Poll: Do you think marriage is pointless or a good idea? Does it seem people constantly get divorced?

Answer 1

Marriage is a failed institution. Don't get me wrong i am married and probably will be for the rest of my life. However my wife and I are not the norm.

With the way people are today it's all about instant gratification. I see it, i want it, i get it, I get bored with it, I throw it away. That's how the majority of people in this world seems to operate. You can see it in almost every facet of life today, on the road, in the stores, heck even here on answers.
And honestly that very mindset is exactly opposite of what marriage is all about, and dooms them to fail right from the start.

The very concept of marriage was concieved based on the mate for life ideal which up till recent years worked very well, but society has changed. We've changed in very bad ways, all the old values of family, honesty, hard work are gone and marriage seems to have been the first of many casualties.

Answer 2

People are getting married way too young, and divorce as become way too easy.

When you get married to the right person, your soul mate, whatever you call it and the both of you realize that marriages just don't work you have work on and for them everyday then it can be a wonderful thing.

People today just think, well, it's not working out, I'll just go get a divorce and just like that they have done it. It's more like a highschool relationship breaking up. The values and the institution of marriage just isn't taken seriously like it used to be and I think that is so sad.

And, for whoever said humans weren't meant to mate for life... maybe not but the only things we are here to do on this earth is to eat, reproduce, and die. Those are the facts, over the years we have adapted and learned how to make the years that we are here on earth a little more enjoyable with a mate.
So to answer your question... no marriage is not pointless,

Answer 3

Well, I am married , but I feel that society has let marriage lose its true meaning. To me - marriage is an everlasting bond between two people, who are committed to sharing their lives together no matter what, but now and days it seems people just get married to get married. If someone fully understands the responsibilities and commitment of marriage I think its a good idea, but if not the consider it pointless.

It does seem that people are constantly getting divorce's, what ever happened to " until death do us part" ?

Answer 4

Marriage is a good idea, in my humble opinion. The reason people are constantly getting divorced is because divorce has become as common today as ever. Its too easy for one partner to just split when things get rough and I mean finances, relationship squabbles, etc. not physical abuse. I had a friend whos mom wanted to divorce his dad many years ago. Before she could do it she had to "present" her case to her church before she could divorce him. Today its a few $$, sign your name and its final...and what God hath brought together, the almighty dollar bill and stupidity put asunder. I know for a fact that most marriages fail for one reason, lack of communication. Quickie divorces started in the 70's, thank Gloria Steinum, and believe you me every mother that got "stuck" raising her children alone wish that movement would have just gone by the wayside.
Marriage is the union of a man and a woman that are willing to put forth an equal or greater effort to make it work...together, its too bad that in most marriages one of the partners feels the responsibility only relies on the other.

Answer 5

if you are willing to put up with the same person for the rest of your life without judging them constantly and accepting them for who they are without trying to change them, then yes marriage is a good idea. Many people just decide to live with each other for the rest of their life though, which is the same thing as being married. Some people feel "held down" once that piece of paper is signed. You have to remember hat marriage does not mean perfect....we are suppose to get mad sometimes and agrue about things...if we didn't something would be wrong

Answer 6

Marriage can be good with the right person. It seems that so many are in today's world compared to 60's and 70's. I honestly don't think some people today are ready for marriage. To much cheating, lying, and just plain not wanting to work on it. To many other things in the world they want besides happiness with a family.

Answer 7

People constantly get divorced because they put their own wants before the needs of the marriage. If you believe divorce is an option, you might use it

Answer 8

If you are willing to and mature enough to realise that a marriage is a work in progress from the day you marry until the day you die, then marriage is for you.
I love my husband, we have been through hell and back in our relationship over the nearly 2 decades that we've known each other and been together. We are still together. We fight (argue, disagree, etc) and make up. We agree to disagree. We have worked together to stay together. If either one of us quits working, if either one of us gives up, we both lose because the marriage will fall apart. Neither one of us wants that to happen - so we both work, together.

Marriage is not pointless to the people who are mature enough to know they have to work hard together, and are willing to do it.
Divorce is only an option to those who quit, those who "give up" and mostly for those who just aren't mature enough to know a real marriage takes real, hard work - from both partners.

**none of this includes domestic violence and/or abusive relationships of any kind, in any way.

Answer 9

Marriage is only as good as what you put in it. I truly believe in marriage but I've been divorced already because we never put the effort into fixing our issues that seem to cause the constant conflict. I would love to try again because pouring you heart and soul into someone that "gets you" is priceless.

Answer 10

I'm married and LOVE my marriage. I love being with a person who loves me as much as I love him. I'm all for it and support anyone who gets married and can stay married. That is commitment.