just married and bought a house. does a man have to pay alimony if both are finanicaly stable and have no kids? who gets the house? i make more, does that matter?
2007-07-24 16:31:09 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would think alimony only comes into play when a standard of living is compromised upon separation. If you are both stable and doing ok I don't see where alimony will be an issue. As far as the house goes, in many cases there is a buy out if one person prefers to keep the house over someone else. One of my colleagues gets a check each month from her ex because he decided to keep the house so she spends that money getting her old family's house put together nicely.
2007-07-24 16:34:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess the honeymoon is over?
It all depends on what state you live as to what sort of "benefits" you would get if divorced. Alimony has nothing to do with children, that would be child support. Typically speaking, even if both partners are financially stable, if one of the partners earns more income and the lack of the partner's income would drastically change the way of life for the other partner, then a judge will grant alimony. Typically speaking. And it also doesn't mean the MAN has to pay. If the WOMAN makes more, she also can be charged to pay alimony.
However, in many cases where one partner is receiving alimony, the partner who is PAYING the alimony still tends to feel like they have control over the other party, so you could find yourself in a big pickle. I'd say if you are really heading that direction (The big "D"), just forgo alimony and move on with your life. Sell the house, split the money, and move on, no strings attached.
2007-07-24 23:37:55 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Raven 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as the house either one of you can buy the other out or you have to sell it and split the profit from the house OR one of you can just give the other the house. As far as alimony if you are both stable and OK no one should get it. It all depends on the other party, if in the married years you "carried" him then it may be likely that he will ask for it or VS. And its really not called alimony its called maintenance, but if either of you can live the "lifestyle" after the marriage as if in the marriage no need for it.
2007-07-24 23:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't been married long enough for alimony. As far as the house, if you bought it together-you are both entitled to it. If you can't agree, a judge will likely force it to be sold and the money split between you (after the money owed on the house is paid in full). Sorry and good luck.
2007-07-25 13:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by stacilynn26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just got married and bought a house and you are already thinking about paying alimony and how the house will be split.
One, no alimony if you just got married
two, the house will be sold and you both either make money on it or you loose money on it. All debt down the middle.
She was not a housewife..
Have you two considered marriage theraphy first before making such a big step?
2007-07-25 01:09:57 · answer #5 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 to 7 years is the general rule of thumb for alimony. HOWEVER!!!!! If you're both working and making pretty much the same money, then y ou'll end up splitting the assets and debt. Don't wait, do it NOW.
Don't get petty. If she wants the house let her have it, just make sure you get 1/2 the value or the downpayment in return. I've been divorced 2 times (I really am a jerk and I know it) but the longer you let this linger, the harder it is to do, and the more you end up hating each other.
DO IT NOW. DON'T WAIT.
2007-07-24 23:38:32 · answer #6 · answered by Sarge1572 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alimony is not guaranteed. It can be petitioned for but not likely to be approved if both parties can support themselves. Child support is almost always established, but that's not an issue for you.
Wow. How long did you give this marriage? Three months? Already checking on your options to get out? Next time, think things over before you make the committment of marriage and a house. Maybe, you should no be married to anyone, ever.
2007-07-24 23:35:26 · answer #7 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are BOTH financially stable and you make more than he does, they why would you want alimony?!?!?!?! It appears that you are being greedy and want to hurt the guy in his pocket for whatever it is that he did.... Unbelievable.
Usually alimony is for a wife that stayed at home and did not work throughout the marriage.
As for the house, you both have to fight that one out through lawyers and court.
2007-07-24 23:44:33 · answer #8 · answered by LyndasCa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Your already asking the question. If you divorced after not being married long and no children you would sell the house and split any profit. But this soon would not be much. The same applies to alimony if a short term marriage. None. My question to you is why did you ask that question?
2007-07-24 23:45:51 · answer #9 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just married and now thinking about alimony???? How bad was the honeymoon?
Typically, alimony is awarded if:
one spouse had significantly larger income - i.e., to keep the other one in the lifestyle they became accustomed to...
one spouse (usually the wife) was married for a long time (20+ years) and had no real "skills" to get a job to support herself.
If you are worried about this, you might want to consider getting a "post-nup" if you didn't get a "pre-nup". It might be able to protect you.
You can always get a consultation from an attorney in your area.
2007-07-24 23:37:30 · answer #10 · answered by Wendy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋