Do you think Jeffery Dahmers parents were the cause of his behavior?
2007-07-24 12:26:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I have to comment, because I am a parent, with the laws that exist today it is very difficult to physically disipline your children. It is called child abuse. So when parents talk to their children and it doesn't work because they refuse to listen to reason, what is left to do? My son has always been good and we have never had to deal with problem behavior with him, he is now 19, my daughter is 16 and she just gives us hell. We raised them the same way and in the same household. Neither child was permitted to run the streets and we did our best to instill strong morals. My daughter just has a wild side and my son is more down to earth and calm. I'm not saying some parents neglect and don't care, I'm saying that it is not the case in every situation. If I told my child it is wrong to steal and that child steals, why should I be held responsible for it? Isn't that teaching our children to blame others for their mistakes and teaching them they don't have to suffer consequences?
2007-07-24 13:30:27 · update #1
I mean just blame mom and dad, but what happens when they reach adulthood and the real world smacks them in the face because mommy and daddy aren't to blame anymore and they are held accountable for their own actions?
2007-07-24 13:36:59 · update #2
This was a dumb question! People have been brainwashed, anyone who has a teenager understands, anyone who doesn't have fun talking out of your @ss.
2007-07-24 15:29:21 · update #3
My husband and I were just discussing this. I do believe behavior begins at home with rules and consequences. The thing is, parents are human. There is no way in the world parents can control their childs every move. I think people who blame parents for everything are people who have never been real parents. Yes discipline and love start at home but dang. Just because I didn't tuck you in one night or beat you when you misbehaved, it's my fault when you steal a car? Lets be real about that.
2007-07-24 12:51:24 · answer #1 · answered by Alexandria 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion in society today everyone thinks parents should be able to control there children! But heres the kicker! Parents can only raise there children with the right morals and values the rest is up to to the child! And a parent cant always be where there teenager young adult is at all times! So who knows!
2007-07-24 19:36:14 · answer #2 · answered by Mom of three beautiful kids. 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you don't have to use physical discipline to discipline a child.
parents are usually the reason for a child's bad behavior, because every time you ignore them, let a tantrum pass, or let them play that violent MA rated video game, they start to think its alright to do such.
its almost like training a dog.
you can train the dog to be an attack dog, a dog who doesn't bite, or a dog who doesn't even bark, but whatever it turns out to be, it turns out that way because of the trainer.
the child is born not knowing what is right and what is wrong, and what you let them do or not to do will influence what they think is right and wrong.
you cant always blame the parents though.
its not wholly their fault, its also the environment around them.
but the reason parents get blamed is because they are supposed to teach their kid right and wrong and give them principles.
2007-07-24 21:41:50 · answer #3 · answered by (Linzee18) 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People blame the parents because it's often their fault. They raise them without ethics, morals, standards and so on. Children need role models to look up to. Jeffrey Dahmer is a very extremist example and I don't know anything about him - maybe his parents did contribute. Certainly, Henry Lee Lucas' mother did in his case.
Edit: Maybe you shouldn't get so defensive and abusive when you don't like people's answers. Are they a little too close to home?
2007-07-24 19:47:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is really the people in the child's atmosphere who influences their behavior (nurture). Parents get the hit because majority of a child's early upbringing is influenced by them. School is the next big influence. Children's initial behavior (nature) interact and mold to their environment.
2007-07-24 19:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by DMR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because parents raise the children and are supposed to be teaching them to behave a certain way
2007-07-25 01:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by Chef Smalls 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That man was crazy from the start. Some parents beat their children, rape them and even kill them. Sometimes its the parents fault but sometimes its the kid they are just a bad egg from the start.
2007-07-24 19:35:21 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
in most cases it is the parents fault. lack of boundaries and discipline. if parents were more active in their kids lives and didnt let the run wild you would have fewer people in prison and less teen pregnancy
2007-07-24 19:32:09 · answer #8 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes. Many of my family members are psychologists.....problem children are ALWAYS a result of problem parents.
2007-07-24 19:43:54 · answer #9 · answered by KJ 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have no idea...
sorry
2007-07-24 19:32:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋