would you continue to love and cherish them?? Would you still be attracted to him/her??
2007-07-24 15:51:57 · 23 answers · asked by Alisha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Without a doubt. Unconditional love does not change with weight.
2007-07-24 15:55:30 · answer #1 · answered by Lizzie A 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
After I had my 6th child, I started gaining weight. I hired a personal trainer, worked out 3-4 times a week, ate under 1200 calories and was still gaining weight. After keeping a doctor ordered journal, and undergoing many tests, I was found to have a pretty much kaput thyroid. My body does not digest food. I was starving to death yet getting really big! After getting my medication straightened out, I have been losing weight normally.
I am so grateful my husband loved and cherished me throughout the whole ordeal. Had he not, I probably would have left him and ate until I died of severe obesity. Instead, I am enjoying my life and keeping active in many different things.
I feel very sorry for the spouses of the ones here that answered no to this question. So much for unconditional love.
2007-07-25 03:02:54 · answer #2 · answered by califdreamer_2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should still love and Cherish them! That is the person you gave your life to, the person in which you have promised everything. And on some level, yes you should still be attracted to them. However, that is indeed a lot of weight. You should talk to them about it. Because not only is it unappealing, but unhealthy. Let the other person know that you love them, and you would hate to see them let themselves go. Let them know that when they are they way they have become they are no longer themselves, as well as putting their own health at risk. In doing so, creating a harder life for both people. In times like this it often helps to diet with them, buy the right foods and eat the same thing, and same amount together. In addition to some exercise together. Such as going on bike rides, runs, and ever simply walking together. Not only will it help the weight, but bring you closer as a couple.
Good luck, Have faith
2007-07-24 22:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by April D 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If my wife was to gain 100 lbs. I would most certainly continue to love, cherish and respect her. However, I would probably advice her that she should go and get checked out by a doctor as this much weight gain for a woman her size would not be healthy, and there must be something happening to make her put this much weight on. Something either physically or emotionally.
2007-07-24 22:58:55 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes I would, I would show them that I loved and cherished them by helping them lose weight, it's not healthy to be too heavy, and I would certainly encourage them for the sake of their health to lose the weight they don't need to carry, it puts strain on the heart and organs.
2007-07-25 11:48:42 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No (shudder, shudder...).
If someone has a serious medical problem, that's one thing. But, then again, there are countries on this earth where people also have medical problems and they don't gain 100 pounds (only here in the US, obesity is used as a medical issue).
It's really a matter of self-respect and respect for the other person. You can't always please your spouse all the time. But letting oneself go and not taking care of oneself is a way of passive-aggressive behavior towards the spouse.
Even during pregnancy, it's possible to control one's weight. Because only what a person eats ends up as fat on their body. A little self control is not a bad thing.
Yes, yes. I know. I'll get a few thumbs down for this. But really...100 pounds??? Come on. That's way too much to ask for. Then it's time to say I love you, but I'm not IN love with you.
2007-07-24 23:01:24 · answer #6 · answered by Nina 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I would not stop loving my spouse due to overweight. I would have concerns about the weight gain and see if she would be open to an exercise and diet program.
2007-07-24 23:27:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course i would love him. I would help them lose the weight, by making a diet plan with him, AND DO ANYTHING I COULD TO HELP HIM. You don't fall out of love with someone just becouse they gain a little weight. You marry for better or worse.
2007-07-24 23:07:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would still love him!!!! However, I would also see if he would agree to start going to a gym, or walking with me. Maybe he's just bored with life, and NEEDS you to encourage him to be more active. Sex is a good way to lose weight, and stay away from those buffets! Spend more time with him--not in front of the TV or computer. Go shopping, sight-seeing, anything together to be out and moving.
2007-07-24 22:58:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely! My husband gained 85 pounds after we got married. We still had a great sex life and we never even talked about his weight gain. I loved him for who he was, for better or for worse. He later lost the weight and is thinner now than he was when we first me 16 years ago.
2007-07-24 22:56:14 · answer #10 · answered by Colleen G 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I would still love him but I wouldn't be attracted to him. And I wouldn't let him get to that point in the first place. It's not that hard to cook healthy meals and choose healthier substitutes for foods you like.
2007-07-25 01:03:56 · answer #11 · answered by Ukrgrl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋