Ladies that have cheated on your husband, what drove you to cheat and with whom?

Question

Also, did you surprise yourself that you did it, and did you regret it?

Answer 1

Yes, lack of attention and affection, feeling lonely all of the time and being treated like sh*t. It didn't really surprise me that it happened. It was an ex boyfriend and an ex friend of my husband. Regrets.......no

Answer 2

Women cheat when they are neglected/rejected at home. When they feel as if they are unloved, unwanted, undesired. And along comes someone who makes them feel desirable, wanted - even loved. Women don't cheat for the sex - women cheat for the love and affection. It's a replacement for what they are no longer getting at home - whether it's a marriage or just living together.
First she's talking with someone as a friend, then an emotional bond is created - this can often take months - once that bond and trust are there, it's so easy for her to fall into an affair. An affair for a woman is a whole new relationship. One to replace what she should have at home, but doesn't.
It doesn't make it right - cheating is wrong no matter the "reason" you use as an excuse. I've been cheated on many times, and I cheated once. All the times I was cheated on, I was always told it was just sex. The one time I cheated, my heart was involved.
Cheating on someone hurts you as well as the one you cheat. The guilt can eat away at you, sending you into depression. I never thought I'd be the type to cheat - not after being cheated on so many times. But a person can only take being rejected and neglected so many times.
No regrets - life is far too short. Take it as a lesson learned and move on ... and never repeat your mistakes.

Answer 3

Women cheat because they are bored, lonely, not getting any affection from their man.
I cheated once on my ex husband. I couldnt believe I did it. I really couldnt. It just wasnt like me. I was a stay at home mother, involved in so much in the school and the community.....but I was depressed. Suicidal even. The cheating was so out of character....It made me take a long hard look at my life, at myself......it made me go to counselling....get help....and the end result was divorce.
Did I regret cheating? Of course. And never again would I cheat on someone. So I dont believe in the "once a cheater, always a cheater"adage.

Answer 4

I have cheated on ex's in the past but, I have never cheated on my husband, however; I have been considering it. I am always by myself, even when were are together it still feels like I am alone. We don't talk, we don't really have sex anymore (I guess lack of interest on his part), we don't go out because he is always at work, with his buddies or intoxicated. It is hard to stay faithful when you have someone that is showing interest in you, when you feel like you are constently being rejected by your spouse. And to make the situation even more confusing I told my husband about my most recent offer fromone of his friends and the only thing he could say was "I guess if you don't won't to wait another month to be with me(sexually) then go be with him." starting to make it easy to do it and not feel guilty. But I guess every situation is different. Hope this helped.

Answer 5

Most women cheat for different reasons than men. A lot of men cheat simply because the opportunity was there. A lot of men who cheat say that they have a happy marriage and they never would leave.

Women on the other hand aren't usually looking for sex when they cheat. They are usually lonely and not having their needs met in their marriage. The affair begins simply with a friendship leading to an emotional connection leading to sex.

Answer 6

During the course of my second marriage, I had many opportunities to cheat however, it was never even a thought even though it was a terrible marriage and he did cheat.

I am remarried and would never, ever give up what I have to cheat. I have no desire and could not imagine being with anyone but my hubby.

Answer 7

I have never cheated on my husband. A part of me would like to though because I want to even the score. I don't think I would feel guilty either. Ever since he cheated on me I don't feel for him any more. He has tried to convince me that he made a huge mistake and that it would never happen again. I still could care less. I want to even the score. I've asked for a divorce and he said he wouldn't let me have one so if I cheat then I cheat.

Answer 8

I personally have never been in this situation in 17 years of my marriage, but some friends of mine have been. So, here are the reasons they have listed while sharing their stories:
- sexual boredom in their own relationship,
- emotional abandonment,
- broken trust,
- feeling of being unattractive ( getting older ).
These were never serious relationships: they were reported as flings. Therefore, their partners were strangers. I have to make it clear that none of it was ever planned ahead of time. Surprisingly, it resulted in actual improvements to their own marriages in some cases ( sexually speaking anyway ). Still I would imagine that this entire experience would leave a bitter taste in their mouth, but I can't be sure about that...

Answer 9

I have not cheated on him, but not because i think it's wrong to do this to him or to take advantage of his trust in me. I have not cheated because i couldn't live with myself if i did it, because in the end, the only one you cheat on is yourself.
Had many chances, but the feeling you get when you say "no, thanks, i got a man who loves me at home" (even if only you believe it at the moment) beats cheating any time.

Answer 10

Women do cheat, I have not, ever. I have thought about it when I was mad b/c I wanted to be spiteful but doing it would only degrade myself and ruin any future I have with my husband. I have been cheated on many times, not by my hubby, and it hurts like crazy. I would never want to inflict that kind of pain on someone I love or have ever loved. Sorry.

Answer 11

Are you kidding? You must be waiting for someone to cheat on her husband with you. Totally sillyquestion. Stop reading the GQ already!