tonight i found out that my husband went looking on myspace and looked up his ex girlfriends. i know he wouldnt cheat but i was just confused as to why he would. any thoughts?
2007-07-24 16:56:40 · 29 answers · asked by MADDYSMOMMY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it's an ego thing, he wants to know if if they would still want him.
2007-07-24 17:00:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be so happy that he did that!
Seriously, he just found out out what really went on their lives and can no longer wonder about what could have been if he had stayed together with any one of them. Men always think about women, and if he knows that so-and-so has five kids and weighs 200 hundred pounds, he will be able to appreciate you even more than he already does.
If you trust him not to cheat on you, you really shouldn't play around with the computer. He can easily find out that you were on looking up his activity online and he may feel that he has no privacy, or that you violated his trust....
Let this one go. Move on.
2007-07-25 00:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by momfirst101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How ex? That makes a difference, IMO. If they are very recent, I'd be worried. If they are from the very distant past...sometimes we just wonder what roads or paths those that were once important to us took. You know, like did the guy you have a crush on in Jr, High go onto big things or is he sitting on death row? LOL You get the idea.
If they were very recent ones, I'd definitely ask HIM why he felt the need to do it. He may say something like, "I heard she weighed 1,000lbs now and wanted to see for myself." Or something 100% innocent along those lines.
2007-07-25 00:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by 8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, something is going on with your husband. Please do not ignore this. Sit with him have a nice calm talk. Maybe over a glass of wine or going for a walk. Ask him this, honey I love you. I feel uncomfortable with you looking up your ex girlfriends. I know you had a history before me. That was then this is now. Men are simple creatures. Three things make them happy. Approval, appreciation, affection. Are all of these needs being met?
2007-07-25 00:07:42 · answer #4 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is a natural thing to wonder what people from our past are "up to" now. Especially if there was any kind of connection. I wouldn't worry about it. I've searched for friends I haven't talked to in over 15 years, just to see what they are doing now, where they live, if they're married, ya know just things you wonder about sometimes. In fact a lot of people I haven't thought about in forever have searched for me and added me too. Really I think it is just curiosity. If he starts to talk to them and such, then I might start to worry, but just to look, I don't think I would be concerned.
2007-07-25 00:09:32 · answer #5 · answered by caseylynn0218 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a mans perspective i can understand him doing this. I myself have often wondered where a past lover was and what they were doing with there life. For some men I am sure they would like to see that their past lovers are failing in life while others would like to see that they are succeeding and happy as they are. I wouldnt read to much into it really!
2007-07-25 00:18:01 · answer #6 · answered by mioutdoorsman74 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who hasn't done that? I wouldn't worry too much about it unless maybe he is communicating with one or more of them in an inappropriate way.
I have done this before merely out of curiousity. I have no intention of looking them up. I guess it is to find our where they are and maybe what their lives have turned out to be. Sometimes you wonder what your life would have been like if you had stayed together and that sorta answers that question.
2007-07-25 00:05:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never think that he will not cheat. If he is looking its because he is interested in finding something. Confront him now and get the truth, if nothing is happening then fine, he knows you are aware and will not do it again, but if he is thinking something, then knowing that you know will make him think twice before he does it again.
2007-07-25 00:07:12 · answer #8 · answered by Proud Mama of 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about it if you go looking for something you start with names you know and work from there ..... same as myspace/youtube... you see if anyone you know has a blog or web page ...maybe a friend told him that it was on there and he was curious as to what it said .... maybe to see how much b.s. it contained ....if your going to make a federal case out of it .... ask him.... seems to me you have already started to sneak anyway
2007-07-25 00:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about it at all. Really. Haven't you ever been curious as to what happened to your exs?? He probably thought 'oh dear... I could have ended up with THAT..' :-) and had a good laugh. If he wants to establish contact, then you have a problem.
2007-07-25 00:16:55 · answer #10 · answered by Aussie mum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's searching for something and that may not be a good thing for u or your husband. have a heart to heart talk with him without any judgment and ask him why he's doing this. tell him it make u feel insecure when he searching for his ex-girlfriends on line
2007-07-25 00:09:33 · answer #11 · answered by JOJO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋