i have a 13 year old daughter and she just had sex. what should i do?

Answer 1

Well I would take her to get birth control pills because she wont stop having sex because you tell her to. Also explain to her about std's and pregnancy even though she may not want to hear it some of it will get through. Her doctor will help you with this its important that she is educated well about this. Shes already active so she needs to know the risk before its to late.

Answer 2

Wow 13!!! You need to explain to her how dangerous that s!! Tell the risks of getting pregnant and the didseases you can get. But dont be mean about tell her you wanna have a mother daughter talk. After you explain all the risks you should also explain what sex really is and why people do it. Tell her its when you love someone alot its not just for fun and tell her shes not ready. And if by then she still hasnt changed her mind then I think you should by birth control because when shes not with you she could have sex and she need alot of protection.Hopefully she figure out that shes not ready and stop. She also should talk to her boyfreind and tell him its not just for fun its a responsibilty and its dagerous.Also take her to aa doctor and make sure everythings regular! The best of luck to ya!!

Answer 3

First, I would ask her why. She may have ventured into this b/c of peer pressure. Tell her if the guy really cares for her, he would not pressure her to have sex. Explain to her that she should treasure her body as if it is a temple filled with diamonds or such. Make her realize that she doesn't want to become known as the girl who gives it up easy. Let her know that boys only want what they can get and he'll be looking for the next hot train passing by. Do not lecture her, but talk to her as a friend. Remain calm b/c girls do stupid things for stupid boys. Next explain to her that she is venturing into adult activities that requires a great responsibility. Give her the day after pill if intercourse was within hours. Take her to the dr. and get her on the pill asap. Explain to her that she should want to be a child as long as she can because once you're an adult there's no turning back. I had this talk three years ago with my now 14 yr old virgin.

Answer 4

Most of the other advice you've received is good and I'm sure you'll ignore the comment from the few nuts cases out there.

Taking her to see a doctor is important.

One thing no one has mentioned.

Save the clothing she was wearing, don't wash it and find out who that boy was.

If he's more than 3 years older than she is, and a 3 year age difference is the law in most states, have that boy prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law.

Very few 13 year old boys even know how.

Its probably some boy much older.

Pastor Art

Answer 5

DUDE! My mom would whoop my @$$, umm okay well, don't put her on birth control, I always see birth control as a easy-n-go pass in a way, yeah sure I'll give my daughter birth control then she'll stop doing it, nu-uh, I see it as a way for her to be able to go out and have more sex without you knowing it, and I'm sure you don't want this happening again. What I would do is talk with her VERY firmly(or yell at her) and let her know your the mom and she's the teen, no if's and's or but's and what you say GOES not matter what!!

Answer 6

Ask her why she made the choice to have sex at a young age? If i was you i would be feeling bad because it looks like something went wrong somewhere.. and she wasnt told everything. Im not trying to be mean or anything but i mean 13 and now having sex its right its way to young. You could have a grandchild on you're hands if she isnt carefully which a lot of young girls arent these days.

i forgot to put..
take her to the doctor
get her on birthcontrol and
get her tested for anything and everything

Answer 7

how did you find out? Did she tell you or did you walk in on them? OK the first thing is you should ground her. Don`t let her by with it. See if her period is late and if it is take her to get a pregnancy test. If it is possative talk to her about her choices. Let her keep it or give it up for adoption. If she chooses to keep it then let her know you are not going to do all of the work for her. And that she will have to get up during the night and not go out with friends. And tell the boy that he is gonna have to stay with her and if he dont then he WILL pay childsupport. But I hope she isn`t pregnant. Best of luck and I hope I helped.

Answer 8

Wow! well first of all you need to sit down with her and talk to her about the responsabilities of having sex at such an early age explain to her about the STD's, getting pregnant so young but most of all get to know her friends and where she is all the time, she will not stop having sex if you tell her to do so but at least you talk to her about all this risks and responsabilities...

Answer 9

u should beat her butt and then ask question later there is no way a 13 year old girl should be haven sex where were you
this is what bad parenting is unless you were working where is her father sorry but you dont want to be like me 14 year old haven a baby now that is really sad what have America come to

Answer 10

Wow, every mom's worst nightmare. Well now is the time to get her on birth control STAT, even if she says she won't have sex again. You also need to explain to her about condoms, STDs, AIDS, and the emotional impact that having sex has. Explain to her that just because she did it once doesn't mean she has to do it again. Be supportive however, not angry. She's more apt to come to you and talk to you more openly then.