 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you parents going to help you..?
You need to finish high school and go to college. Take your GED and/or go to night school if you have to .. You can also go to college online and get almost all the degrees you need.
You need to start working part time to help pay for the baby. Before and after the baby is born.
You need to get on WIC, to help buy formula and other food for the baby and you.
When you start working you need to open a bank account and start saving money. So when you move out you will have a good amount in the bank to start.
If you are not sure about what to do with a baby you can also start parenting classes. A good health department will have some or will know where to go.
Good Luck, Don't give up, this is not the end of the world. you are not the first to be 16 and pregnant and you will not be the last..
2007-07-25 00:04:11 · answer #3 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be time to decide what you wish to do. If it helps, I don't believe in abortion. It will be more difficult, but well worth it to have your baby. You could even adopt out, but the best thing is to raise the child that you created. I would start by getting an Obgyn and getting my appts. set up. I would then buy (or get from the library) every book I can find about being pregnant, having a baby, or anything at all that has to do with raising babies (this is what I did the first time and I learned so much that it made the delivery much easier as I understood what was going on and why). If your parents will help support you great, if not, get a job quick as diapers are super expensive. (You can't work around chemicals or lift anything heavy). Talk to the father to see what he wants to do. (Be involved or not) Talk to him about providing support for the baby or giving up his rights as those are his only two choices. Save any money you can because you will need them to buy the baby things. Make a list of everything you need and where you can get it from. (ex. crib, clothes, baby tub, etc. and I can get it from aunt so and so or my other friend who had a baby so long ago) Free things are great! And talk to your doctor about the right things to eat and take your prenatal vitamins!!
2007-07-25 00:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by jade2311 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to advice and opinions people have to offer,but always make your own decision.I could be here all night talking to you about this,but let me just tell you a few things.I also got pregnant at 16 and I now have a beautiful,smart 14 year old daughter.I was in highschool at the time I got pregnant-I was in 11th grade.It was very scary,my parents were supportive overall,but of course gave me the silent treatment my whole pregnancy.There were a couple other girls also pregnant in my grade,so I wasn't alone.This was back in 1992,so times definately have changed since then.She was born the first week of my senior year.I took 2 months off,and had a private tutor during that time so that I wouldn't have to drop out of school.The school payed for this.I graduated with commendation.Then I got married to her father a month after I graduated (stupid decision) I basically did it because his family was really religious,and at that age I thought it was the best thing to do.I then had another baby at 18.Got divorced at 21.Dad was supportive we ended up having joint custody,he's always been in their life.Which has been helpful.It was really tough being a single mom working full time-I knew I needed to make more money for myself and the kids.I went through nursing school financially by myself-between working and getting loans I made it.I graduated when I was 26.It was the best thing I could ever of done.I'm remarried now and I'm preg. with my 5th baby.I guess all I can tell you is if your'e a strong person you will get through this.Take all the help and support you can get.Stay in school if you can-or you regret it later on.It will be hard but you can do it?Take everything day by day,one step at a time,keep your head up.You have the option of abortion,of course.That wasn't my choice.If the baby's father is not supportive,you always have your family and friends,councelors ect.that can help you through this.Always remember the baby's father is responsible too!!It takes two to tango.He needs to be there for you and be financially responsible.I wish you the best.Don't make any harsh decisions think this through.I feel for you honey!!!
2007-07-25 00:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by sarafort 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im 20 just had my baby last month, my fiance stood by me the whole time, since it was a planned pregnancy. Since your so young dont depend on the father, you need help from your parents. If your parents arnt willing to help you and you want to keep your baby, go to a shelter. Theres shelters for pregnant women that help you get your feet back on the ground. They will give you food, clothes, shelter, help you finish h.s, get a career, get on section 8. I know girls that are now Rn after being in a shelter. Dont think that your life is over. You can still have your fun, you just need to plan around your baby. I have had an abortion once before and it was a mistake, you could only imagine the guilt and depression.
2007-07-25 00:04:09 · answer #6 · answered by lovesugarkisses 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I definitely think you should have the baby. Either keep it and raise it or give it up for adoption to a couple who cannot conceive a child of their own. This baby is a blessing, no matter what anyone says. I was 17 when I had my daughter, who is now 9. She is the best thing that ever happened to me even though I didn't think so when I found out I was pregnant. Things work out eventually, you just have to get through the tough stuff. Make a good decision for this baby. He or she didn't do anything wrong and they deserve a good life. Good luck and please e-mail me if you would like to.
2007-07-25 00:03:10 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has your mother advised you on what to do? My mother always told me and my little sister too. Just go to your doctor, eat healthy, stay away from alcohol, smoking, drugs, etc.. Read on books and get advice from your parents and his parents. Prepare for the baby, buy stuff, save up money in case you need it for emergency. Make sure to go to the doctor when scheduled to and any question you might have ask. Always take your vitamins. Take a parenting class along with the father of the baby your expecting.
2007-07-25 00:03:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what ever u do dont murder the baby by getting an abortion please!!!!i think its just sick and wrong any1 would do that but my friend just found out she is pregnant and she is17 so i think u should do what she is doing stay in school if not for u do it for the baby be sure if u know the father get all his infermation so he will pay child support and if u cant take care of the baby put it up for adoption and make surre it goes to a good home
2007-07-25 00:12:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Decide what your plans are for the future and see how you will make that work with a baby...I had my first at 13,she will 18 next mth..life will not be easy if you decide to keep....my child and I both rode the same bus...my senior year of high school,she ws starting kindegarten...I can look back and laugh...but life will not be easy,but it can be rewarding. Keep your head up, stay strong and stay healthy....! Ohhh,and after you have this one GET ON BIRTH CONTROL! After my first I had another 3 yrs later!
2007-07-25 00:05:03 · answer #10 · answered by Heather S 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋