Nymphomania? SERIOUS answers only?

Question

Ok this is gross but here it goes. I was sexually abused when I was younger which made me uninterested in ALL sex. At 19 I "lost my virginity"(I consider him to be my first) to my bf and best friend after we dated for almost two years. I loved having sex with him and sexual relations but I ONLY got those feelings for him. Now I am 21 and I recently started masturbaiting A LOT (every day) and constantly thinking about having sex with strangers etc. I am scared I might become promiscious/ a nympho. I seem to never get satisfied even though I have multiple orgasms. Is this a sign of a problem or what?

Answer 1

Promiscuity and nymphomania are VERY different things, and frankly, I'm not sure that either is really pathological on its own. If you're concerned that your sudden sexual interest may be continued fallout from your childhood sexual abuse, I encourage you to see a therapist (preferrably an AASECT certified sex therapist who will be specially trained in dealing with both sexual trauma and healthy sexual expression).

However, this may simply be a normal (though delayed) expression of sexuality. Many women who don't have a history of sexual trauma have sexual fantasies involving strangers or even rape (despite the fact that these are fantasies which may never see any actual behavioral expression). There might not be anything problematic about what you're going through, except that if it bothers you it IS a problem. If it helps, when most people initially become sexually active, it's common to experience an explosion of sexual fantasy and desire, and to feel insatiable.

This is probably something that would merit discussion with an open-minded therapist, however. And avoid hypnotherapists who want to pursue regression therapy- this can be Very dangerous.

Answer 2

I agree with what the one responder said about when you first become sexually active. I'm 27 and just became sexually active in November and I didn't really have much interest in sex either until my best friend came along. He made me feel so at ease and I, to this day (we dated for awhile, but now we're just best friends again), only want to have sex with him and in fact, he's the only person I have had sex with. But, ever since I became sexually active, my desire has gone through the roof. If you still feel like you're being affected by the sexual abuse, then you definitely need to see a therapist and deal with it. The person who abused you has already taken so much from you and there's no need for him to keep taking from you.

Answer 3

I think if you are constantly masturbating and not feeling satisfied then yes, it could be a problem.