Question for Men?

Question

What makes or constitutes a real man/perfect gentleman?

Answer 1

It's hard to say, especially when the notion denotes different things to different people. Some ladies may think they have found their perfect gentleman if he happens to be wealthy and handsome, others may look for exceptional intelligence and a touch of class, still others may seek companionship and patience, etc. But like the soothing touch of a gentle sea breeze you would only know it when you actually encounter it.

Answer 2

Concerning 'gentleman', That's like asking "What makes a man hot?" Only the female, or gay individual, can answer that question trully since it's a womans idea and a matter of a woman's opinion. (Which is why it was asked by a woman)

What consitutes a 'real man' is also opinionated and a false idea. That's like asking, "What makes a person a true of a particular race?" The answer is they are all physically that particular race, regardless of how they act, believe etc. Likewise, all people with family jewels are men, regardless of how they act, believe, etc.

The idea of a 'real man' is one with the preconception that all men are the same or should be a certain way, which is the same kind of stereotypes many believe about particular races.

Therefore, you are a man if you are one physically, not mentally, socially, or any other criteria.

Answer 3

There are many definitions of the word man, both technical and metaphorical. The technical term for a man is a male member of the genus Homo and especially of the species Homo sapiens. But the technical term is not what actually portrays the “man”.
Being a man is not about being “manly” in the case of being big, strong, and tough. It is more about the actions one takes to prove he is a man. It is not a matter of age; it has to do with maturity and the presence intelligence. A man has respect for himself and those around him. He expresses himself in a highly manner. To be a man you must be responsible and think highly of yourself. To become a man you must go through a lot of blood, sweat, and tears.
All men were born males and made themselves into men. They worked for it. It does not come easy. You must earn the title of a man. Going hunting, camping, fishing, drinking, etc. does not make you a man. Men may do all these things but it does not define them and who they are. What defines them is how hard they work at it and how much dedication is put into the matter.
Today men are seen in a variety of forms. Everyone has their own opinion. Today’s ideal man is very different from the ideal gentlemen forty some odd years ago. a gentleman is made not born.

Answer 4

Accept that evolution is a viable force and you have to conclude that what we are (as men) is exactly what is most attractive to women. Through natural selection it is obvious that our lack of perfect "gentlemeness" is the end result of that process -not something that women really prioritized. Based on the state of the current average "man", it would appear that women want a partner that doesn't change his underwear for weeks, sees very little wrong with farting, can can into an intense debate about superheros and can only cry at a Rocky movie.

Men, on the other and I believe have done quite well at their natural slection task. We obviously prize manners, consideration, etc.- all the "niceities" that epitomizes the average women. Also breast sizes have increased dramatically over the past 300, 000 years. Way to go men!!!!

Answer 5

Oh boy! no one may have the answer to this one, but this question for sure brought to surface all the flies!:O)

A perfect man relies on his own. He does empower otheres and he would be able to detect whats ahead and act accordingly. He will act, not react. He will let others be and be fine with it.
He loves, but does not possess or controls.
He would show on the surface tranquility while hiding his demons.
He would take off his shirt for someone else.
He would complement a woman and not ask anything back.
He would take joy in his children and be at peace when death comes for him!

thas what a gentleman is!

Answer 6

A real man who is a perfect gentleman is a man who knows the difference between single malt and blended.

Answer 7

A man will be man whatever he is, he will have the characteristics of a man biologically. To call a man a perfect gentleman, maybe the likings of Jesus Christ will consitute it.

Answer 8

A gentleman is unlikely to be a real man... a real man is he who is strong, courageous, forthright and no nonsense guy.... these qualities seem to contradict our ideas about a 'gentleman' who is likely to be polite, considerate, supporting and patient..... I suppose the two need to mesh into one man to make him perfect..... very unlikely but not impossible.

Answer 9

I was told once that the Military makes men. I discovered that the Military makes soldiers and boys make men.

I suppose you're seeking a list of qualifiers to being a man. So I might suggest:

To be a man is to live by whatever means in a truthful state with ourselves and especially others. Do not practice deception against yourself, face your weakness and overcome it or accept it. Do not lie to others because this shows not only weakness, but gives them power over you. Always keep your word.

Support yourself before seeking to support others. You can't help others if you can't help yourself.

Maintain your physical health with cardio at least. Endurance is often more important than strength, especially in sexual matters.

Do not surrender your power to things such as cigarettes, alcohol, drugs or sexual appetites. When you become dependent on one of these, it will consume your strength if not your spirit.

Face your challenges as they come and when you find yourself afraid work with every ounce of your being to overcome it.

Apologies are contracts to not repeat the behavior. If you do apologize insure that is what you mean by it. If you do not, then do not bother apologizing.

Learn compassion rather than kindness. A compassionate person faces others with the hopes that they will grow into their own power.

Live a life of action rather than passivity. Don't wait for things to happen, make them happen. Beware contentment.

If you create a problem, own it, resolve it, do not be fearful to ask for assistance if you lack imagination/knowledge, but do not presume that the problem is someone else's once they help. If it is a problem that is a matter of desire rather than necessity, leave it to come back in time if you must.

Face challenges and problems without placing blame as your first response, but fix the problem. Assessing blame is for children and those who are culpable in creating the problem.

Avoid quitting on yourself when it means giving up on seeking personal success.

Learn how to use tools the correct way, don't just act like you know what you're doing. Work to become proficient at least in some area of worldly maintenance.

Keep your name good and do not abuse it by borrowing money that you don't truly need.

Keep your finances close and money in the bank as many associate it with the strength of a man.

Don't try to live like your parents as soon as you leave home. It took them YEARS to get there. Be frugal.

If you seek to enter a relationship with another, always keep in mind that they are built around sharing a common goal and both working towards that together.

Answer 10

all men who actually exist are real men
and by the very nature of said man, there is no such thing as a perfect gentleman.