What can I do to become more interested in people?

Question

I'm a very nice guy, yet I find it so hard to make friends that I can hang out with. I have no problem with meeting people at work or school.

Is it just that whenever I get to know someone on a more personal level, like exchanging phone numbers or phone, and after chatting with said person for awhile, that person becomes annoying to me.

What's wrong with me?

Answer 1

Daniel, there is nothing wrong with YOU...most folks are one tune sambas when it comes to conversing. The BEST, and I do mean The BEST thing you can do for yourself is to get a very famous relationship book and read it.
Then read it again.
And again.

Dale Carnegie wrote
" How to win Friends and Influence People".
It is fabulous and KEY to making a dent in letting others know who you are, and who you CAN be, simply by perfecting your own communication skills.....

Here is a Googled synopsis of the content:

Part One
Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

1. Don't criticize, condemn or complain.
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.

Part Two
Six ways to make people like you

1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
2. Smile.
3. Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
6. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.

Part Three
Win people to your way of thinking

1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
2. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."
3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
4. Begin in a friendly way.
5. Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.
6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
8. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
9. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
10. Appeal to the nobler motives.
11. Dramatize your ideas.
12. Throw down a challenge.

Part Four
Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment
A leader's job often includes changing your people's attitudes and behavior. Some suggestions to accomplish this:

1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. Let the other person save face.
6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be "hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise."
7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

I wish you well in all things, and know that success in every form is in your hands, whether you are 17 or 77.
NOW...... GO make a Difference!

Answer 2

be a friend..
join an active group of people your own age with similar interests or learn something new
volunteer to help others not of your age
hobbies.... and share them..teach others
tell them not to call all hours of the night,too
you will need some rest after all this activity

Answer 3

Maybe your too close-minded and get annoyed when the person your getting to know keeps bringing up the same stuff.